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That is a hard one, Carrie. My immediate thought was that I would go ahead and get pg. The fact is that we all take that risk to some extent when we decide to have babies. I understand that it's a bit different when you know there's a chance for a specific issue but then it isn't really all that different. Just a matter of degree. But then I think about how difficult it can be to take care of a baby/child with health/developmental issues and I don't know. I guess it would depend to some extent on the disorder and the chances of having a baby with it. If there was a very big chance of me having a baby with a disorder that would result in death very soon, I would not have babies. That would just be too painful for me. If the chance was low and the disorder not too difficult to deal with it, I'd probably go ahead and have a baby.

^^That. 

 

And for the second one, no, I would not have another baby if I knew it would break my marriage. THAT SAID... if having another baby was very deep down in my soul important to me, and my partner and I could not come to an agreement, then I would consider leaving my partner and getting pregnant on my own. I know that sounds backwards, but I would rather a child know that mommy wanted him/her very much, and decided to find a way to do that on her own, rather than mommy wanted a baby and daddy didn't, so daddy left (or over time realize that mommy and daddy hate each other). I don't ever want a child to have parents that are bitter about him/her. It's not fair. 

post #82 of 213

JJ: how is Ms. Tenley?

 

Norah is trying really hard to crawl. still not really. and NO teeth, LOL.

post #83 of 213

A mess. lol. I had to call DH at work yesterday, he drove home, I packed a bag, then drove him back to work, and found a relative that was home. Walked in the door, handed the baby over, and went and hid in the bathroom showering and calming down for half hour. She was calm the entire 90 minutes we were at their house, and then I put her back in the car to go get DH, and she banshee shrieked the whole way there. We got there, and I handed over the keys to him, and said I'd be back in 5 minutes. I couldn't even be in the car with her anymore it was so bad. 

 

Today is much better. Yesterday I was certifiably insane. She cried in her crib in little spurts all day long. I kept going in and cuddling and rocking and trying to nurse, and then I'd get at my wits end and have to put her down so I could go calm down. Get calm, rinse and repeat. It was horrible. Downright horrible. 

post #84 of 213
OMG, that sounds bad! You need some baby free time bad! Wish I were local so I could cheer you up.

She working on teeth maybe?
post #85 of 213
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Originally Posted by jeninejessica View Post

And for the second one, no, I would not have another baby if I knew it would break my marriage. THAT SAID... if having another baby was very deep down in my soul important to me, and my partner and I could not come to an agreement, then I would consider leaving my partner and getting pregnant on my own. I know that sounds backwards, but I would rather a child know that mommy wanted him/her very much, and decided to find a way to do that on her own, rather than mommy wanted a baby and daddy didn't, so daddy left (or over time realize that mommy and daddy hate each other). I don't ever want a child to have parents that are bitter about him/her. It's not fair. 

Very well said.

hug.gif for yesterday. What do you think is going on?

We went to the park to meet some other homeschoolers here. I don't know what to think. The moms were nice enough. First time meeting them and lots of people talking so I didn't really get to know anyone, of course. Kellen was acting strangely. He wasn't playing with the other kids, which is not like him at all. When I asked he just said he was hungry and didn't feel like playing. I thought maybe it was residual illness. But when we got in the car to leave, Ethan told me the one of the kids was mean to Kellen. He said Kellen was too young and didn't want to play with him. Makes me mad. I wish Kellen had said something to me while we were there.
post #86 of 213

Oh JJ, I'm so sorry! I've definitely had days like that. Good for you for recognizing you reached your limit and asking/seeking help from someone else! Believe it or not, that's something that a lot of mamas struggle with. I hope she gets over whatever is causing her major malfunction!

 

MW, that stinks that a kid was being a bully to K. I hate when kids are little snots. Drives me batty. DSS 17 was getting crap from kids at school yesterday. Luckily, he reached out to DH on FB chat and they were able to talk through some stuff.

 

DD is teething again. hide.gif Can someone let me know when it's over and I'll come out of hiding?!? Yikes! She's a ball of emotional fragile mess! She'll be playing fine and then just start crying. The other day, DH came home at lunchtime and I had texted him earlier that she was feeling better because she took a 3 hr nap. Well he put her on the changing table to change her dipe and she starts fussing. So he says to her in a joking voice "I thought Mama said you got rid of your cranky pants!" and she burst in to tears like he had seriously hurt her feelings! It's like she's PMSing or something. So crazy!
 

post #87 of 213
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DD is teething again. hide.gif Can someone let me know when it's over and I'll come out of hiding?!? Yikes! She's a ball of emotional fragile mess! She'll be playing fine and then just start crying. The other day, DH came home at lunchtime and I had texted him earlier that she was feeling better because she took a 3 hr nap. Well he put her on the changing table to change her dipe and she starts fussing. So he says to her in a joking voice "I thought Mama said you got rid of your cranky pants!" and she burst in to tears like he had seriously hurt her feelings! It's like she's PMSing or something. So crazy!

 

OMG totally our day yesterday too! lol Only it would start with a massive pouty lip and within 30 seconds she's be screaming so hard I was worried abolut her bursting a blood vessel. 

 

And yeah, it's totally teething, combined with and resulting in a lack of sleep, so she was earth shatteringly overtired. The night before I don't think she got more than 8 hours max, and didn't nap all day yesterday for longer than 10 minutes at a time. She's napped today, twice even! and is much friendlier :)

post #88 of 213
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Maybe the amber necklace is working better than I gave it credit. Dylan does seem to get restless when he's teething but at least he doesn't get inconsolable like that.
post #89 of 213

Ava isn't inconsolable she's just fragile. Like if we look at her the wrong way or she doesn't like the tone of our voice, she starts crying. And I can't get very far away from her without tears. She's trying to bite everything in sight though so I know it's teeth. I just hope they pop through soon!
 

post #90 of 213

Teething here too. grrr. Norah is just fighting sleep and being restless. She isn't as inconsolable as some. And she is wearing her amber.  I am buried in laundry and no idea when exactly I am going to get around to it.

 

JJ - I do agree, if having another baby was something that I felt bone deep was a NEED, and DH didn't agree . . . . I would have the baby. I would really hope though that DH would respond to that need and get over whatever reservations he had.  But if it were more like . . . you know, another baby woud be nice, and DH said absolutely not, and had valid reasons (including just a heartfelt feeling that HE was done) I would honor that. I really think like 3 will be our number. Though, honestly, if we won the lotto or something, I could totally keep on having babies.

post #91 of 213
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I do agree, if having another baby was something that I felt bone deep was a NEED, and DH didn't agree . . . . I would have the baby. I would really hope though that DH would respond to that need and get over whatever reservations he had.

This is pretty much what happened with me and Sean. He was saying no more babies but I really had that need. It was more than just, "eh, another baby would be ok." I really felt like I had to have one more baby and if Sean refused I would not be able to stay with him because I would resent him forever. Thankfully, he acquiesced to me. Only time will tell how that will play out with our marriage. Sean says he's not resentful that I pressured him and he loves Dylan (I can see that in the way he is with Dylan) and he also says he has no intention of ever leaving me. I don't know if it's the Catholic upbringing or what but he is very much the kind of person who sticks with a commitment. I don't think divorce is really even in his box of options.

I sure hope Dylan is past the teething for a while. I could sure use a break. He has slept better the last 2 nights. I don't know why it's so hit or miss with him. Ethan was very consistently not a good sleeper and Kellen was very consistently a good sleeper. I never know what is going to happen with Dylan. lol.gif
post #92 of 213

Babies are chock full of surprises!  Even when she is having a cranky, hold me 24/7 day, I am amazed at how easy a baby Norah is. I feel very blessed. Gabe was easy too, until his second year - but he is still far easier than many toddlers I know IRL. I think some of it has to do with how we parent -we are so laid back and no pressure - and partly it's just their temperment. I hope whenever we go for #3, that that child is as easy as the first 2.

 

And I am completely undecided if I would want the next one to be a boy or girl . . .

 

I hope Carrie, Norah, and Finn are enjoying Disney. I want to go, but really think we should wait a year or two with Gabe.

post #93 of 213

Shhhh, don't tell Ava but her sleeping has gotten better the past couple of days! I'm still bone tired though. I don't know if I will ever recover from this sleep debt. Some of the ladies in my MDC DDC on FB are talking about getting pg again. Some of them say that if they get out of the sleep-deprived diaper days, they won't go back. I guess I can see that but right now I think I'd like a good couple of sleep months before jumping back in, you know? Of course that's all contingent on DH agreeing to another one. Who knows? I'm just trying to enjoy DD right now. She's at such a fun age. I love her sense of humor!
 

post #94 of 213

For me it was always hard to figure out if A was teething or just grumpy or what. My DH jokingly goes "is she teething AGAIN?" every time any of our babies were grumpy because I would say "she's teething!" And it probably is true - kids teethe f-o-r-e-v-e-r

 

So, I get the bad mommy of year award. I was throwing out A's poopy dipe right after she woke up from her nap and she managed to grab my cup with a straw (you know, the ones you can wash so the straw is really hard plastic?) and before I could get to her she fell right on it faint.gifOMG - I totally freaked out. And of course I have a couple toddlers who are non-stop talking/freaking out too! Ugh - long story short I waited a couple hours and then took her to emergicare because she couldn't drink her bottle and was in pain. He said I could take her to the ER and have them put a stitch in it, but if it was his kid he would wait a day and see what happens. So I waited and it's fine. Whew. I still feel so bad.

 

I hope all you momma's get some teething rest and I hope Carrie is having a blast!

post #95 of 213
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Haha, Annie. I won't tell.

Aw, annie, hug.gif. Stuff happens. Dylan fell off the couch the other day because I was just not paying attention. greensad.gif At least my mom has a rug so it was a semi-soft landing.

Dylan is sick now and so am I. I don't feel too bad (yet). Just some sinus pain and congestion. Dylan has a slight fever, nothing like Kellen's so far. Ethan says his nose hurts and complained of a headache yesterday but that's it. Of course, all of this happens right before my mom is leaving for a week at the beach.

We met some other homeschooler yesterday who were much nicer. We may get together again. I got the impression they aren't very active in the group.
post #96 of 213

I just went back and read our threads from this time last year and then leading up to DD's birth. Man, I was a whiny mess! Hahaha! I'm glad I have all that stuff written down somewhere though because I didn't keep a pregnancy journal. I guess I should go back at some point and copy it down somewhere so I have it for DD to read later on.

 

Oh Annie, poor A! Things happen though. I thought DD had scratched her cornea the other day because she was playing with something that's not a baby toy and she poked herself in the eye. Yikes!
 

post #97 of 213
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Ugh! I have an eye infection. My mom is leaving for the beach this morning. I have to try to figure out how to see a doctor with the boys. I'm hoping my sister can hang out with Ethan and Kellen while I go to an urgent care place.
post #98 of 213

AnnieA - that's cool you DO have that written down somewhere. I have never kept a pregnancy journal, and I didn't keep up very much with this thread or my DDC when I was preggers eyesroll.gif Plus, you totally deserve to be a whining mess when pregnant! lol.gif

 

MW - that sucks! Do you mean you have pink eye? Are there other kinds of eye infections??? nut.gif Ugh, my eyes still have some kind of pink eye something in them...........They luckily aren't red anymore, but wearing contacts turns them pretty nasty even a month later. Hope you can get to an emergicare!

 

So, who in this group doesn't like Weston A. Price? I thought we were saying there was something wrong with them (obviously Carrie wouldn't agree with the meat part). I have been kind of picking up things about them here and there, and besides being pretty "hard core" in the nutrition dept. I can't find anything wrong with aspiring to eat the best of organic, raw, and grass fed free pasture things. Obviously I am waaaaaaaaay NOT doing it right now, but I am going to start trying to phase it in. Just want to make sure there is nothing that I am missing.

post #99 of 213
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There are several kinds of eye infections, viral and bacterial. I'm assuming it's just the common conjuctivitis (pink eye). I did get to an urgent care place. I had Dylan looked at, too, since we were there and he's sick. The doc gave me two scripts for each of us for eye drops/ointment and amoxicillin. I don't know if I'll use the amoxicillin. I think I'll wait a little while longer on that. So, I got my scripts filled, got home and was taking them all out to go through them. The eye drops for me say right on the box to not use if breastfeeding. It doesn't say check with doctor or pharmacist. It says do not use. The nurse asked me if I was breastfeeding and Dylan was wearing a breastfeeding shirt that the doctor read out loud and yet he still prescribed this for me. I called and got a different one called in but what a pain that I have to go back out and I already paid for the first one. eyesroll.gif

I haven't looked into Weston A. Price in a long time. I don't really know much about the diet. I'm not a fan of the organization because they are anti-breastfeeding. They advise people that the SAD is so poor that women should not breastfeed. They advocate mothers making their own infant baby food.
post #100 of 213
Ugh, MW that stinks! Glad you've got something to treat it even though it required a second trip. You know what I discovered when I was rereading the old threads? We're missing some people! MovingMama and BareFootScientist. Anybody keep up with them on FB?
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