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[Thandiwe]

Originally Posted by youngspiritmom 

Haha Thandiwe.....I think the people with multiple kids who are reading this are laughing, and the first time mamas reading your post are probably looking like this

For the record, first time mamas, this is my second pregnancy, but after birthing my first (7lbs 7 ounces) things pretty much went back to normal.....

True!!  After my first, 8# 4oz, things did indeed go back to normal.

Originally Posted by Ninetales 

See, I'm not a first timer but my first was a section, so I admit I do worry quite a bit about that kind of stuff.  I'm hoping if this baby is unnaturally big or positioned, that he just won't come out.  I don't know if I want to necessarily birth a double digit weight, big headed baby.

If I had known, I don't think I would have agreed.  My midwife said she thought 10# max when I saw her about a week before the birth.  Right after the birth, she confided that they expected at least 11# but didn't want to tell me.  I'm kind of glad they didn't; I don't think I would have been as gung-ho about it.  As it was I didn't believe her fish scale...until he had to go in at just a few days old and the high-tech digital scale at the hospital matched the fish scale amount we saw earlier in the day at her check-up.  He was abnormal and my results afterwards were abnormal.    This isn't normal!!!!!  Don't worry!!!!!! 

[youngspiritmom]

There's a business around here that does physical therapy for that....area...believe it or not. The lady says there's a muscle on each side of the "birthing canal" and that some women have one side that is tighter than the other etc....which if the baby feels during delivery sends a signal "don't come this way!" and can lead to complications. Anyway, she works on helping moms develop tone, healing etc. both during pregnancy and after delivery, with second babies etc. It's like the benefits of doing kegels only with a specialist.....still not really sure how the actual physical therapy works though......

Also I went to the chiropracter almost two years after birthing my first and was amazing how many aches and pains dissolved in my body after a few sessions of her adjusting/aligning my pelvis...apparently the left side was was higher than the right! She said with women - especially those who have given birth -- improper pelvic position is apparently very common.

[Thandiwe]

Originally Posted by youngspiritmom 

There's a business around here that does physical therapy for that....area...believe it or not. The lady says there's a muscle on each side of the "birthing canal" and that some women have one side that is tighter than the other etc....which if the baby feels during delivery sends a signal "don't come this way!" and can lead to complications. Anyway, she works on helping moms develop tone, healing etc. both during pregnancy and after delivery, with second babies etc. It's like the benefits of doing kegels only with a specialist.....still not really sure how the actual physical therapy works though......

Also I went to the chiropracter almost two years after birthing my first and was amazing how many aches and pains dissolved in my body after a few sessions of her adjusting/aligning my pelvis...apparently the left side was was higher than the right! She said with women - especially those who have given birth -- improper pelvic position is apparently very common.

The physical therapy would be....awkward, lol.  I wonder if it really works?  My problem is that I tore so severely that the perineum didn't grow back together enough without stitches and is much, much, much shorter than it should be.  Oh the things I'd do differently if I knew!  I probably would have gone in for stitches myself if I knew it wouldn't heal well enough on it's own.

And I hear you on the chiropractor!  I had the same thing happen with my first; my hips were out of place as well.  I didn't realize it was so common thought it makes perfect sense.  Birthing is normal, natural, and HARD on your body!  I find more aches this pregnancy around then I did in the previous ones.

[Ninetales]

It's funny how much more scared of the vaginal I am this time.  I was so gung ho about it last time when I knew everything.  I still don't want another c-section, but at least that's something I've already experienced so it doesn't seem so scary.

[ithappened]

Ninetales I feel the same way! I haven't had a c-section but in a weird way it feels more 'controlled' which right now is appealing to me-- as horrible as that is to admit. Being able to take DS to preschool then go to the hospital and not have to factor in childcare is a BIG deal for us..  For me, the healing time after my vaginal birth was so much longer then expected-- at least with a c-s you sort of know more or less what to except in the aftermath? but maybe not.

Edited by ithappened - 5/16/12 at 3:51am

[folkgirl]

I think there is a wide variation of c-section recovery stories, too. I do see how the illusion of control is there, though.

[Mama Chickadee]

Originally Posted by ainh 
 I do like that my belly is taut!  Unless I have plastic surgery this is the last time in my life that I'm going to have taut skin across my belly ;)

I never thought of this, but now each time I look at my belly, I think of your post! :) I'd like to think that after this one, I will work on my "mummy tummy" but let's be real, I didn't after my last two, so I probably won't after this baby, either!

I am pretty sure this is our last. We've always said "one at a time" but 3 seems like a good number. Let me rephrase. 3 seems like as much as we can possibly handle! DH travels internationally a lot, so I am single-momming it frequently. I was sort of shocked when we got pregnant so quickly (it took 2 days as opposed to the 6 or 8 months it took with the previous 2) so I am honestly sometimes still getting used to the idea of having 3. I thought it might be sometime this summer that we'd get pregnant!

I am rather surprised at myself though. With my first pregnancy, I would get emotional/sad after each pregnancy milestone had passed (happy and excited, too, but...) and I would remind myself that we were definitely planning on having at least another, so I would experience it again. With my second pregnancy, we were pretty sure we were having a 3rd, so I didn't ever get sad about things passing by. However, I used to think, "Wow, my 3rd pregnancy is going to be so sad as I realize I'm ever doing this again!"

The funny thing is,  now that I am pregnant for the 3rd and probably last time, I feel like I am ready to be done with this. I *am* enjoying the pregnancy, but the aches and pains are coming much earlier, and I am feeling the fact that I am 5 years older than the first time I did this. Also, it doesn't help that I have 2 kids to run after, one of whom still doesn't consistently sleep through the night (and yep, that's him, he just started fussing again!). 

So, I am pretty sure that this is it for us, and I think I am pretty ok with it. I'm not sure what we're doing for birth control after this. DH will absolutely not consider the big V, and it seems like a pretty big surgery for me. I took hormonal birth control until we started having kids, but after having a bout of depression from being on the "wrong" brand, I am just not willing to mess with my body like that again. So, its looking like condoms, which is fine with me, less so for DH. 

[ithappened]

The funny thing is,  now that I am pregnant for the 3rd and probably last time, I feel like I am ready to be done with this. I *am* enjoying the pregnancy, but the aches and pains are coming much earlier, and I am feeling the fact that I am 5 years older than the first time I did this. Also, it doesn't help that I have 2 kids to run after, one of whom still doesn't consistently sleep through the night (and yep, that's him, he just started fussing again!).

DITTO! I completely agree. :)
 

[LilyTiger]

Originally Posted by Mama Chickadee I took hormonal birth control until we started having kids, but after having a bout of depression from being on the "wrong" brand, I am just not willing to mess with my body like that again. So, its looking like condoms, which is fine with me, less so for DH. 

Mama Chickadee, have you looked into Paraguard, the non-hormonal IUD?  I'm thinking about it after this pregnancy or at least after I finish having kids.  I can't do hormonal birth control at all.  I tried three different types and all made me an insane person.  The copper IUD might be something to look into. 

[Ninetales]

Once we're done, after one or two more, I can't do hormonal either.  I was on various pills for eleven years and when I went off the year before we got pregnant with Elsa it was like I suddenly stopped being crazy.  It was so weird, I remember feeling so *different* after I stopped taking them.  Like I'd really been insane, and now I was normal.  I'll never do it again.  I won't do a tubal either, just because of the invasiveness and the cost.  I don't like the idea of an IUD, so our options will pretty much be FAM with condoms, or a V if he's up to it.

[pennywhistle]

Not to derail the conversation, but FAM with condoms is exactly what got me to this forum in the first place...

[ithappened]

yeah DS1 was a BCP baby, and the twins are thanks to a pooly placed IUD...

[Thandiwe]

Originally Posted by pennywhistle 

Not to derail the conversation, but FAM with condoms is exactly what got me to this forum in the first place...

Baby #3 was the same for me!

[Thandiwe]

Originally Posted by LilyTiger 

Mama Chickadee, have you looked into Paraguard, the non-hormonal IUD?  I'm thinking about it after this pregnancy or at least after I finish having kids.  I can't do hormonal birth control at all.  I tried three different types and all made me an insane person.  The copper IUD might be something to look into. 

I hope it works for you!  I was so excited to get it, but it hurt to have it in (not just placement but having it in).  And then it caused me to bleed every single day for the 6 weeks I had it in place.  I ended up pulling it out at home on my own and it had begun to attach to flesh by the time it came out.  From the moment I removed it, I didn't bleed for over a year later, when AF naturally returned while bf'ing.  My sister had the hormonal one (Mirena, I think?) and she had an awful experience.  I really hope it works for you....but be vigilant that it might not. Since then, I've met several women who couldn't tolerate an IUD.  I was so bummed!  I really wanted it to work for me.