TMI on facebook.

[lilbsmama]

Does anyone else get creeped out by people who announce their cervical progression on facebook? I just read a friends status, and she said she was 1cm dialated, 50% thinned and baby is low. She is due May 15th, and the doctor told her that baby would be here before then, definitely. Uh, whatever. It really grosses me out that people feel the need to share their cervix with their facebook world. I think sharing here is a little different, because we are ALL pregnant, lol. just too much for me!

[faithsstuff]

I hear ya, I was super hesitant to post a sonogram pic, that's about where my limit is.  Question about your siggy- do Luthor and Ferdinand have any friends who would like to live under a new couch?  

[lilbsmama]

 Sonogram pics are different, IMO. That's the baby, and it's all cutesy. But seriously, do we really need to know the progression in your nether regions? lol. I just don't understand. When I'm not pregnant, I just want to post vague statuses about the state of my vagina.

[fruitfulmomma]

Uh, yeah...just what my brother or male cousins or anyone else needs to hear. Eck. I have a pic of the ultrasound and some cute diaper fluff. If I put up anything about our birth it will be 'headed to the hospital' followed by 'she's here'.

[MamanFrancaise]

Yeah, I really don't want to know about my friend's cervix situation. Definitely TMI.

 

[finnegansmom]

Did she give CM updates when she was TTC?

" EWCM!! yippee Time to hit the sheets!"

yuck....

[MamanFrancaise]

Originally Posted by finnegansmom 

Did she give CM updates when she was TTC?

" EWCM!! yippee Time to hit the sheets!"

yuck....

 

[lilbsmama]

Originally Posted by finnegansmom 

Did she give CM updates when she was TTC?

" EWCM!! yippee Time to hit the sheets!"

yuck....

[kawa kamuri]

I'm queen of uncomfortable TMI 

[BroodyWoodsgal]

HAha, that's not info I would really share, but I don't really do "checks" and stuff when I'm pre/in labor, so I would HAVE the info TO share.

HAhahah, but if someone else wants to share about their cervix, it doesn't gross me out at all!

[JudiAU]

I think sharing the info is kind of weird but my immediate reaction is her doctor is an idiot. Dilation/cervical thinning is totally meaningless in terms of when she is going to go into labor.

And one of the many reasons why I am not on Facebook is that I would probably respond with that information.

[lilbsmama]

Originally Posted by JudiAU 

I think sharing the info is kind of weird but my immediate reaction is her doctor is an idiot. Dilation/cervical thinning is totally meaningless in terms of when she is going to go into labor.

And one of the many reasons why I am not on Facebook is that I would probably respond with that information.

I totally agree. Even my dh said her doctor shouldn't be doing cervical exams, especially if she isn't even in labor yet, and it was just going to get her hopes up for an early delivery. Although her whole pregnancy has been super duper medicalized....she has already been told she will not go over 39 weeks because of GD. I don't even bother anymore. I have tried to inform several mothers in a gentle way, and no matter what I say, it always ends up as me attacking them! And of course, I have no medical background, so I have no idea what I am talking about.

[darkblue0729]

Originally Posted by BroodyWoodsgal 

HAha, that's not info I would really share, but I don't really do "checks" and stuff when I'm pre/in labor, so I would HAVE the info TO share.

HAhahah, but if someone else wants to share about their cervix, it doesn't gross me out at all!

Yeah, it doesn't gross me out at all...more like mildly entertaining, but I have an odd and often highly inappropriate concept of humor

[srmomof2]

I am bothered by it too.  Even from family members.  That stuff is private, why post it?  I cringe when I see that.  My SIL really crossed the line for her first baby- weekly belly pictures, status updates from her vagina, in labor updates, weekly postings about how she loved her baby already in the womb, and then it was like atleast twice weekly bitching about how uncorfortable she was near the end.  I just had to hide her, it was getting to be too much.

[sassyfirechick]

I've had friends post step-by-step from the delivery room....from water breaking, to being induced, to rate of contractions!  It's not so much about TMI at that point - how about put the damn phone down!!  DH is a bit phone obsessed and after posting a picture of me in early labor I took his phone away ;-) 

[Plummeting]

I wouldn't do it, but no, I don't consider it TMI. I think it's pretty unhealthy the way our society acts like these are supposed to be hidden, secret things, actually. So no, nothing wrong with it.
 

[Cyllya]

Originally Posted by Plummeting 

I wouldn't do it, but no, I don't consider it TMI. I think it's pretty unhealthy the way our society acts like these are supposed to be hidden, secret things, actually. So no, nothing wrong with it.
 

Yeah, I'm kind of confused about why people are bothered by it. I mean, I don't want to look into my second cousin-in-law's vagina to see how dilated she is, but I've got no problem with the info if she feels like mentioning it.

[trekkingirl]

I'm really surprised that ladies here are grossed out by a post like that. Maybe she doesn't have a place like MDC to post things like that the way we do. If things about women make men uncomfortable they should grow up and get real. Being a woman is about ovarian cysts and group b strep and yeast.....and tampons and cervical mucous and shall I go on. We put up with tons and sparing them isn't high on my priority list. I'm glad that she is excited and not realizing she got crappy info from a so called medical professional. I can't wait until she has bloody show or a stringy mucous plug to post about. Please keep us updated, I'd love to be excited for her!

[scowgirl]

Originally Posted by trekkingirl 

I'm really surprised that ladies here are grossed out by a post like that. Maybe she doesn't have a place like MDC to post things like that the way we do. If things about women make men uncomfortable they should grow up and get real. ... We put up with tons and sparing them isn't high on my priority list.

LOLOL! This is what I always think too. I don't personally think the dilation thing is "TMI," though to each their own; I also agree that the pregnancy update overload on the part of some friends can get a little annoying, and I can see where it would be weird to think about your family members getting an update on your cervix. For those reasons I would probably refrain from those kinds of updates myself. But for all that, in general I am super unconcerned about men being traumatized by specifics about the female body. It just seems completely unreasonable to me. (Fortunately for me, my husband grew up with two older sisters and a mom who is a nurse, so he has zero hangups about this kind of thing.)

Anyway, they always seem to conveniently get over being icked out during the TTC part...

[LilyTiger]

Originally Posted by trekkingirl 

I'm really surprised that ladies here are grossed out by a post like that. Maybe she doesn't have a place like MDC to post things like that the way we do. If things about women make men uncomfortable they should grow up and get real. Being a woman is about ovarian cysts and group b strep and yeast.....and tampons and cervical mucous and shall I go on. We put up with tons and sparing them isn't high on my priority list. I'm glad that she is excited and not realizing she got crappy info from a so called medical professional. I can't wait until she has bloody show or a stringy mucous plug to post about. Please keep us updated, I'd love to be excited for her!

For me it's not an issue about "women's issues" or "growing up and getting real" but the fact that more and more in our society everything (and I mean everything) needs to be displayed on the internet for everyone to see.  I would object to a male detailing his bowel movements on Facebook, and that's just as natural as a woman giving birth.  I don't want to hear about people's tampons, yeast, ovarian, cysts, etc., just like I don't want to hear about men's erectile dysfunction or urination schedules.  This isn't about shaming women's bodies and abilities, it's about carving out (or trying to re-create) a place where private functions remain private.  I've shared 20 week ultrasound pictures that look like a baby, but I won't be posting genital shots and I don't think there's anything wrong with that.  I think our society has generally moved toward a no-limits approach to information and I and many other women on this board, apparently, do not see this as a positive trend.  Ultimately, it's different strokes for different folks, but if you post about your cervical mucus on my Facebook wall, I'm unfriending you because it indicates that we don't share the same values.