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post #101 of 125

Thanks friends!

She is doing better, and her breathing is getting less wet sounding. She is having active alert time now at not quite 24 hours old so that is a good sign. I think she is getting transitioned to life outside the womb.

I didn't tear at all but damn if my tailbone and butt dont hurt. looking at her beautiful face it hardly seems real. oh my goodness the hair too! Always had bald babies lol.

will get a pic posted soon

 

drinking lots of mothers milk tea. yech.

just holding her close to keep her breathing monitored & to give her my example..plus it feels so good to hold a baby lol

 

 

how are you all doing??

 

eta: was able to get a latch with a nipple shield and she sucked finally about an hour ago.

post #102 of 125
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I also wanted to say- Bubble, re: nursing. I remember being REALLY baffled about how to achieve that textbook "proper latch" with my daughter when my nipple was as big as her mouth. Then again had the same "what the heck?" moment with DS. The truth of it is, as far as I can tell, that you can't get much of any areola into baby's mouth. What is really important is the depth of the latch- if they can latch with a wide-open mouth and draw the nipple far enough back into their mouths (should be easy, I always think, considering how HUGE my nipples are!) then they'll be able to nurse effectively.

 

I always find the first 2 weeks painful. I get some blisters from poor latching (one poor latch hurts so much that the 10 good ones hardly seem to count!), with DD I had some bleeding with the blisters. Different positioning helps a lot. For the newborn stage, the only way I can get a baby latched on to my left side without me screaming is in the football hold, because that side has some "lean" to it (points slightly to the left) but it took me a while to figure that one out! After the first two weeks they've grown a bit and have better head control and it all changes around then but I just go into it expecting that no matter how perfectly they might be nursing, for me it's still painful.

Nursing is definitely better.  I think we're starting to get the hang of it!  It's still painful for the first few seconds, but I've read that that can be normal. 

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Turns out it was labor (so that's what it's like--ow). Story and pics soon.

Baby girl, mw-assisted water-birth at a birthing suite after 13 hours of labor at home with DH and doula as heroic birth-team.  May 7th, 3:32pm, 8lbs 7oz, 21" and HUNGRY!

 Congrats!!  :D

 

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Originally Posted by Onemoreontheway View Post

Thanks friends!

She is doing better, and her breathing is getting less wet sounding. She is having active alert time now at not quite 24 hours old so that is a good sign. I think she is getting transitioned to life outside the womb.

I didn't tear at all but damn if my tailbone and butt dont hurt. looking at her beautiful face it hardly seems real. oh my goodness the hair too! Always had bald babies lol.

will get a pic posted soon

 

drinking lots of mothers milk tea. yech.

just holding her close to keep her breathing monitored & to give her my example..plus it feels so good to hold a baby lol

 

 

how are you all doing??

 

eta: was able to get a latch with a nipple shield and she sucked finally about an hour ago.

Congrats!  I'm glad she's doing better!

post #103 of 125

Congrats Onemore!  I'm glad to hear that baby girl seems to be adjusting. 

post #104 of 125
Onemore I am so glad she is doing better !! My tailbone hurts too!! and I had totally forgotten how intense/painful the uterine ctx get when baby nurses!!
post #105 of 125

OneMore - so happy to hear she is doing better. Maybe some babes just need more time to adjust to life outside? I know I would. Good to hear she's latched on and is alert. 

 

Meredith! What! Yay. Can't wait to hear your birth story! 

 

Wow everyone. So many babies born. Such exciting and unique birth stories all of them. Anyone else become a waterworks when you read birth stories? I was like this when I was pregs with DS as well. I remember DH and I made the mistake of watching Knocked Up when I was pregnant with DS and rather than be frustrated by what an idiotic movie it was, I remember balling my eyes out at the birth scene. Anything - from the most real birth story to a dumb Hollywood movie birth scene gets my tear ducts flowing. Oh well. 

 

As for me... remind me I'm not the only pregnant woman left, please! eyesroll.gif

 

I am still not in labor and it is crazy to me. So so totally different from DS. I'm dilated at least 4 cm, have officially lost the mucous plug (eww is right. It looked kind of like an oyster? or a slug?). Had bloody show two nights ago. Had constant low level cramping contractions for the past two days. But nothing doing?  OK, so I know SOMETHING is happening. I know I just need to trust that my body is doing what it has to do to gear up for labor. But ... come on baby! And also - I think this is a big baby. Like, a really big baby. a little nervous, as I did push DS (he was 8lb 10.5 oz but had a REALLY big head LOL) out for 5 hours. I have some PTSD about that. 

 

Baby is SUPER ACTIVE. I feel like DS was less active when labor was close but maybe I just don't remember. Anyway, I would really love for baby to come by Sunday. Monday is a terrible day. First, the "post date" ultrasound (it's my EDD. doesn't really feel like post date!), another Dr appt, and my CRAZY FIL COMES on Mondays. I really really really can't stress enough how badly I want baby to be here by Sunday so I can cancel on FIL, don't have to put myself or baby through an ultrasound, and just be on the "other side" again.

 

I am totally losing my mind. I just need to put on some good music and relax.  

post #106 of 125
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I am totally losing my mind. I just need to put on some good music and relax.  

 

This is good advice. I need to take this. Freaking being positive "tonight is the night!" just makes me want to sit around and cry the next day when I'm still pregnant. I keep telling myself I'm only 6 days past a pretty arbitrary due date, it doesn't mean ANYTHING, but I'm still miserable.

 

At least you're getting some signs! Can't reach my cervix still, no bloody show, nada. No increase in contractions. Baby is still super mobile. I give up.

post #107 of 125

Grace - I'm totally going to sleep every night wondering if it's "the night" and then waking up sort of miserable that it's just another normal day of getting DS ready for school and being pregnant.  Especially the bloody show thing. That really made me think baby was coming. I even lined up all our middle of the night back up for DS. And prepared my parents, who have to drive 4 hours to get here... 

 

But yes - music... I made two new playlists. They actually really help put me in a great mood. Also - trying so hard to remember that our bodies know what they are doing! And I guess, if I can manage to get this positive (its very hard) I try to enjoy these last moments of not experiencing active labor - because it's so intense! but that doesn't work as well because really I am looking forward to feeling those intense surges and am really, really curious how things are going to play out this time around. 

 

 

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This is good advice. I need to take this. Freaking being positive "tonight is the night!" just makes me want to sit around and cry the next day when I'm still pregnant. I keep telling myself I'm only 6 days past a pretty arbitrary due date, it doesn't mean ANYTHING, but I'm still miserable.

 

At least you're getting some signs! Can't reach my cervix still, no bloody show, nada. No increase in contractions. Baby is still super mobile. I give up.

post #108 of 125

Earlier this week I was concerned about the possibility of going into labor because DH is out of town. Seems so silly now, in retrospect.


Wednesday afternoon we had a completely unexpected and tragic death in the family (my first cousin). I wasn't particularly close to him and only saw him 5 or 6 times a year. But, still, my heart is broken for him, for our grandmother, my aunt (his mom) and his children. There's no positive spin to put on the circumstances surrounding his death and it's left everyone hurting terribly. 


I'm bouncing back and forth between breaking down about his death and being excited about this baby's birth, between really missing DH and trying to focus on making the most out of these last days with just my 2 sweet girls. I'm not sure how to process this all at once except just to ride along with the emotions and trust that my heart knows the best way to heal itself.
 

Rationally I know the birth will be a happy event and that the joy of a new baby will be uplifting for the family regardless of the timing. However, not only would it feel very inappropriate to give birth while the family is collectively grieving & planning/attending such a heartbreaking funeral, but selfishly I don't want to meet this baby for the first time with so much sorrow in my heart.


I'm not exactly sure what the point of this post is; I just felt like I needed to let some of these emotions out. Thanks for bearing with me ♥

post #109 of 125

Luna! *hugs* I'm so sorry for your family's loss. I can't even imagine the conflict of emotions you're feeling right now!!!

 

*more hugs*

post #110 of 125

Luna - so sorry!  I can't imagine how difficult this must be for you.

 

And to the overdue mamas who are just waiting... thinking of you all.  I know how crazy I'm getting and I'm still two weeks away from my EDD.

 

**HUGS** for everyone today!

post #111 of 125

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so sorry LuNa

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Earlier this week I was concerned about the possibility of going into labor because DH is out of town. Seems so silly now, in retrospect.


Wednesday afternoon we had a completely unexpected and tragic death in the family (my first cousin). I wasn't particularly close to him and only saw him 5 or 6 times a year. But, still, my heart is broken for him, for our grandmother, my aunt (his mom) and his children. There's no positive spin to put on the circumstances surrounding his death and it's left everyone hurting terribly. 


I'm bouncing back and forth between breaking down about his death and being excited about this baby's birth, between really missing DH and trying to focus on making the most out of these last days with just my 2 sweet girls. I'm not sure how to process this all at once except just to ride along with the emotions and trust that my heart knows the best way to heal itself.
 

Rationally I know the birth will be a happy event and that the joy of a new baby will be uplifting for the family regardless of the timing. However, not only would it feel very inappropriate to give birth while the family is collectively grieving & planning/attending such a heartbreaking funeral, but selfishly I don't want to meet this baby for the first time with so much sorrow in my heart.


I'm not exactly sure what the point of this post is; I just felt like I needed to let some of these emotions out. Thanks for bearing with me ♥

post #112 of 125
Sorry Luna...
post #113 of 125

Luna - May peace find you all. I'm very sorry about your cousin.

 

You ladies keep hanging in there. I know easier said than done when you are 'on the other side' but trust me - I feel you guys. I didn't really believe I was in labor until transition time pretty much, just thought I was having really strong practice... so maybe thats how it will be for you guys.

 

Dodi is so sleepy. Midwife thinks it would be better if i took her in to a pediatrician. I could tell she was disappointed the earliest apt we could get was Monday. I think we are all just processing stuff, so thankful things are getting better...but I am really trying to fight off guilt feelings? Dh is also. Every person he talks to he is all like "I didnt get the water in the tub hot enough" (?) and all I keep beating myself up for is not pushing hard enough and not sure why I didn't have the urge. I keep thinking I must have been being lazy? I never have had to deal with this kind of ..well...guilt after one of my own births.

 

Any one else?

 

Remembered to take my B vitamin complex and vitamins. I really don't want to get depressed or anything, or feel anxiety or guilt.


There is so much beauty that its such a waste of this precious, brief time to feel anything but absolute joy and thankfulness.

 

Our midwife was so wonderful through and has been. She is just the greatest help.

 

Hope this is ok to share..

post #114 of 125

Luna - I'm sorry about your cousin.  hug2.gif

 

Onemore - I wish I could give you IRL hugs too.  Guilt is such an ugly force, especially to have to be dealing with it PP.  I hope after some time you can reconcile all of these feelings...I imagine right now it's difficult not to do the play back.  Monday probably couldn't come sooner for you, but in the mean time give that sweet face lots of kisses.

post #115 of 125
Oh, Luna, my thoughts are with you and your family.

Onemore, my little Deacon is sleepy too...but he doesn't want to sleep unless he is at the breast. He has nursed or just slept with my nipple in his mouth pretty much non stop since he was born! I am still contemplating how long to wait to take him to the ped. The pediatrician at the hospital recommended I take him for his 1st well visit in 2-3 days. I said I'd call and make an apt to avoid conflict but I was thinking WHAAaattt? Take a 3 day old to the pediatrician's germ-filled office? No way!
post #116 of 125
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Oh, Luna, my thoughts are with you and your family.
Onemore, my little Deacon is sleepy too...but he doesn't want to sleep unless he is at the breast. He has nursed or just slept with my nipple in his mouth pretty much non stop since he was born! I am still contemplating how long to wait to take him to the ped. The pediatrician at the hospital recommended I take him for his 1st well visit in 2-3 days. I said I'd call and make an apt to avoid conflict but I was thinking WHAAaattt? Take a 3 day old to the pediatrician's germ-filled office? No way!

 

I must have missed your birth announcement...you had your baby!!!!  Congrats! I can't wait to see pictures and read his birth story!

post #117 of 125
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Originally Posted by LuNaLu View Post

Earlier this week I was concerned about the possibility of going into labor because DH is out of town. Seems so silly now, in retrospect.


Wednesday afternoon we had a completely unexpected and tragic death in the family (my first cousin). I wasn't particularly close to him and only saw him 5 or 6 times a year. But, still, my heart is broken for him, for our grandmother, my aunt (his mom) and his children. There's no positive spin to put on the circumstances surrounding his death and it's left everyone hurting terribly. 


I'm bouncing back and forth between breaking down about his death and being excited about this baby's birth, between really missing DH and trying to focus on making the most out of these last days with just my 2 sweet girls. I'm not sure how to process this all at once except just to ride along with the emotions and trust that my heart knows the best way to heal itself.
 

Rationally I know the birth will be a happy event and that the joy of a new baby will be uplifting for the family regardless of the timing. However, not only would it feel very inappropriate to give birth while the family is collectively grieving & planning/attending such a heartbreaking funeral, but selfishly I don't want to meet this baby for the first time with so much sorrow in my heart.


I'm not exactly sure what the point of this post is; I just felt like I needed to let some of these emotions out. Thanks for bearing with me ♥

 

LunaLu - I'm so sorry to hear that your family is going through this terrible tragedy. I can empathize with you on the bouncing back and forth between devastation and happiness. When I was pregnant with my first son, my brother was diagnosed with cancer. He died four weeks later, which was a total shock and devastating loss to our whole family. I remember feeling a lot of guilt and sadness mixed with the tremendous joy of being pregnant. It was a very strange time. I was devastated, but I also had all of these happy baby hormones running through me...it was all really confusing. I do know that the birth of my son was considered to be a very healing occasion for my immediate and extended family...a chance to celebrate something good and pure in place of all of the sadness, at least for a few days. Best of luck to you all as you slowly make your way through this time.

post #118 of 125

I'm so sorry to hear that LunaLu, my best to you and your family.

 

Today is my EDD, and I had a visit with the midwife. I did have her do an internal check - I think they're pointless but my husband wanted to know. Yow that was a lot more painful that I was expecting. I mean I know labor will be a whole new level of ouch but... geez.  

 

I've had a handful of pre-e symptoms, including vision problems, but she didn't seem too concerned about any of them, just told me to call or head to the hospital if they get significantly more severe.They've scheduled me for a NST and fluid check at the end of next week (I'd be at 41 weeks), but the midwife said she didn't think I'd make it that far.

 

I've got a couple new labor-ish signs, but I think they're just leftover from the internal check so I'm not getting excited. 

post #119 of 125

I'm so sorry for your loss, Luna. 

post #120 of 125

So sorry Luna ((hugs))

 

Baby girl Sadie Grace was born at home yesterday 6:01am.
 

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