Originally Posted by ithappened
yeap. the twins will be our last.. I hate being pregnant to be honest and this is really the last go for me. We wanted 3 kids, so we got lucky I guess that #2 ended up also being #3
That has to be the blessing for you with going through a twin pregnancy! One last time to be pregnant. I do not like being pregnant either. I get morning sickness something fierce and then all the aches later on; I think the only neat part is feeling them move and that personal connection to them in your womb. But that's it! I can't get over how tired I am this time around, so I'm ready to not have to feel like this while raising kids again!
Originally Posted by sallyrae17
People actually give me weird looks when I say that I'm done after "only two."
It's so crappy how people give judgments about having babies and how many you have. We get the opposite. We ran into someone about a month ago who we haven't seen in years. At the time we last met up, I was pregnant with our second. She actually said, "So, are you guys ever going to stop?" And people like to joke about how if we have "just one more" or "just two more" that we can have a basketball or whatever team.
Originally Posted by rebecca10
Yes, this is our last too. But I have a lot of mixed feelings about it...But the finality of this being the last, definitely makes me sad sometimes, as I've really enjoined pregnancy and the baby stage, and I'm just not sure that I'm ready to be done. It makes every stage with this pregnancy all the more special, but also poignant.
We always planned on having four, so it was just expected this would be our last. But there is still a part of me that deep inside says, "But, but, but... I'm only going to be 29 when he's delivered! That's so young still!" It's so...final. As the pregnancy moves forward, I'm feeling more closure. When I first tested, I couldn't imagine this being the last. I think what's driving it home is how hard it is to school the kids (we home school) with an active toddler and while being so exhausted while being pregnant. I really want to be able to devote more time and attention to their schooling.
Originally Posted by KristyDi
I'm intentionally putting off saying, "This is it." until after this one is born. I had wanted at least 3. But with my age, how long it takes us to get pregnant and how much more difficult this pregnancy is than the last one (and how much more difficult another might be when I'm 3 or 4 years older). I'm feeling like this might be it. I really don't like being pregnant.
But I'm really stressed right now with trying to pack the house and move to an as yet undiscovered house we plan to rent while DH, who has worked from home for the last 3 years, is suddenly never around because of his new job. Plus I've been diagnosed with Pregnancy Induced Hypertension this time. My "This is it." feeling may be a reaction to the general upheaval and stress.
I would definitely wait until things settle and the baby is born to decide. It sounds like you have a lot going on right now! We knew we wanted 4, but after baby #3, we still had our fosterling and it was looking like she might stay with us forever. We were toying with the idea of closing the door then, but I was stressed and we decided that, since it was different from "the plan," we'd just wait it out and see. I'm glad we did, because she ended up going home and we ended up wanting our 4th. Are you moving far? Will you have family and friends nearby? We moved during my last pregnancy to a city several hours away and I was so stressed out without family support or close-by friends. I hope that you will have loved ones nearby as you adjust.