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[BaileyB]

Originally Posted by Eandko 

So, just to ramble a bit, J and I are moving towards weaning. It's mostly led by me. We have been down to 4 times a day quite consistently for the last several months. I recently cut out his first thing in the morning feed. The first day he was absolutely furious. We had talked about it ahead of time, but I guess he thought I wouldn't stick to it. He screamed and screamed at me for about half an hour. The second day he whimpered a little but got over it quickly. The third day (this morning) he asked for mama milk and I said let's snuggle instead. He was totally fine and just snuggled in! Whew! I was afraid after that first day I was making a huge mistake, but now he seems to be initiating a further reduction.

He hasn't nursed down for a nap the last few days. He has skipped the nap altogether a few times (not the greatest for me, but we'll deal) and today he just refused to nurse even though I could tell he was sleepy. We went out instead and he napped in the car. Then tonight at bedtime he only nursed a tiny bit. He tried both sides and said they were empty, then proceeded to wind himself up and try to fight sleep. Eventually he calmed back down, had another 30 sec nurse and then lay still while I rubbed his back and sang to him. This is huge for us. He has almost exclusively nursed to sleep for the last 2.5 years. Also, nursing is making me stabby. It hurts so much and it just makes me twitch all over. I'm really hoping we can wean all the way.

We have been trying to get pregnant since my cycles returned at 11 months pp. Had I known it would bring an end to nursing I wouldn't have been so hasty. I'm really glad we made it this far, but I will not be sorry to be done. I know lots of people who nurse to 3, 4, 5 and beyond, and encourage nursing right through pregnancy even with the pain. That's just not for me. 2.5 years is a great accomplishment and I'm proud of that.

Hey, I only made it 4 months so, yea, 2.5 years is frickin amazing!! I'm am definetly hoping to go at least a year with this babe.

I think I will make a chiro appt. I was contemplating whether it would help or not because it kinda feels sciatic-y but also muscular but I am leaning towards going on Friday anyway. My chiro will be the only doc I will be seeing until the 3rd tri anyway so it will be nice to have a medical person to ask things. Plus he does acupuncture!

[revolting]

Originally Posted by Eandko 

So, just to ramble a bit, J and I are moving towards weaning. It's mostly led by me. We have been down to 4 times a day quite consistently for the last several months. I recently cut out his first thing in the morning feed. The first day he was absolutely furious. We had talked about it ahead of time, but I guess he thought I wouldn't stick to it. He screamed and screamed at me for about half an hour. The second day he whimpered a little but got over it quickly. The third day (this morning) he asked for mama milk and I said let's snuggle instead. He was totally fine and just snuggled in! Whew! I was afraid after that first day I was making a huge mistake, but now he seems to be initiating a further reduction.

He hasn't nursed down for a nap the last few days. He has skipped the nap altogether a few times (not the greatest for me, but we'll deal) and today he just refused to nurse even though I could tell he was sleepy. We went out instead and he napped in the car. Then tonight at bedtime he only nursed a tiny bit. He tried both sides and said they were empty, then proceeded to wind himself up and try to fight sleep. Eventually he calmed back down, had another 30 sec nurse and then lay still while I rubbed his back and sang to him. This is huge for us. He has almost exclusively nursed to sleep for the last 2.5 years. Also, nursing is making me stabby. It hurts so much and it just makes me twitch all over. I'm really hoping we can wean all the way.

We have been trying to get pregnant since my cycles returned at 11 months pp. Had I known it would bring an end to nursing I wouldn't have been so hasty. I'm really glad we made it this far, but I will not be sorry to be done. I know lots of people who nurse to 3, 4, 5 and beyond, and encourage nursing right through pregnancy even with the pain. That's just not for me. 2.5 years is a great accomplishment and I'm proud of that.

I haven't nursed my youngest for a few weeks, so I'm guessing we're done. I'm kind of sad, because I nursed my eldest until she was four, but I also hated tandem nursing and knew I didn't want to do it again.

Originally Posted by zebrachick83 

Another vote for chiropractic here. I go every two weeks and it is literally a lifesaver. 

I wish I had the money for it.

[phatchristy]

Originally Posted by Eandko 

 I know lots of people who nurse to 3, 4, 5 and beyond, and encourage nursing right through pregnancy even with the pain. That's just not for me. 2.5 years is a great accomplishment and I'm proud of that.

You've done awesome!  I will say, having worked with a lot of nursing moms in the past the vast majority do wean during pregnancy unless the baby is really young.  The nursling would have to make it through the switch in taste and amount, and most who are older will not do that.  I had one who nursed through a pregnancy who was under a year when I got pregnant, but my other two weaned within a few months of me getting pregnant.  This time, my nearly 3 1/2 year old had already quit on his own a while ago....and I'm happy not to have to deal with nursing while pregnant.  

The morning sickness seems to have ramped up today.  I'm pretty much constantly nauseous right now, and this morning actually threw up...on an empty stomach...so I guess it was acid or something.  YUCK!  And, it hurt too.  I remember the morning sickness usually kicks up in the 6th week.  Definitely feels that way here!

[zebrachick83]

@revolting - If my husband's insurance wasn't kicking in for it, we wouldn't be going to the chiro either...lol. I had a severe back injury during the winter and the chiro was the only doctor that had any sense to check my back. (The doctors at the hospital insisted I had an aneurysm and ran $57k worth of tests over four days.) Since then, I've dealt with sporadic sciatica and muscle spasms, so I can already tell this pregnancy is going to be a joy around month 7 or so. 

OAN: I felt absolutely dreadful this morning. Like I had just run a marathon. I literally got up, got showered and dressed, fed the kids breakfast, and then laid back down and went to sleep on the sofa while they played with Legos. This early trimester exhaustion is totally kicking my behind.

[Eandko]

Had a wicked awesome birth dream last night. I was just thinking how it was strange I haven't had any pregnancy dreams since my first pregnancy, and then I got a great one! I birthed a healthy boy at home unassisted with just my hubby off in the background. I felt awesome!

Just thought I'd share. Any other birth/pregnancy dreams happening out there?

[travelmumma]

Eandko and Zebrachick- I just have to say I LOVE your profile pics!! Both just tooo adorable!

Eandko- As far as pregnancy dreams go, my brain is going crazy over it! My "day brain: cant seem to remember that Im pregnant, but my "night brain" definately makes up for all of my forgetfull moments!

I have had dreams that DH and I buy an orange hovercraft stroller that DH just wont stop playing with! I have dreams of bushwalking with baby :) Everynight I have a dream about bump or baby. So I think thats a good sign that at least one part of my brain knows that something is happening!

Actually DH had a dream the other night that we had a little girl (Thats what I think this little one is right now) and she was laying in our arms as we snuggled in bed.. Then (in the dream) DH looks up and notices a tiny baby boy snuggled up on my shoulder like a pirate parrot! HAHAHA??????

As far as heart rates go.. I thought lower was girls and higher was boys?? Maybe I have it wrong? My LO's heart rate at  6w 3d was 124 bpm.. So what does that say???

[travelmumma]

Also on a (controversial???) different note.... Is anyone "hoping" for one sex over the other???

I am now ??hoping?? this LO is a girl.. But i am not sure if that is because I really think it is a girl??? (In fact I thought we may have a girl even before we concieved.. something just felt different)

(And I feel very guilty about this trust me!)

I am also a bit worried that if this bub is a boy I wont know "what to do with it".. Does that make sense in a silly way?

In fact I think I am kinda scared of having a little baby boy.. I think somehow this relates to my being sexually abused as a child .. But I am not sure how it connects...

Anyone else feeling similar ways???

[esp831]

Travel Mumma- I'm secretly a bit intimidated by the thought of having a boy too.  I have two girls already and of course will be happy with either but, will I have the energy to keep up with a boy?  Do I have the right set of parenting skills to raise a happy and healthy boy?  I'm relying on faith that my instincts will kick in.  All of my friends who have boys have a wonderful, strong, and sweet relationship with them, so I hope I can do the same.  I don't have any brothers and my dad is not a great role model.  Good thing I found an awesome DH!  He's all the role model we'll need.  I don't think there is anything to feel guilty about!  It's very common for mommas to wish one way or the other, but I'm sure as soon as you find out you will be thrilled with whatever the result may be.  And you can always have more...

[phatchristy]

Travelmumma and Esp---boys are pretty similar to girls in temperament up until around 3 years old in my experience, then somehow it seems like they get more spontaneous and impulsive.  Maybe a bit more aggressive as well.

I saw something the other day, someone else I know who is preggo with #5 and she has two boys and two girls also....and she calls this one the 'tie breaker'.  Kind of made me laugh.

[tropicana74]

On the topic of boys I just have to say....my DS has my heart. I  love and adore my girls but there was something about my son from the second I held him. He is a mamas boy and even though he is definitely different from my girls like being more aggressive, plays rough etc. he ADORES his mommy and our bond has always been so strong. He is SO loving and sweet. I truly have a hard time disciplining him or telling him no. He gets away with a lot more than my girls ever did because he bats those long eye lashes at me and smiles and he melts my heart. 

So, don't be surprised if you end up with a boy and find the same thing.

My MIL and I joke that we already hate his future wife (this of course is a total joke but I really do hate the idea of him replacing his mom some day...pathetic, I know). 

[mamatosaskia]

Hi,

Perhaps I can add some of my own experience to help. I had a dd first and when I was pregnant with ds, I was so desperate to hear "girl" again at the u/s. When it was so very obvious that ds was a boy (popped right up on the screen), I shut down. I ended up in therapy, where I cried over and over again "I don't know what to do with a boy." I seriously blame the hormones, I felt crazed about it all. Fast forward to the day he was born. Never, in a million years, could I prepare for the overwhelming sense of love and protection I felt for that little boy. He is the sweetest, most tender, loving little being that I could have ever wished for. I honestly believe now that it was a true blessing to be given this awesome job of raising a strong, sensitive boy. I love my dd, but there is something about the connection between ds and I. I don't know if it is that I fee more responsible for helping my dd avoid all the mistakes I made (which really weren't that many anyway). I also sense deep down that dd will always be part of me, where I sometimes feel like ds will grow up to be this mystery.

The whole point is, if you are lucky enough to have a girl first, that is awesome. But, if you are lucky enough to have a boy first, you will instantly know what to do with him. Love him, nurse him, cherish him. He will be your light, no matter the anxiety or discomfort you might feel now about having a boy.

JJ

[zebrachick83]

Thanks @travelmumma!

I'm hoping for a girl, because we already have two boys sharing a room and it'd be nice to have another girl to even out the room sharing. Our heartrate was 130 at 7 weeks, so I suspect it's a girl. (Our boys had faster heartbeats than our daughter.) But, on the other hand, I've never had the heartbeat tested so early before either, so I actually have no idea what's going on. I had a birth dream myself the other night and it was clearly a boy. So, there's that.

[Mamabeakley]

I guess I'm kind of hoping for a girl, but primarily because it would even things out!  It's not very important to me which sex we get, this time.  I think there can be some real, general, sex differences even very early on - but I think each child is so different from the others (in my family) that sex isn't the primary indicator.  DS1 is SOOOOOOO boy in every stereotypical way.  DS2 is very, very different - but also clearly, clearly male to me.  DD is a girly girl!  But those are only small parts of their total personalities.

[kateadelle]

We are also hoping for a girl. I really only want to have one child and have always hoped to raise a daughter. I know that we will be madly in love with the baby we get, of course. 

[Eandko]

Thanks Travelmumma! I think it's my favourite photo ever. :)

When I was pregnant with my son I thought he would be a girl, and really, really wanted him to be. As soon as he was born and my husband said "It's a boy!!!" I was thrilled and fell madly in love with him. He is so sweet and calm and sensitive, and not really what I expected from a boy at all, but even if he was loud and super-busy and climbing the walls all the time I'd still be madly in love with him.

[phatchristy]

Originally Posted by Eandko 

Thanks Travelmumma! I think it's my favourite photo ever. :)

When I was pregnant with my son I thought he would be a girl, and really, really wanted him to be. As soon as he was born and my husband said "It's a boy!!!" I was thrilled and fell madly in love with him. He is so sweet and calm and sensitive, and not really what I expected from a boy at all, but even if he was loud and super-busy and climbing the walls all the time I'd still be madly in love with him.

That's the cool thing about waiting to find out and getting the surprise as well.  You never have to deal with the emotions involved if it's not what you expect.  When the baby is there you and you find out it doesn't matter as they're there!

As Tropicana talked about her son it reminds me of mine...my oldest son is like this.  He's a total momma's boy.  Lots of hugs, kisses, cuddles...and he's way more cuddly with me than either of my girls were at that age.  He's 6 and super lovable.  He looks the most like me of any of the kids, and even more sweet is that his personality is so much like my Dad's (I'm sort of like him as well).  My dad passed away over a decade ago, and my son is so much like him (the resemblance and the personality) it's a real joy.  Even my mom sees it...which really touches her heart as well.  

[purposefuldoula]

I'm kind of wanting a boy this time around, maybe for a change? We have two girls, and found out their sex at 20 week scans, but this time I'm kind of wanting to wait. We only kept a few hand made baby stuff from them, so it's not like I'm holding onto a bunch of girl stuff to use with this baby. Also, when I see my friends with their sons, my heart just melts. I so want that mama/son bond. 

I'm still SO DANG TIRED! DH just started a new job two weeks ago, and after being unemployed for three months, I'm not used to doing it all again, now pregnant! When the weekend comes, I'm just beat. He just took the girls out of the house for the second time today so I can rest. I feel so bad! But I'm totally taking it up on it! 

So, am I crazy, or could I really be feeling this baby already? I'll be 11 weeks on Monday and for the last few days, I swear I've been feeling tiny movements way down low. Anyone else already? 

[travelmumma]

is anyone else suffering from (what I have started calling) "porn boobs"????
Boobs that get bigger everyday and are hard as rocks! Haha DH and my cat love them. At least the cat gets to sit on them (must be warm and a new perch as I am normally flat!!) but DH ain't getting none!! Lol too sore!!!

[Mamabeakley]

No porn boobs here - I'm still nursing DD so while things may have enlarged a little, they're still in lactation mode so it's not a huge change.  

I'm only 8+ weeks and I'm starting to think I'm feeling movements - very, very faint, can't tell for sure movements.  But fun to imagine!