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New here - due 12/31 with my third

post #1 of 10
Thread Starter 

Hi there,

 

I am pregnant with a huge surprise number 3! I took Plan B after one time of unprotected sex and it apparently didn't work :-). Still letting it sink in, but here I am. I have an almost 8 year old dd, and an almost 4 year old ds. I will turn 38 a few weeks before the baby is due, and being an "older" mom was never the plan. Something tells me that this baby, if all goes well, was really determined to join this family.

 

JJ

post #2 of 10

welcome :). that is a pretty big surprise! guess you've got a fighter in there.

post #3 of 10

Welcome! Wow, we have a lot in common - I have a 10 year old, a 21 month old, and thought I was done with having kids too. I am due on 12/31, and am still trying to get my head around this huge change for us. It's still hard, and I am still pretty scared and emotional. And I will be 38 when this baby is born too :)  Deeeeep breaths, right?

post #4 of 10
This is number 4 for us, this was more or less planned (timing was a little off but that's ok), but #3 was a big surprise when I had a 9 and 8 year old and was thinking we were done! Of course, one reason I was leaning towards being done was because I felt like I would have to have a 4th to keep the third company, so here we are. You won't be surprised to hear that #3 has been such a joy for my whole family and we can't imagine life without her, you'll feel the same, too, I'm sure!
post #5 of 10

I'm 12/31 too! We will all be ringing in a joyous new year, maybe even get to have a champagne.gif

post #6 of 10
Also want to mention how much EASIER it is to have a baby with older kids... totally different experience from having my first and second. They play with her, take care of her, watch her so I can cook dinner/ take a shower/ veg out... it's awesome!
post #7 of 10

I hope it is okay for me to jump in here too. I am also due with #3....surprise baby around 12/31. I have a 5 year old daughter and a 2 1/2 year old son. I guess I was getting too comfortable and I needed to switch things up a bit. :) 

post #8 of 10

Number five for us and not a surprise but our first three were:P We actually planned the last two:P But wanted to chime in that a, older mother here too! I'll be 40 in August, and b, older kids rock with a new baby. My kids are awesome caregivers!

post #9 of 10
Thread Starter 

Nice to meet you all! Dh and I are still in shock, but I tend to agree that older kids with a baby are great. DD was 4 when DS was born, and even then she was a huge help. I am also in my last year of my PhD and I was just awarded a pretty prestigious fellowship, so on top of shock, I have to eventually break this to my adviser. I am sure it will all work out, but we were just at the point where we didn't have to pay for daycare anymore (ds was accepted to his sister's school where they have a free pre-k). I am trying to weigh short term concerns vs. longer term gains (my kids don't have cousins). 

 

I guess there is never a great time to have kids, and the choice to have them is not a rational one, is it?

 

JJ

post #10 of 10
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Originally Posted by mamatosaskia View Post

Hi there,

 

I am pregnant with a huge surprise number 3! I took Plan B after one time of unprotected sex and it apparently didn't work :-). Still letting it sink in, but here I am. I have an almost 8 year old dd, and an almost 4 year old ds. I will turn 38 a few weeks before the baby is due, and being an "older" mom was never the plan. Something tells me that this baby, if all goes well, was really determined to join this family.

 

JJ

Hey, there are so many 'surprise babies' in this group you'd be surprised!  I'm also going to turn 38 a few weeks before the baby is due and I also thought I was done with my four...did not think about being an older mom either.  In fact, the only reason why this happened was that I do NFP and stress completely wacked off my cycle (not sleeping right stress wacked everything off).  Just one time worked, amazing consider how old I am LOL.   So welcome, and congratulations!

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