I just need a space to vent about the awful week we're having. I tried venting to DP, but he is absolutely incapable of comforting me when I'm frustrated and upset, so we ended up having an awkward argument instead of a cathartic chat. Sigh.
There are two main things that are making everything awful:
1. DD is not sleeping, like, at all.
I want to say that this is teething-related, but it seems like she's always teething, so I don't know. She's gone from waking up 2-3 times a night to more like 5 or 6, and spending an hour or two in the middle of the night waking/sleeping/tossing/turning/crying as well. She's in bed for 12 hours, but it seems like very little of that time is actually spent in peaceful sleep. And even less of my time is spent that way. Makes for a VERY grouchy mommy, and a very tired toddler. Her daytime behavior has been terrible, and, while some of it is probably just normal, it's clearly exacerbated by fatigue. And, OH! She's not napping anymore either. She'd been napping every other day or so for the past few months, but now I absolutely cannot get her to nap, and she's gotten really nasty about trying. She used to at least be willing to try. So I've been trying to institute some sort of quiet time, but I'm not sure what the best thing is to do. I still want there to be the possibility that she might nap, but if she's not going to sleep, I want to make sure I get some rest time. So...I'm torn. And, oh, she is so exhausted in the afternoons.
2. It suddenly feels like everything is changing, so we're both totally out of our comfort zone.
All of our routines suddenly feel outdated. I feel like she's headbutting me all day, which is a new stage for her. It feels like there are no pleasant moments in the day anymore. I think that's the worst part of it all. We recently dropped our middle of the night bottle, and now, with her not napping, I'm not giving her her mid-day bottle or lying with her to help her fall asleep. I miss our sweet snuggles, and the time when she's just be quiet and let me stroke her and sing to her. She doesn't go to sleep that way at night, so naptime was really special and close.
Anyway, it's nothing in particular, but just a confluence of factors making everything feel hard right now, and overall I just want to cry. Any general advice about 2-year-olds, naps, emotionally illiterate partners...? I'd appreciate the help.