Hi! I'm new here, so hope it's ok to be joining the conversation.
Gotta say I was/am completely unprepared for the criticism we would receive for our one child choice. We decided to have one, and only one, child years ago. And I though we had been pretty open with friends and family about our decision. To be fair no-one I actually consider a friend has criticized, but parents are acting shocked and appalled whenever it comes up now that I am pregnant. I find the criticisms especially amusing/hypocritical when they come from my husband's family since he is an only child! His mom has taken to pointing out what a great relationship I have with my siblings, and how jealous she is of that. My line so far has been to explain that we are probably only as close as we are since our mom died when we were young, and I wouldn't wish that on anyone. Next time I'm tempted to make an unkind stab about how a sibling doesn't guarantee a friend, since she doesn't get along with her siblings at all. Maybe it's just the preggo-hormones, but if she gets on my nerves too much more, I'm going to have to drop the V-bomb.
My husband went ahead and got the vasectomy a few weeks ago, since that worked best with his schedule, and they take a while to take affect anyway. I'm well into my 'due date window' - my midwifes encourage clients to think of it as a window rather than an exact date. We are planning a home water birth with a midwife. I am totally surprised to have gotten way more criticism/questioning/concern over the one-child choice than the home birth choice (even from people who don't know we've already gotten the vasectomy). We didn't think anything of it when we mentioned it in passing to my parents (like: What are you doing today? Well, I'm picking B up from work, we're going out for lunch if you want to join us, then I'm taking him to his vasectomy, then we are running errands and going to a movie, then we have a work party...), but the reaction was so over-the-top we decided to wait a while to tell his parents, and soften the blow as much as possible by loudly voicing our one child decision as much as possible first.
Even my midwife, who I had asked for a surgeon recommendation, went so far as to say it's 'highly unusual' for a couple to be interested in vasectomy so soon, though she was quite cute and professional about it (she's mormon and has 12 kids so I think there's a bit of a cultural gap).