Oh Shanti! I am so sorry! It really speaks volumes that dh is out of contact on a retreat. I hope the docs can figure out a better course to help and that you somehow find the energy to keep yourself together.
Jo - Sounds like you have things well in hand for the move. How exciting! It's so close!
Real - I'm sure you acknowledge the dual holiday when it happens but also recall that Birthday trumps Hallmark holiday. Nice race!
Okay, time wake the monkeys. There was a little good news for dd over the weekend. She spent much of Saturday crying so finally we convinced her to call her bf who had mentioned feeling pushed to drop her by the other two girls. She did and they talked and she felt a lot better when she hung up and then a few minutes later the friend called back and invited her to sleep over. We let her go, despite the grounding since it seems like the harshness of the combined consequences have sunk in. So that's good. She's still anxious about the other two girls but hopefully they'll be bored with the whole thing by this week and at least ignore her.