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post #61 of 291
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Originally Posted by birdhappy85 View Post

 

I'd say that's a good response! I would've retreated, cried in secret, and taken a blow to my self-esteem if someone said that to me as a kid. The fact that your daughter responded back with what I'd say is rather assertive for a 10-year-old says to me that she is a pretty strong kid. Is she upset after-the-fact or still doing well with it?

 

You are right. I am realizing that I need to step way back... I am letting my past cause me to worry about something that is not that big of a deal to my dd. When she told me that, it was very matter of fact. After she said it, she laughed and said, "Can you believe she got so upset over *that*??" Clearly, dd was not devastated. At her age, I never would have told my mom if someone was mean to me. I'd have been too embarrassed... I'd have thought it was another example of my complete failure as a kid. I'm going to try to chill and not get so involved until/ if it starts bothering her. Though I can already tell she won't be having any sleepovers anytime soon... she doesn't see it, but the other girls seem to be taking some time off from her right now. I guess it's a good thing that she can't tell?? My dh thinks I should explain it to her, but I'm not so sure. She had me invite a girl over this weekend, and I knew they would make up an excuse even before I did it. I emailed anyway. Blah.

 

And, I'm still going on! I'm sorry!! I think this stuff is just bringing up issues from my childhood. You'd think they'd be resolved after 20 years, right? Ha. Plus, now I'm sure that when I'm around the other moms they are thinking I'm an awful mom. You know, because my kid has issues. Sigh. Oh well, they're pretty bitchy anyway. Probably saying, "Well, you can see why. Can you believe she had her when she was 21!? And, the parents are divorced. Did you know they rent!?" Sadly, I'm not kidding. nut.gif

post #62 of 291
Enoch's third tooth (his top left ) just popped in a tad!
post #63 of 291

Ash - Yay!  Glad Bettie is doing well (except your sad FB post of her yesterday crying).  :)

 

Jill - I agree with the others, if it smells fine it's okay.  Milk can be out of the fridge for a while and still be considered okay.

 

Amanda - It really does sound like our kids have similar personalites.  Only somehow Cyan has a few friends.  Mostly girls though.

 

AFM:  It looks like my dog is going to give birth today.  Her temp has dropped (a sign of labor starting) and she tore up her bedding last night (puppy pads, so it's okay).  I'm totally fascinated with birth, it doesn't seem to matter what animal it is.  ;)

 

On a separate note.  I have been dealing with tingling feet for the last couple of months, so I went to a neurologist this week.  It turns out that one of the major nerves that runs down both of my legs don't work at all.  Now I have to go get a spinal MRI and some blood work tomorrow.  The DR said that it's most likely a congenital spine defect that I've had my whole life.  Basically the nerves in my legs function like an 80yo.  Lucky me, I might have to live with my feet falling asleep and tingling for the rest of my life.  At least it probably isn't MS. 


Edited by Abraisme - 5/4/12 at 9:01am
post #64 of 291
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Originally Posted by TalkToMeNow View Post

 

You are right. I am realizing that I need to step way back... I am letting my past cause me to worry about something that is not that big of a deal to my dd. When she told me that, it was very matter of fact. After she said it, she laughed and said, "Can you believe she got so upset over *that*??" Clearly, dd was not devastated. At her age, I never would have told my mom if someone was mean to me. I'd have been too embarrassed... I'd have thought it was another example of my complete failure as a kid. I'm going to try to chill and not get so involved until/ if it starts bothering her. Though I can already tell she won't be having any sleepovers anytime soon... she doesn't see it, but the other girls seem to be taking some time off from her right now. I guess it's a good thing that she can't tell?? My dh thinks I should explain it to her, but I'm not so sure. She had me invite a girl over this weekend, and I knew they would make up an excuse even before I did it. I emailed anyway. Blah.

 

And, I'm still going on! I'm sorry!! I think this stuff is just bringing up issues from my childhood. You'd think they'd be resolved after 20 years, right? Ha. Plus, now I'm sure that when I'm around the other moms they are thinking I'm an awful mom. You know, because my kid has issues. Sigh. Oh well, they're pretty bitchy anyway. Probably saying, "Well, you can see why. Can you believe she had her when she was 21!? And, the parents are divorced. Did you know they rent!?" Sadly, I'm not kidding. nut.gif

 

In the case of what people say- I think you should actually take a lesson from your DD!   Shrug it off.  It is nothing.  They don't know anything about your situation.  They just don't matter.  You are doing great, and you know it.  And I think your DD is doing great also.  Normal is just an expectation.

 

 

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Originally Posted by Abraisme View Post

Ash - Yay!  Glad Bettie is doing well (except your sad FB post of her yesterday crying).  :)

 

 

Thank you!  She was just screaming....and screaming.  No tears.  Just in a bad mood.  I think we are in teething hell.

post #65 of 291
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Originally Posted by dashley111 View Post

Normal is just an expectation.

I love this.
post #66 of 291

Excuse the vent, please.  I was supposed to begin tomorrow working a produce stand at the farmers market.  I've been trying to figure out what to do about nursing.  I figured the easiest thing would be to have my dh bring the baby to market and I could nurse him there.  My dh, who has worked the stand, could work for me while I nurse.  My boss suggested instead that I pump milk for him to use.  I do have milk in the freezer, but there's no way I can go 7-8 hours without pumping.  I'd be in pain and spewing milk everywhere.  I told my boss this, that if the baby didn't nurse, I'd have to pump.  So just pump, he says.  Ok, except I am at a produce stand in the middle of a farmers market!  It's not as easy as "just pump".  And not only that, but I'd be leaving my coworker for 20 minutes alone, during the height of traffic for the day.

 

I've been trying to figure out a place to go to pump, and I've gotten a few possibilities.  But my boss just emailed me and told me that he decided not to use me this year.  This is one week after he asked me to be the market manager this year.  Blech.  Well, it will be nice not to get up at 4:45 a.m.  And it will be nice to go to market to leisurely shop, visit with friends, and listen to music.  And also will be nice in July not standing/roasting in a parking lot.  But, I feel like I just lost my job because of breastfeeding, and it kind of ticks me off.

 

carey

 

p.s.  Yay Bettie!!!

post #67 of 291
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Originally Posted by wellforth View Post

Excuse the vent, please.  I was supposed to begin tomorrow working a produce stand at the farmers market.  I've been trying to figure out what to do about nursing.  I figured the easiest thing would be to have my dh bring the baby to market and I could nurse him there.  My dh, who has worked the stand, could work for me while I nurse.  My boss suggested instead that I pump milk for him to use.  I do have milk in the freezer, but there's no way I can go 7-8 hours without pumping.  I'd be in pain and spewing milk everywhere.  I told my boss this, that if the baby didn't nurse, I'd have to pump.  So just pump, he says.  Ok, except I am at a produce stand in the middle of a farmers market!  It's not as easy as "just pump".  And not only that, but I'd be leaving my coworker for 20 minutes alone, during the height of traffic for the day.

 

I've been trying to figure out a place to go to pump, and I've gotten a few possibilities.  But my boss just emailed me and told me that he decided not to use me this year.  This is one week after he asked me to be the market manager this year.  Blech.  Well, it will be nice not to get up at 4:45 a.m.  And it will be nice to go to market to leisurely shop, visit with friends, and listen to music.  And also will be nice in July not standing/roasting in a parking lot.  But, I feel like I just lost my job because of breastfeeding, and it kind of ticks me off.

 

carey

 

p.s.  Yay Bettie!!!

 

You did just lose your job because of BFing. That's complete b*llsh*t, not to mention illegal. It seems like you're friends with the whole farmer's market, so starting a huge deal probably wouldn't be an option, but that's what I'd do.

post #68 of 291
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Originally Posted by wellforth View Post

Excuse the vent, please.  I was supposed to begin tomorrow working a produce stand at the farmers market.  I've been trying to figure out what to do about nursing.  I figured the easiest thing would be to have my dh bring the baby to market and I could nurse him there.  My dh, who has worked the stand, could work for me while I nurse.  My boss suggested instead that I pump milk for him to use.  I do have milk in the freezer, but there's no way I can go 7-8 hours without pumping.  I'd be in pain and spewing milk everywhere.  I told my boss this, that if the baby didn't nurse, I'd have to pump.  So just pump, he says.  Ok, except I am at a produce stand in the middle of a farmers market!  It's not as easy as "just pump".  And not only that, but I'd be leaving my coworker for 20 minutes alone, during the height of traffic for the day.

 

I've been trying to figure out a place to go to pump, and I've gotten a few possibilities.  But my boss just emailed me and told me that he decided not to use me this year.  This is one week after he asked me to be the market manager this year.  Blech.  Well, it will be nice not to get up at 4:45 a.m.  And it will be nice to go to market to leisurely shop, visit with friends, and listen to music.  And also will be nice in July not standing/roasting in a parking lot.  But, I feel like I just lost my job because of breastfeeding, and it kind of ticks me off.

 

carey

 

p.s.  Yay Bettie!!!

 

 

Yeah...I would be pretty angry.  Are you comfortable confronting him about it? 

post #69 of 291

Ugh I’m shocked and appalled that a Dr can be so out of touch with intact care, and to top it off ignore a verbal request from a parent. I’ve now got all 3 kids one the wait list for a Dr I liked that H saw in November but at the moment she isn't accepting new patients and I stupidly just didn't’t switch everyone to another Dr that is accepting patients right now. I'm gonna call back Monday and switch them to a Dr that is accepting new patients til the other one has openings that way I don’t have to deal with the misinformed Dr if I decided to continue well checks for Harlan. The other kids only go when sick which isn't often. I will also be filing a grievance for for what happened.

post #70 of 291

Abra, that sounds scary.  I hope you can find some way of dealing with this, if not through Western medicine, then some kind of alternative treatment.  Last summer, I found out too that I did not have MS, or a brain tumor  (Between the two, I was hoping for MS.)  I felt like, yes, I had a permanent injury to deal with, but it could have been much much worse.  It's hard to appreciate sometimes, but I am still thankful.

 

Amanda, that kind of judgment crap drives me  nuts.  We were the one and only secular homeschooling family in our last town, and one of the few in which Daddy didn't wear a business suit,.  It was rough at times, living in a ghetto, and especially when I got divorced.  My daughter was told several times she was going to hell because she didn't go to church.  Urbana is so awesome in comparison.

 

I went to the farmers market today to ask my boss wtf was going on, and he wasn't there.  There was no farmers market stand at all.  I had some serious insomnia last night, awake at 2 until 5, when Luca decided the day had begun.  Ugh, I was finally sleepy!  Luckily, I got a 7-9 a.m. nap.  I spent my day gathering starts and flowers and gardening supplies.  I hope the weather holds out this week for some serious planting.  And now, for some beer magick.  :D

 

carey

post #71 of 291

Thanks, I went for a spinal MRI and an xray today.  We'll know what's up soon.

 

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Abra, that sounds scary.  I hope you can find some way of dealing with this, if not through Western medicine, then some kind of alternative treatment.  Last summer, I found out too that I did not have MS, or a brain tumor  (Between the two, I was hoping for MS.)  I felt like, yes, I had a permanent injury to deal with, but it could have been much much worse.  It's hard to appreciate sometimes, but I am still thankful.

 

We have puppies now!  Check out my website if you want to see them.  :)

 

www.cookersurbanhomestead.com

post #72 of 291

OMG Abra, I'm in love with these puppies. luxlove.gif

post #73 of 291

Am I the only person in the world who hates puppies?

 

I really really dislike them a lot.

post #74 of 291

Sara- How's double baby life going? I LOVE your pictures!

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Life is getting better, thanks for asking. The hospital was great for Sara and everyone was very nice but I was exhausted staying late and running in first thing in the morning ( my mom was out of town and I was also dog sitting). I was so focused on everyone else that I only ate once a day. I was so happy to come home, Sara's mom came down, which has been nice, but her dad and sister came for the weekend which was a bit more overwhelming (and much louder). At home Sara got the stomach flu and had a hard time nursing and she is still sore from her second degree tear so there have been many tears. Last night I called a friend who is a LC who gave us more tips for getting him latched on right (he will nurse on me no problem but we were having a hard time getting him to latch onto her comfortably). Shay was overwhelmed being away from home so much. He hasn't been himself. There are moments where he is normal, it's like the line he crosses from happy to frustrated is much closer than it used to be. He gets so sweetly happy when the baby is awake. It has been cool for me to figure out little things like who to pick up first and how far apart they have to be to compensate for Shay's wingspan and how to sleep between two babies.

Today is much better than yesterday. We all woke up rested which is lovely since its the first time this month.
post #76 of 291
Thread Starter 

Wow, Sara!  So much to figure out and handle!  I'm so sorry to hear that Sara got the stomach flu- especially so soon postpartum!  How awful!  And how frustrating that he'll latch on you and not her well!  Is she dealing with flat or inverted nipples?  Will Shay latch onto her?

post #77 of 291
Wow sounds like a rough week! Between the 2 nursling im sure you guys can get it figured out. How terrible that she got the stomach flu so soon after giving. Orthodox.
post #78 of 291
Haha. Stupid autocorrect....
post #79 of 291

We officially have two teeth!!! joy.gif

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Yay teeth!  I'm hoping now that the weather has cooled off and the supermoon is gone that some sleep might actually happen around here.  Luca's been going on 8-9 hours a night, naps have been crap, and oh it's grumpyville around here.  My dh told Luca this morning that he was fired.  :D  My daughter, also a crack of dawner in her day, slept til 11:30 today, by far the latest ever.  And she's going to try out school in a couple of days.  I wonder if we'll actually make it there before 8.

 

carey

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