So anyway, background: We were planning a hospital birth because it was significantly cheaper than either a home birth or birth center birth, which our insurance will not cover. My daughter was born at a freestanding birth center (we had no maternity insurance with her and this was our cheapest option), and I was attended by a midwife and an apprentice midwife. That apprentice midwife is now a certified midwife and agreed to be my doula at the hopsital as a personal favor. I like her a lot and had a really awesome experience in general with my daughter's birth.
Today we met to go over my birth plan and our contract expectations and she very graciously offered to attend me at home for a significantly reduced fee. I'm not sure what went into her decision to offer this, but she and her partner (who I think is a CNM or possibly a registered nurse) are just setting up their own practice. I can't tell you how overwhelmed I am. This would be about the same cost out of pocket as our hospital birth would be.
I've spent most of the day near tears/in tears because I thought an out-of-hospital birth was completely out of reach for us this time around. I do want a homebirth. I am letting myself admit that now. DH is starting to get excited about the possibility as well.
Things holding me back:
- I do really like my OB, I will likely see him in social situations in the future, and I don't want to piss him off.
- Our families would FREAK OUT if we had a homebirth. Hiding it from them is not an option. We respect them too much to lie, even if it causes discord.
- What if we end up at the hospital anyway? Then we've way overspent our budget. Not likely as my daughter's birth was uneventful, but still.
- I have a superficial (not DVT) blood clot in a varicose vein in my leg (caused by pregnancy). I'm not sure if this is a risky thing or a minor thing in labor (I do know nothing can be done about it until after I give birth and it is not dangerous immediately), I need to ask more questions.
I do think I will have trouble getting the birth I want in the hospital. If I do get it I will probably have a fight on my hands, and I don't want my son's birthday to be stressful.
I still need to go over my birth plan with my OB and also at the hospital tour before I make any decisions. That will probably be the clincher. My doula has agreed to doula for me no matter what decision we make, and she is very cool about the whole thing. So I'll have her with me no matter what.
Any thoughts or advice? I feel like something exploded in my brain. Just to have the option of an out of hospital birth is such a gift.