Originally Posted by Lizbiz
This is a really interesting conversation... I don't think this is our last... but since I work more than full time - and this is our 3rd and I am the one who carries/births/nurses the kiddos... it's hitting home that it may not be the most practical idea to have 6 kiddos ;). But I'd like a big family and so would my husband. So I hope we can figure it out. But I'm not a head-in-the-clouds kind of person either who thinks I can adequately parent 6 kiddos and work 50 hours a week. Ain't gonna happen.
But who knows - I've been struck before in my life with how limitations I really thought were in place were shattered and doors opened where I thought there were none. I have learned time and again in the past few decades, that my own intellectual and emotional understanding of life is limited and that there is something much greater at work. So the desire in my heart for a house full of kiddos is probably not in vain and somehow that door will open.
So, I'll probably win the lottery and then have 10 more kids. It could happen, right?
Very true! For us, we're at the point where we would have to make some large financial changes to have a fifth. First, we rent a townhouse. The regulations are clear and posted: the space we occupy is only allowed to have 6 people, according to square foot per person laws for renting. So, we'll hit 6 with this. We aren't ready to buy yet because we don't know if we'll stay here. My husband's job was quickly moved up here and we were given an ultimatum of either move in the next week with it or risk not having a job in 3 months. That was 3 years ago. The market is turning around, but we can't quite move home yet...and don't really want to live in this city forever.
And then there's our van. We'll be at the limit for carseats when this one is born, so having another would mean taking on another car payment and moving to a much more expensive van, past a minivan. I know we can't do that.
I, for one, hope you win the lottery, can stay home, and can have 10 more kids!