Today I'm celebrating my first mother's day. I'm having a good time. It is close to the birthday of my babe, it will be his first. A year ago I had an unplanned cesarean. I am processing a lot. But I am still having a beautiful day. I hope you all are too.
I wanted to come here to share about tweet I saw from celebrity Ken Jennings today. Yeah, the Jeopardy champion. He actually has a really robust twitter following. Who knew?
Anyway, today he made a crack on Twitter about cesarean moms. I know he was being flip and sarcastic. But still. This stung. This is what he said:
"Pretty sweet deal how I was born c-section so I don't have to call my mom today or anything. #loopholes"
I get he's probably not really thinking this. I know. But still. I didn't like this. The reason is that I feel like this attitude is pervasive in our culture already. As a c-section mom, I feel like I've had countless instances where people have asked me if I feel like I really "gave birth." And I just think, why do you keep asking me that? Because you don't think it's real? Because it falls into some no man's land of birth you can't fathom? Yes, I did give birth. Yes, I am a mom too. Sheesh.
I recently met a mom whose best friend is starting out as a doula. After her first birth as doula, this mama said, "how was it?" The doula said, "oh it ended in a c-section so it doesn't really count." ...what??
Anyway, I just find jokes like Jennings's and attitudes like that doula's to be so disappointing, but very real in our culture. I'm so bummed to have read this. It's not going to get my day down. I won't let it! :) But still, I just had to share with some people I thought might understand why I think this is basically the worst and lamest joke ever. I tweeted back and said basically that. But I'm not sure what that's really worth. Just wish these statements and jokes people make wouldn't go unchallenged. Because they are so hurtful to those of us who've struggled to process our cesareans and who often feel kind of like we don't belong or something.