I have felt the draw to stay home with the kids since DS1 was born 4 years ago, but have not been able to do it. I was in grad school at the time, and my husband convinced me to finish first, then when I finished, he convinced me to give this research position a try, and now, here I am, still feeling like I wish I was at home, at least more time, and yet apparently fearful that I will lose my career if I do it. Even though I have expressed my desires to DH, and he has reluctantly agreed to try and make it work sometime in the future, I am having a seriously hard time cutting the ties! I guess I worry if I will ever be able to get back in. I have a really flexible job at the moment, and except for the hours (FT), it couldn't be more ideal. Maybe that's why I'm holding on!
I know most of us working moms kindof need the money, and probably enjoy a lot of (or at least some) aspects of working. But, do you feel you have the right balance? Do you wish you had more time with the kids? How many hours a week do you work? Do you worry about not being able to get back into your career someday in the future? What role does work play in your life? Is it just to pay the bills? Or is it part of your identity?