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post #81 of 291

Ok so Im thinking of pre-gaming my discussion points/arugments for Bettie's 6 month check.  We cant get out of it, since its required by our insurance company...so that's not an option, or I just would skip it altogether. 

 

SO- I used to love my ped but I feel like he was hinting at me stopping breastfeeding and starting formula because of B's low weight gain.  He mentioned if she dropped below 10th percentile she would be considered "failure to thrive".  I know she has...so Im thinking up my talking points now, because I want to shut down the negative talk before he starts getting in my head.

 

I already plan to point out that she is happier than ever and not behind on milestones.  And that she isnt failing to THRIVE so much as she is failing to gain weight in a manner in which is deemed "normal"...any other suggestions?

 

I can see Im becoming totally fixated on this.  Haha.  It just...hard.

post #82 of 291
Thread Starter 

Where is Bettie on the WHO charts?  Is your ped still using the old CDC charts?  Hopefully she'll be a bit higher on those and you could point that out.  Second, she'll be starting solids really soon, right?  You could mention that you plan to work on feeding her high, "good fat" foods like avocado.  Then you could suggest that you revisit the weight issue at her next appointment after she's been eating some solids.  That will give you another 3 months at which point the growth charts start to flatten out a bit and she may creep up the curve naturally.

post #83 of 291
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Originally Posted by dashley111 View Post

Ok so Im thinking of pre-gaming my discussion points/arugments for Bettie's 6 month check.  We cant get out of it, since its required by our insurance company...so that's not an option, or I just would skip it altogether. 

 

SO- I used to love my ped but I feel like he was hinting at me stopping breastfeeding and starting formula because of B's low weight gain.  He mentioned if she dropped below 10th percentile she would be considered "failure to thrive".  I know she has...so Im thinking up my talking points now, because I want to shut down the negative talk before he starts getting in my head.

 

I already plan to point out that she is happier than ever and not behind on milestones.  And that she isnt failing to THRIVE so much as she is failing to gain weight in a manner in which is deemed "normal"...any other suggestions?

 

I can see Im becoming totally fixated on this.  Haha.  It just...hard.

 

Conner is in the 2nd percentile. My Ped never said anything about stopping the breastmilk, he just suggested we start him on some solids. I told him before he even got started that me, my sister, my sister, my brother, my husband, and my sister-in-law were ALL under the 10th percentile until we were at least 2... And my husband and sister-in-law were formula fed! When I said that, he said, "Some babies are just small". As long as she's hitting all of the milestones correctly, I think it's foolish that your doctor would tell you to try supplementing. Her brain function is obviously fine. Conner hasn't doubled his weight yet and he's 6 1/2 months old. He still has a solid pound to go before he does so, too. I wouldn't necessarily tell you to "argue" with the doctor, just do a whole lot of head nodding and not listening. LOL That's what I did. I'd hear what he said, then just shake my head.

No reason to argue with him, really. They're doctors. They know everything. ;-)

post #84 of 291

On the CDC chart she is in the 4th and in the WHO chart she is in the 8th.  I'm unsure which her doc uses.  I don't think the issue is so much her being small, as her getting lower and lower on the chart.  She is gaining steadily, just slow enough that its not steady on the chart.  I'm not small, DH isn't small...neither of my other kids were small.  BUT its good to know she isnt the only small baby around!  I wish I lived close to you so I could go see you ped.  Haha.

 

I have been thinking about solids.  I guess I could just lie and say we are starting her on them, and he would never know the difference.  She has had some banana once, but its not a regular thing we plan on doing for a bit.

 

With my other kids he was SO supportive of breastfeeding, even extended breastfeeding.  A few weeks ago he also convinced my SIL that she was starving her 22 pound 8 month old because he had no weight gain in a month- also the month he started crawling and almost walking. 

post #85 of 291

So, 10% of human babies are failing to thrive?  Does that make any sense whatsoever?  Especially if she is hitting milestones, I would not see any reason to change what you are doing, which is obviously working--growing a healthy vibrant baby.  Ugh, doctors.  There's trusting the process of birth which made my homebirth midwife great.  And now,finding a doctor who trusted the process of living. 

 

I agree with what everyone has suggested.  It's your baby.  It's nice the doc is concerned and offering advice, but you know your baby better than anyone. 

 

carey

post #86 of 291

I thought that as long as they were ON the charts period, they were fine. Aren't the charts just the range of normal?  So even if she was in the first percentile, she's just in the smallest segment of small normal babies. It seems weird that he would have a 10% ultimatum. I know they WANT them to follow the curve, but some kids will do it their own way. 

post #87 of 291
I just looked at Osha's chart. He was 97th percentile at 1 month and the 20th at 10 months. I asked about it. I asked again when he hit the 5th. I got the same answer every time. They are looking for a curve on the growth chart, not that they follow the same curve. So if a baby or child creates their own curve it's not really a problem, the problem is if the child's own curve suddenly changes.

Honestly, my son gained two pounds between the ages of 2 and 4 but he grew in height. He started as a big baby but his donor was very light and I was a tiny kid, but hit a huge growth spurt at puberty (almost doubled my weight in one year). Shay has been my weird kid who stayed big.

I have dealt with failure to thrive. It's scary stuff. That baby had more issues than her weight. She was given a higher calorie formula, but she was already on formula.
post #88 of 291

Bike trailers:  any thoughts, recommendations, things to avoid?  I'm eager to get back on my bike, with kid in tow.  I wasn't able to ride at all last year, considering the morning/motion sickness I got whenever I moved faster than walking.  I saw on amazon that the in step trailers are not all that expensive, but obviously, I want safety more than anything.  And, does baby wear a helmet while in the trailer?  I didn't bike when my older daughter was a baby.

 

Thanks!

carey

post #89 of 291

Anyone have sling/carrier recs for summer months?  I don't think that it will really be an issue (it doesn't get scorching hot here, nor is it humid) but just in case... I also want to get a water wrap or sling for Hawaii in Oct.  I'm having trouble finding ones that are comfortable for an infant larger than 20lbs (Dylan is 20.2 lbs!)  Help?

post #90 of 291

Son just had his 6 month check-up... 15lbs2.5oz. 27 3/4'' tall! 8th percentile now... And 85th for his height. Tall and skinny like his daddy, like I've been saying all along. The doctor also said something very interesting to me... He only needs 16oz of milk minimum at this age. He told us to start offering him solids 3 times a day (Breakfast, lunch, dinner) and to only offer the milk after he's eaten the solids if he still acts hungry. I didn't realize they started that this young. I thought it was 12 months that all of that started...

 

12 days until we get keys to our house! I got our cable/internet/phone set up today. This is real. I'm about to be a homeowner. Holy crap.

post #91 of 291
Thread Starter 

Um, yeah, that is NOT the solid food strategy that I would use at 6 months.  That is a weaning technique.  I would offer the breast first and offer solids after.    Congrats again on the new house!!!  So exciting!

post #92 of 291
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Um, yeah, that is NOT the solid food strategy that I would use at 6 months.  That is a weaning technique.  I would offer the breast first and offer solids after.    Congrats again on the new house!!!  So exciting!

 

That's what I plan on doing/have been doing... I was just really intrigued that he recommended that. LOL It even says in his little 6-month pamphlet they gave us to offer milk before the food. LOL Silly doctors.

 

Want some pictures? Okay! =D

 

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post #93 of 291

Congratulations on the house! It looks great! I love how the back decks connect between the two levels. It'll be fun sitting outside with the baby! That's one of my favorite things to do with my little one.

post #94 of 291

Remembering back to the talk of diaper-free time to encourage movement - I am now so glad my guy is in bulky cloth diapers most of the time because he is desperate to go places, and he can really get up on his hands and knees with a bare bum. And I love this pre-mobile stage! I want him to be a sitting lump for much longer than he does. My DD was mobile at 7 months and crawling at 8 months and I'd like O to hold out at least that long, though I don't think he will. DD was crawling within 4 weeks of mastering being on hands and knees. I can't imagine having a mobile baby in a month.  Slow down, son! Slow down.

post #95 of 291
Haha, Shay has been getting up on hands and knees for a month and still can't crawl.

Nicole, your new house looks awesome!
post #96 of 291

Speedy update:

 

Nicole: Congrats on the house! 

 

AFM..  Things have been crazy here lately.  My dh has officially quit his corp job and will be done in a few weeks.  That means that he's working 20 hour days trying to start his business!  We finally bought a minivan a couple of weeks ago and so far it's been in the shop twice!  Ugh.  The puppies are as cute as can be.  I feel like I have slept in 2 months, my kids are still coughing from whooping cough..   

 

ETA:  This is my dh's business..

 

www.prettybirdsaviary.com

post #97 of 291

Nicole:  Congratulations!!!!

 

Abra:  The aviaries are beautiful!  Why does your DH rent them out if they are custom built for the space where they will be installed?  Why not sell the aviaries with separate maintenance plans?  Is he planning on adding photos of the aviaries with birds in them?  That would be nice to see. 
 

post #98 of 291

Has anybody read the AP article in Time magazine with the deemed "provocative" cover photo? http://www.time.com/time/covers/0,16641,20120521,00.html

 

I almost want to buy the magazine to read the article, but judging from the cover's comment about "driving mothers to extremes" -- I think I might be angered by the article if it's not portraying things in a neutral light... I'm just super curious what it says. rolleyes.gif

post #99 of 291

Dionna (codenamemama) was interviewed for it.  We are TIME subscribers, let me see if I can log in and see it.

post #100 of 291

Anyone else's kiddos on a nap strike? O_o Conner wakes up at 7, takes a 2-hour nap in the middle of the day, then he'd up until 8 now... This is new. I don't like it, LOL.
 

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