I woke up at 1:30 in the morning on May 5th (the exact time that I woke up in labor with my dd exactly 4 years ago) with contractions. I figured they were just BH since I'd been having those all week so didn't think much of it. I tried to go back to sleep but my mind was active and the contractions were a bit in my back so I had trouble falling asleep. By 3:00, I was still up but trying to go to sleep. I started thinking, "could this be it?" but kept saying, "No. I don't want them to have the same birthday. This isn't it. What are the chances? This isn't it." So I think I was kind of fighting the contractions a bit, which made it harder. My dd had woken up earlier in the night so she was in our bed and when I put on my hypnobabies CD, it woke dh up so he moved to another room. So dd was asleep in our while I tried to work through the contractions. They were still manageable, but definitely uncomfortable, and so I started timing them. They were about 6-7 minutes apart from around 4:00-5:00. So around 5:00, I woke dh up. I told him that I wasn't sure if it was it or not, but needed him up. At that point, I definitely had to focus on the contractions and said, "BH should not be this difficult. Call the midwife." So at around 5:20, dh called her and she arrived around 5:55. He also called his mom who was to come and be in charge of the kids. She had my nieces, as my SIL and BIL had been in a wedding the night before, and FIL was at Wawa hanging out having coffee. So she had to call Wawa to get him to come home, to get the car, so they could take the kids back to my SIL's. They brought them there at 6, woke them up to tell them I was having the baby and then she left around 6:10 or so to come here (she's about an hour away). In the meantime, dh moved dd back into her room and we started filling up the pool. We had trouble finding the exact temperature so dh kept dumping buckets of hot water and filling it with cold. Then it was too cold so he was dumping cold and filling with hot! Finally, I got in the pool. I'm not sure what time it was - at that point both midwives were there. I know the one arrived around 6:00 and the other maybe 10 minutes later? So I probably got in the pool around 6:20. It felt so good to be in the pool. The bottom was all padded and cushiony and the water was finally the perfect temperature. . I had a few double peak contractions and the others were hard (definitely harder than they had been with dd, but easier than they were with ds). I had wanted as much of the birth video taped so dh decided to turn the video camera on (which was on a tripod) just so we had some of the labor taped. He turned it on at 6:51. At that point I said I was feeling pressure low and the midwife said, "Yeah, I can tell by the shape of your back that this baby will be here soon." I didn't really believe it - I just felt like I had to poop! lol! But I was sort of afraid to in the tub so felt myself sort of holding it in during the last 1 or 2 contractions. Dh asked if he should get ds (and I again thought it was too early because there was no way I was about to have the baby). She told him yes and while he got him, my body just started pushing. The midwife told him to come back, so dh got ds as he was finishing going to the bathroom and carried him in, pulling his pants up as he came, and they both arrived literally the second the baby came out. I pushed for less than 15 seconds - it was just "there's the head... she's out!" Very intense. I did tear and lost a lot of blood because I tore an artery from the tear so I felt a little weak after, but I took lots of iron supplements and foods and my internal bleeding was fine so I started feeling a lot better pretty quickly. I took a shower and felt so refreshed afterwards. Ds was SO excited, showing Emma all of his stuffed animals, calling my MIL to tell her the baby got here before she did. Dd woke up later and we brought her in then. We still had her birthday party later that afternoon, and just moved the cake/singing happy birthday and opening presents upstairs to our bedroom while I laid in bed with Emma and then dd was off playing with her cousins and enjoying her birthday. It was quite a day! I still can't believe she is here - it just all happened so fast and not when I was expecting at all. She's the smallest of my kids - only 18 1/2 inches long and 7 pounds at birth and dropped only a bit down to 6 lbs, 14 oz., which just seems so small to me! My oldest was 8lbs, 2 oz. and my dd was 7 lbs. 8 oz and both 20 inches so Emma is our little peanut. She is sleeping and nursing well and poops constantly! We're all very much in love!
Emma's birth story
Shastalily, that reassures me. I worried that they wouldn't feel like they had their own special day. I LOVE my birthday and part of it has always been that it's MY day - I got to pick what I wanted for dinner, all the attention was on me, I got to choose how to spend it - it was just fun having a day about you! So I worried that they'll feel like they are missing out on that. How did your family make sure you both felt like you weren't missing out on anything. I figured we'd definitely have a separate cake for each of them, but I wasn't sure about parties and stuff like that. Right now, we just do family parties and I figure when they are a lot older, they'll do friend parties that they can do any day, but in the meantime, do I have one party for both? What if they want to do different things? These are the things I worry about....
But I also feel like it was just meant to be this way. It was the only day I didn't want her to be born and she was. She was born only 2 hours after my older dd was born and labor started at the exact same time. We struggled with infertility and miscarriage before Emma was born and part of what was so hard is that my dd really wanted a younger brother or sister and so it seems so fitting that Emma was born on her birthday, like a special gift just for her.