I have a 3 year old who whines and cries over everything, if we say no he will cry and whine and continually ask for the same thing over and over until we have no choice but to remove him from the room and put him somewhere else until he is ready to behave.
I have NEVER been a mom to give in upon “demand” I always enforce manners and never give in to the foolish fits. I try speaking with him. I tell him I will wait until he is done crying and ready to speak to me in a big boy voice before I will speak to him, he will continue to cry over my words.
We have done timeouts (which just ends up in everyone going crazy as he cries LOUDLY and for long periods of time) in a fairly small house this even drives my 6-year-old nuts!
I have to continually remind him of behaviors that are not acceptable (hurting the animals for example) not in a mean way more smothering them with love, and I don’t mean days or weeks, it’s now been months with no signs of improvement on any of the habits he has! I am very consistent in my reward and discipline. No is no and that does not change the moment I see good behaviour I am quick to praise and let him know that I am happy that he is "speaking to me in a big boy voice" or "thank you for asking so nicely".
He won’t eat what we give him but is constantly asking for food (CONTSTANTLY since he was born). I do not cook to order; we eat what is made and that is all and I make child friendly food! If he doesn’t eat then he waits till the next meal. Sometimes my fiancé will give in after dinner and make a snack before bed (which I know affects the effectiveness of my consistency, but I have addressed it and he’s simply just sick of hearing him whining and crying, I would be as well after 3 years of nonstop misery. Side note my 2 current children are not from him though he loves them like his own, we are currently pregnant with our first child, he has been in my children's life since they were 3 and 2months old)
My fiancé works fully time days I work full time 12-9 at home but I am still working. I do what I can to entertain him in between housework and necessary house hold chores.
We are slowly loosing options, I have tried almost everything I can read online and I am wondering at this point if he’s just a melancholy child. It’s nearly impossible to get him to play on his own if there are no other children to play with. He does play relatively nicely with other children except his sister… but he would rather just sit with us or watch t.v which I also try to limit to certain times.
We would just love to have one dinner or one day where we are not dealing with his constant whines and cries… And I mean since he was born it's affecting the overall atmosphere of the house, and the ability to do anything in public places simply because no one wants to deal with his fits when we do go out.
Any Advice that is not condescending is greatly appreciated!!!