Hey mamas, my husband just got a job at MTSU and we will be moving to the Nashville area in July. I am really thrown for a loop, as I have never moved cities before, and am currently 15 weeks pregnant with twins. I currently go see midwives who are in a practice with doctors and who deliver at a local hospital. But it's a hospital that is very progressive and good about working with peoples birth plans, mom and baby-time friendly, kangaroo care-friendly, etc. etc.
I'm currently faced with the challenge of who to turn to in TN for care, and where to deliver (and of course making sure our new insurance will work with whomever). We haven't yet decided where we are going to live, but as we will 99% surely be renting for the first 6 months to a year, we are very willing to base where we move to on where we can get very good care and a good birth experience. I'm ok with giving birth with an ob/gyn instead of a midwife, and in a hospital...depending on how my pregnancy progresses, I figure that may even be a very distinct possibility. I just want to do so in an environment that is at least somewhat open-minded and will be willing to work with the doula I will engage. I'm also on the search for a good labor and postpartum doula. I have found many good leads online, but am having a bit of a harder time finding those who offer postpartum services. When I move, I will have absolutely no support network (I'm not sure if any of my family will be able to come visit and help after the birth), so I really hope to afford to engage a postpartum doula for a week or two. Please forgive me if I sound scattered...it's just very hard to know exactly how to go about this, and I'm hoping a few recommendations will help me come to a decision. I want to be prepared ahead of time for the possibility of a hospital/dr. birth in the even that that IS needed.
Our initial thought was that we would live in Nashville, and I had considered contacting to Vanderbilt Midwives to see if their practice could start seeing me in July. But I wonder about experiences of those who may have ended up in high-risk situations and needed a dr at the hospital?
We also considered living in Murfreesboro, since that will actually be where my husband is working and he will be close at hand if I need him in the early months of motherhood But looking at their hospital's website, it doesn't say much about their child birthing philosophies.Any thoughts on that hospital?
And finally, I did like the sound of the hospital in Franklin. It seems a little more inline with the place i would deliver if I were not moving.
But of course it is hard to tell from online. We will certainly be visiting the area, at least twice, before we move, to look for housing and just get to know the area a bit. But as we will primarily be finding a place to live, time is going to be pressing and I don't know if I'll be able to schedule hospital tours, etc. while when we come down there.
I know it probably sounds a bit weird to base where one lives on medical care, but again, we will only be renting for a while, which will give us time to settle in as parents, and get to know Middle Tennessee and see where we might want to permanently settle. So far, from the research we have done online, we would really be fine with living in any of those three areas. And my husband is fine with commuting if he has to.
If you have read this far, I thank you from the bottom of my heart, and look forward to hearing any of your thoughts. My whole life is changing at a very rapid pace ...this move, the twins, and some other family stuff that is going on, so any guidance will be worth its weight in gold to my addled brain right now. with gratitude, Robin