A few months ago I was talking with my mother, who is a twin, and she mentioned that she was always the "bad one" because she was more adventurous and curious, and her sister, the "good one" and that just broke my heart! It made me even more acutely aware of not attaching negative comparisons to the twins, myself. But how do you address this with others? My kids, I think, have mostly been taught not to do it as I respond pretty quickly if I hear someone labeled "the cute one" or "the smart one" (and the arguments that follow as other siblings disagree with the initial assessments.) But I think it is more difficult with adults, as they tend to be more set in their ways or less moldable. I see this becoming more of a problem as they get older and their personalities, strengths, and weaknesses become more evident. How have you addressed this with family members, friends, and strangers?
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