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post #21 of 70

oh my goodness! i doubt any of you are as stupid as me, but in case i can save anyone some major pain:  DO NOT, I repeat DO NOT try to get on top during sex now!  owww!  i think i pulled my hamstring and dislocated my hip!  that was so stupid and we might not do it again until postpartum!

post #22 of 70
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Originally Posted by ms.shell View Post

oh my goodness! i doubt any of you are as stupid as me, but in case i can save anyone some major pain:  DO NOT, I repeat DO NOT try to get on top during sex now!  owww!  i think i pulled my hamstring and dislocated my hip!  that was so stupid and we might not do it again until postpartum!

omg just did this the other night!  so horrible!  

post #23 of 70

I'm doing me on top as much as I can... it's about the only regular exercise I can get that doesn't kill my SPD!

post #24 of 70

I just made my midwife/ob appointments thru the middle of June since it's better for work for me to get the "hard to schedule" evening appointments.

 

Lately I've been getting a mix of "you got so big" and "you look so tiny" comments from people. It's kind of funny.

 

I feel like I don't know what I should be doing next. I want to have something I'm "working on". I don't do crafty things, so it's not like I'm making anything. I've been looking into bunk beds for big kids. (Though I totally hadn't planned to have that expense now.)

post #25 of 70
Thread Starter 
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Lately I've been getting a mix of "you got so big" and "you look so tiny" comments from people. It's kind of funny.

 

People's perceptions can wildly differ... In previous pregnancies I've had people think I was months away and people who thought I was about to pop with twins.

 

On top, so not happening, can barely turn on my side. Feel sorry for hubby. My spd is getting worse and I can hardly dress myself.

post #26 of 70
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I feel like I don't know what I should be doing next. I want to have something I'm "working on"

 

I'm working on my lists, not planning to start gathering stuff and getting everything done until the beginning of June.  I have been working on a big list of freezer recipes; a huge grocery list for that; another list of all the things I want to stock up on like TP, dog food, dish/laundry/ regular soaps, charcoal, etc so I won't have to go out for a while after birth; and the list of stuff to buy/ dig out/ gather/ assemble for baby, too.  I am also working on heavily mulching all my gardens so they aren't overtaken by weeds in June and July when I don't think I will be able to weed them.  Oh yeah, also started another list today of easy summertime fun (at home) ideas to keep my kids entertained when I am too tired to think of good ideas or play with them as much.  I think I will be stocking up on bubbles, play-doh, and art supplies this week; maybe dvds too. ;)

post #27 of 70

Ooh lists, I like lists.:)

 

I am getting swollen ankles and this morning had a calf cramp. Anyone else?

post #28 of 70

We had family photos taken last weekend and my project right now is going through and selecting the pictures to order. We were SO pleased with them. DD was a little uncooperative, but photog assured us she has improved from last session ;-)

 

I have been making appointments like crazy. It almost feels like since I feel like I have no feeling of control over when the baby comes I'm trying to put as many other things in place as possible. In addition to making my OB/midwife appointments, I have been planning when I will be able to go to yoga classes, go for chiropractic and have acupuncture treatments. I even made DD's 4 year old check-up appointment for OCTOBER.

 

In other news, my Combi Coccoro arrived yesterday. The kids can't wait to open it. DD wants to get in it. She keeps telling me, "because I'm small". I wonder how many people tell her how small she is. I hope she doesn't get a complex. She is very fresh, though. She swiped my cell phone this morning and was playing around with it. I explained she needed to give it back or I would need to take it back. When I took it away, she tried to bite me in the belly. As soon as I got upset, she tries to be all lovey-dovey and get me to forget it. She is so manipulative. In the car on the way to school, she tells me her "best friend" isn't her friend anymore because she (DD) threw sand and dirt at her yesterday. I explained that made me very sad and it was not acceptable. There are other ways to express her feelings. I really hope she is just having the pre-baby jitters and will recover some of her decorum after things settle down. Something similar happened with DS when DD came. I always ask her teachers about her behavior, but it seems like she reserves her 'tude for those closest to her. (Not sure the extent of the sand/dirt throwing, but apparently the other girl never said anything to the teachers.)

 

Sorry for the tangent...

post #29 of 70
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I am getting swollen ankles and this morning had a calf cramp. 

 

UGH, I haven't gotten any charlie horse cramps in a week or so, but I had the same muscle seize up twice in two days last week and it is just now getting over being sore.  And I have swelling right now for the first time.  But today I drove us 2.5 hours to the zoo, walked around there for 3 or 4 hours, then drove us 2.5 hours home, and I was wearing cheapo flip flops, too.  Hoping my feet and ankles will be back to normal tomorrow!  I was just thinking how nice it was that I haven't had any swelling at all, too.

 

Baby has turned to facing front and it feels like he is trying to bust out of my belly; he's beating me up tonight!  

 

What do you all use to help with constipation, btw?  I forgot that this was a big complaint in the final stretch of my last pregnancy and it is getting to be an issue now.  I really wish I could go!  lol

post #30 of 70

I hear you on the constipation. I don't remember this being an issue with my other two.

I am drinking tons of water, pregnancy tea, eating normally. Thinking of adding more fat like coconut oil or something. IDK

post #31 of 70
Thread Starter 

My ob told me to try colace which kinda helped but not a lot. I ended up eating brown rice this week, which I normally don't because I don't digest it well, and it worked better. Might just have to keep eating it until baby arrives.

post #32 of 70
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My ob told me to try colace which kinda helped but not a lot. I ended up eating brown rice this week, which I normally don't because I don't digest it well, and it worked better. Might just have to keep eating it until baby arrives.

 

 

I wonder if that works just because of the fiber and bulkiness?  Because I know sunflower seeds help with that factor, if the brown rice isn't optimal for you. Bulking them up just seems so counterintuitive to me if the prob is caused by having less bowel room.  Brown rice might contribute some other working factor, though; I know it with sea salt is an "ancient remedy" for diarhea.  I am trying to think of  something more (gently) laxative as the solution...but idk, and i'm gonna try putting brown rice on the menu this week.


Edited by ms.shell - 5/13/12 at 5:38pm
post #33 of 70

I have started drinking the occasional Diet Coke now that I'm in the 3rd trimester, and it's SO good. I really need to stop because I can feel myself starting to want it all the time...

post #34 of 70

I have been lurking in other groups but don't feel comfortable posting. The August DDC has a lot of chatter about recovery from previous vaginal births. I had been thinking about how my skin is so sensitive that healing takes FOREVER. I had a 1st degree tear that was sutured after DS's birth. Sometimes I feel like I can still feel like the skin there is not stretchy since. I never looked, maybe there's scarring. Makes me nervous for having a vaginal birth this time.

post #35 of 70

Do you know when you actually tore? I think it's worth putting some thought into. Of course everyone's tissues are different, but if there's a moment you know you need to relax through or take it a bit slower, it's worth it.

 

With my sister's first she kind of thought once the head was out the rest would just slide like a slippery seal. When that didn't happen she got completely freaked out and started screaming, "get it out! Get it out!" and no surprise she tore HUGE. Poor girl was a wreck. With each subsequent birth she got nervous about tearing again, and tore a bit, quite possibly related to that tension.

 

 And one friend- who ended up with a vag-anus and reconstructive surgery, didn't have a scratch with her second. Which is basically to say you just never know.

 

Listen to Ina May and blow some raspberries!!

post #36 of 70
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Originally Posted by onemomma View Post

Do you know when you actually tore? I think it's worth putting some thought into. Of course everyone's tissues are different, but if there's a moment you know you need to relax through or take it a bit slower, it's worth it.

 

With my sister's first she kind of thought once the head was out the rest would just slide like a slippery seal. When that didn't happen she got completely freaked out and started screaming, "get it out! Get it out!" and no surprise she tore HUGE. Poor girl was a wreck. With each subsequent birth she got nervous about tearing again, and tore a bit, quite possibly related to that tension.

 

 And one friend- who ended up with a vag-anus and reconstructive surgery, didn't have a scratch with her second. Which is basically to say you just never know.

 

Listen to Ina May and blow some raspberries!

Really good points. I know I felt really inhibited during pushing and my face showed it afterwards. I had broken blood vessels all over my face and in my eyes. I have no idea during which part of the birth I tore. I remember the ob and resident pouring oil on me and trying to stretch out the perineum. I think it was just a 1st degree tear but my feeling is that the repaired skin is not as elastic as the original. In a way, that makes me feel less concerned about rupturing during my hopeful VBAC since I feel like everything is pretty secure in being back together. Thanks onemomma!

post #37 of 70

lbkw, it could be that this birth will help with the scar tissue as well.  I've read several stories where having a second or third vaginal birth really helped to "break up" the hard-feeling cervical scar tissue of a previous birth...  I can't see any reason why that wouldn't hold true for vaginal scarring as well.  I also have a friend who tore like crazy with her first birth and didn't tear at all (despite scar tissue) during her second birth, so I'm going to keep my fingers crossed for you!  :)

post #38 of 70

Thanks, Goofy! I have been reading so many birth stories lately. It's kind of dizzying. I am going to get Ina May's book from the library this week. I have never really read many books on birth, just people's stories.

 

In other life issues, DH & I discussed "strategic planning" for our family. His main strategic plan is to try to get to the next level in his career. We have been half-a$$ working on it for a while, but he's going to try to step it up. On occasion, he applies for random jobs he gets notified of in his industry and generally it doesn't pan out.... Last night he decided to apply for a job across the country. I'm excited for him that he got a call to set up a phone interview later this week. The job looks great, but I told him that I'm not going anywhere for a year! I have made too many plans for the coming year. I know it is way too early to know if anything will even come of it, but it's hard not think of all of the possibilities. He is supportive of my position and keeps reminding me that there is nothing to deal with at this point so I should just concentrate on the stuff going on now. Easier said than done!

 

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post #39 of 70

Wow! A cross-country move! I hope he gets the job, but I can see why that is a huge additional unknown and potential stressor. My life is super-simple, and I still often feel like I would go nuts if I had one more thing to worry about or consider.

post #40 of 70

Sorry for the double post, but I think my best friend might be in labor, and I am getting very antsy, restless, and excited orngbiggrin.gif

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