I don't believe on forcing children to eat, especially because in my case I was and it is very possible it was a factor for the anoxeria I suffered on my 20's
I was never diagnosed, but noe i know I had it.
With that said, when my son started to only eat 4-5 items, refusing to eat anything else and opting to go without eating for 2-3 meals at a time, I decided to be a little more sterner and it paid off almost instantly
Instead of putting down food and leave it up to him whether to eat it, and ignoring his request for anything else, of course. ,,, I tried something different, coached by my pediatrician, who is a chinese medicine dr.
I would set, let's say banana, and he was not allowed to leave the table or eat anything else until he had 2 bites of banana.
He would cry, roll on the floor, screech you would have thought I was kill ing him.
I would be there, dying inside, but saying " sorry Santiago, I know this is not what you want, but the rule is two bites and then you can eat cheese"
What would happen is that he would finally, start with the two bites, and continue on his own and eat the whole banana!
With this I was able to get him from eating only 4-5 different things, to 10 things
Well, his dad is now trying to be stern with him with "regular" food. Rice, chicken, soups
But what I described above Was not enough, so he forces it on the first 4-5 bytes
He forces the spoonful, and uses two fingers to cover his mouth. And says "no spitting" and offers a toy.
My son plays with the toy and keeps the food for several minutes on his mouth until he ventrally swallows and my ex repeatts again.
Eventually, my son eats a full meal in about 40 min
I haven't try it that way, I keep on just giving him multiple snake on each meal. Apple, cheese, rice cakes, cereals, rice and rice pasta.
Do you think my ex's approach is too harsh, or I am too softy?