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post #41 of 108
Yay Jen! Finally time! Yay baby and strong body for cooking to the end - you showed them! smile.gif
Thinking of you and sending you strength

I just want to say hello and wish everyone peace and strength these last days. I was a crazed lunatic in the week leading up to Kai's birth - and it happened miraculously on his EDD (12 minutes to spare). I honestly think my body kicked into gear when I finally relaxed and went a little zen - or at least found my sense of humor about walking around 4- then 6!- cm dilated with no contractions...

And Cristeen - I know it says "supporter" on your MDC thumbnail - I'm not sure what this means but certainly it's an understatement - how lucky we all were to be due with you in May 2012, you are an amazing woman and have helped us all! Now take it easy and be good to yourself in these last days- sounds like you are feeling good?

Positive thoughts to Maryam

Casmer can you get a massage?
post #42 of 108
Yay Jen!!! ( checking at 3:45 because I cannot sleep for some reason...)
Sending lots of love and good labor thoughts to you and your babe!
post #43 of 108

GL jen!

post #44 of 108
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Cristeen - I feel like you deserve some kind of Ddc den mother award. smile.gif I think your advice has been the voice of reason here in SO many discussions over the last several months. smile.gif
I know what you mean about coming here for interaction .... I have very little desire to deal with people IRL at this point but keep lurking here...if for nothing else than birth announcements and comfort (that I'm not the only one who's feeling 50 weeks pregnant).
Not sure what's been going on the last day or two but ive felt so icky. Nothing I eat sets right and I feel like morning sickness type queasiness. Ugh. Appointment tomorrow and I'm sure it will include discussion about all the post-dates testing they'll want to do when (I'm sure it's "when " and not "if") at this point) I go post my due date on Friday. Protocol with dd2 was afi and NSt twice a week. Sooo not interested in doing that this time around. Not only is it time consuming, I find it incredibly stressful and it's not how I want to spend my final days of pregnancy. I'm going to see if they'll settle for once weekly AFI (normal is 8-25, my fluid on Sunday was 22.8 so there's clearly n o problem there as of now) plus a regular prenatal. We'll see how it goes...
In the meantime, it's so uplifting reading all of your beautiful birth stories. Km84, I'm so glad you're at peace with the way things turned out for you and your baby. That is a good feeling to have going into the first challenging weeks of motherhood. smile.gif
And Maryam, I hope you're finding some tranquility. smile.gif Sending you lots of good labor vibes - it's a weird thing, going post dates and having to keep digging deeper for faith that your body knows what it's doing (it does!). Good luck!
Onemore, so happy to hear your sweet girl got a clean bill of health! Such good news!
Hope you all have a great night.
Oh! Have we heard from Jynx this afternoon?? smile.gif here's hoping shes off having herself a baby. smile.gif

So true! 

 

 

How long will this group stay up?  I don't want to leave.  shy.gif

post #45 of 108

Onemore - so happy that Dodi has a clean bill of health!

 

Maryam - thinking labor-y thoughts for you!

 

Jynx - after all you've been through... Good Luck!

 

Just to be a part of this group has been such an amazing experience for me even though I haven't posted a huge amount.  Reading the last few posts really made me tear up and realize how grateful I am for all of you.  Even when everyone is moaning and groaning it's so helpful to be in the same "place" as you all and the wealth of information and experience everyone contributes is such a blessing.

 

AFM, I finished my last super important work task yesterday and am now "ready" for baby anytime (EDD 5/26).  I know it's probably early yet, but I'm hoping he'll be a good listener and at least come a little early.  I'd really like to be at my student's dance concert on 6/17 without being in a complete fog.  I'm putting twice daily walks at the top of my list and hopefully DH and I get around to DTD a little more.

 

Have a great Wednesday everyone!

post #46 of 108
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How long will this group stay up?  I don't want to leave.  shy.gif

 

Well, the old DDCs stayed up until the babes were at least 6 mos.  I think part of the reason for switching to social groups was so that they didn't feel the need to shut down the DDCs, so they could leave them open permanently.  You can always double check in the Questions and Suggestions forum, but I believe that was the point.

 

And you ladies are so sweet.  You really made my day with your sweet words.  I'm just trying to do my part to keep everyone sane at this point, and Maryam definitely needed that yesterday.  It didn't hurt any that I know her MW and actually took classes from her MW, so I could confidently say that I'd trust what she has to say.  I know more than the average bear because I was a MW student for a few years - I eventually decided the lifestyle isn't for me, but the knowledge stuck.  And I do play mom a lot - I've been playing that role in real life since long before I ever had kids.  It's just kind of my place in life, ya know?  The role that suits me.  I was the wife that baked cookies for the office, and invited the bachelors over for Thanksgiving dinner, etc.  For all that certain members of my family feel like I'm wasting my brain by not pursuing something like a medical or law degree, being mom to everyone is a much better use of my spirit.  I do far better mothering adults some days than I do mothering my toddler (who tries my patience at every opportunity!).   grouphug.gif

 

During my birth team meeting (last night) my MW was telling the backup about my MW training (and my doula didn't know either), and they were all like... OH!!!  That's why she's sitting there not having to explain a lot of this stuff or can use jargon and I follow a lot of it, etc.  They made a point of saying that during labor they'll take anything they need to discuss out of the room so that it doesn't engage my higher brain.  My doula actually raided my library before she left for books to borrow.  I have an extensive birth library, including several of the MW's text books.  So any time something comes up that needs a precise answer (like BS readings in a pregnant woman, or the purpose of RhoGam/how sensitization works which I looked up a few MW visits ago), I can pull out a book and look it up, rather than relying on the internet for possibly inaccurate info. 

 

And DS actually slept last night!  I'm so thrilled.  He only got up once, asked to use the potty, and then went right back to sleep.  He hasn't done that in AGES!! (the going back to sleep part)  He actually slept until almost 8, without being up half the night.  I'm keeping my fingers crossed that we're turning a corner with his sleep.  And his new mattress will be here today, so I can start putting his big boy bed together.  I kinda need the crib mattress back in the crib.  redface.gif

 

Jynx - I'm holding good thoughts for you!  I'm so happy you made it to term, when everything indicated you wouldn't, that's a great achievement, my friend.  Enjoy your little one!!

post #47 of 108

Yay, Jynx! Happy Birthing!

 

And GL, Maryam.  Sending joy and serene labor thoughts your way.

post #48 of 108
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Originally Posted by BubbleMa View Post
How long will this group stay up?  I don't want to leave.  shy.gif

 

Well, the old DDCs stayed up until the babes were at least 6 mos.  I think part of the reason for switching to social groups was so that they didn't feel the need to shut down the DDCs, so they could leave them open permanently.  You can always double check in the Questions and Suggestions forum, but I believe that was the point.

 

Cristeen, I think you're right about this one. There's a social group for the April 2011 DDC! I've peeked in at some of the older DDC's and they do tend to slow down after a month or two of discussing post-partum issues and baby care. Sometimes they start threads in other forums (the Feb 2009 DDC has a very active thread in the parenting forum) such as Life with a Babe, Toddlers, etc.

 

I join everyone in saying I LOVE this group of women! Forest, Onemoreontheway, Sky, Cristeen, Astraia (Grace), Linnie, BubbleMa, Rowdie, Rozzie, Sara, etc. have all been so wonderful and supportive.

 

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post #49 of 108

Just checking in for a quick minute when I can type with 2 hands.

I love reading about all the mamas who are waiting to meet their little ones; stay strong! And I love reading about all the birth stories and babies. I am glad everyone is healthy and doing well. I want to respond to everyone personally, but don't think I'll have time! But everyone is in my thoughts and prayers.

 

I am so in love with my little boy, and my big kids just adore him, too.  He is the most kissed baby ever-- my 2 year-old kisses him like every 3 minutes.

I forgot how bringing a newborn home makes all the other kids look HUGE! My 2 year-old who was the "baby" just a week ago now appears to be so grown up, and just gigantic!

 

I am doing well and mostly feel pretty rested and peaceful. I have had a few crying episodes, and feel a little anxious at times, but would really like to get out and go for a walk, or do some exercise... but then think, well, you just had a baby five days ago, lady, Chillax! 

 

I worry about getting mastitis, since I've gotten it at some point with the last 2 babes, and I am pretty engorged at this point.... but otherwise, we are good!
 

post #50 of 108
Forgive me for being an attention hog for a sec...
At midwife appointment and I've been informed that my 24 hr urine says I have mild pre-eclampsia. Normal I guess is below 300 and I was at 500-something.
They're talking about seizure risks and pushing for induction today (tonight at the latest).
And that means hep lock, continuous fetal monitoring, etc.
I'm going to have her check my cervIx and sweep membranes and talk about bishops score etc and then I'm going to go home and try to get in a better place mentally because right now I'm a mess. This is everything I didn't want...
post #51 of 108
Thread Starter 

LHM - sending you a huge virtual hug right now. Please keep us updated. much love to you and yours.

 

Jen - Hope you're holding your sweet baby right now!

 

will do personals in a bit :)

post #52 of 108

LHM - hug2.gif  This must be really difficult.  The best advice I can give you is to stay strong and question everything.  Hopefully you have a favorable Bishop's Score, so it won't be so difficult, since you are term.  Avoid Mag Sulfate if at all possible, since it will tie you to the bed.  Discuss with your MW HOW she's planning on inducing you, and take the gentlest approach possible.  Write up a birth plan specific to induction, covering what you're okay with and what you aren't.  Know that if you need support, we're all here.  I'll PM you my phone number. 

post #53 of 108

LHM, that sounds scary. Cristeen is definitely giving good advice- ask lots of questions. I think going home to get a handle on things mentally and emotionally is a good idea, it's hard to make decisions when you're feeling hit from every side. I hope whatever you decide you feel at peace with, and things go well for you!

 

I'm starting to feel a bit more human again.... Still hurting, but Everett is nursing and sleeping today because my milk came in (yay!). I forgot how hard immediate post partum can be.

post #54 of 108

I'm so sorry to hear that LHM, my thoughts are with you.

 

Not sure if you read my epic novella of a birth story, I was induced this weekend - which was pretty much my everything-I-don't-want-worst-case-scenario. Seriously, I feared induction more than a c-section.

 

Long story short, I had an amazing birth experience DESPITE everything going wrong and getting pretty much every intervention on the planet. If your labor team is on your side, you can totally managed even the scariest sounding scenarios. 

 

If you want to talk, feel free to message me. My birthing was everything I didn't want, but it was wonderful anyway, and I wouldn't change any of it for the world.

post #55 of 108

LHM - I'm sorry you're having to deal with this  :(   hug2.gif

 

 

My Mom called to tell me today that my step-dad is looking to rent a cabin at a nearby lake (~45 minutes away)  during Memorial Day weekend.  My LMP EDD is May 24 and my Ovulation/Growth EDD is the 26/27...so I could very well go into labor Memorial Day weekend.  Basically they want to "get away" (they live about 4-5hrs away) but not be far away from us/the baby.  Part of me is flattered that they want to be a part of everything and part of me is slightly terrified.  I don't think they'll be hanging out at my house, but I don't know what they expect from me in terms of hanging out with them.  Our plans were to call everyone once the baby was here.  I do not want anyone to know when I'm in labor and/or laboring.  I'm hoping she'll come early or late...just not *while* they're already here.  Of course, nothing has been reserved yet, so who knows if it will pan out.  Also, my sister will be with them and she stresses me out...

 

Anyhow, does anyone have any good ideas for what I should do if I go into labor when I'm around them.  I don't know why, but I really don't want to tell them when I'm in labor.  Maybe I'm just getting worked up for no reason.  My mom did go from, "we aren't going to bother you after the birth - y'all need to have your special family time" a few weeks ago to now wanting to be here...which that totally doesn't surprise me.  Actually, I'd probably be hurt if everyone waited a few weeks to come see her (first grandchild for my side), so I'm not sure where I'm going with this *sigh*

 

On a funnier note, I'm pretty sure I had a drop of colostrum come out of my nipple last night.  Holy cow, that was weird! Can you tell I'm a first time Mom?  huh.gif

post #56 of 108
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Anyhow, does anyone have any good ideas for what I should do if I go into labor when I'm around them.  I don't know why, but I really don't want to tell them when I'm in labor.  Maybe I'm just getting worked up for no reason.  My mom did go from, "we aren't going to bother you after the birth - y'all need to have your special family time" a few weeks ago to now wanting to be here...which that totally doesn't surprise me.  Actually, I'd probably be hurt if everyone waited a few weeks to come see her (first grandchild for my side), so I'm not sure where I'm going with this *sigh*

 

On a funnier note, I'm pretty sure I had a drop of colostrum come out of my nipple last night.  Holy cow, that was weird! Can you tell I'm a first time Mom?  huh.gif

 

If you're feeling they're big stressors, the likelihood of you going into labor around them is not good.  Mama's body tends not to go into labor when under stress like that.

 

That being said, unless your labor starts with your waters breaking (which is very rare), I'd just brush off any questions or concerns, saying "it's just a contraction - I've been having them off and on for weeks"... and then find a reason to leave pretty quickly.  Fake a headache, say you need a nap, remember you left the stove on, whatever works.  Obviously this won't work if they're in your space, but try to avoid that. 

 

Colostrum is a great sign.  My MW practically cheered when I told her I was able to express a drop last week. 

post #57 of 108
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LHM - I'm sorry you're having to deal with this  :(   hug2.gif

 

 

My Mom called to tell me today that my step-dad is looking to rent a cabin at a nearby lake (~45 minutes away)  during Memorial Day weekend.  My LMP EDD is May 24 and my Ovulation/Growth EDD is the 26/27...so I could very well go into labor Memorial Day weekend.  Basically they want to "get away" (they live about 4-5hrs away) but not be far away from us/the baby.  Part of me is flattered that they want to be a part of everything and part of me is slightly terrified.  I don't think they'll be hanging out at my house, but I don't know what they expect from me in terms of hanging out with them.  Our plans were to call everyone once the baby was here.  I do not want anyone to know when I'm in labor and/or laboring.  I'm hoping she'll come early or late...just not *while* they're already here.  Of course, nothing has been reserved yet, so who knows if it will pan out.  Also, my sister will be with them and she stresses me out...

 

Anyhow, does anyone have any good ideas for what I should do if I go into labor when I'm around them.  I don't know why, but I really don't want to tell them when I'm in labor.  Maybe I'm just getting worked up for no reason.  My mom did go from, "we aren't going to bother you after the birth - y'all need to have your special family time" a few weeks ago to now wanting to be here...which that totally doesn't surprise me.  Actually, I'd probably be hurt if everyone waited a few weeks to come see her (first grandchild for my side), so I'm not sure where I'm going with this *sigh*

 

On a funnier note, I'm pretty sure I had a drop of colostrum come out of my nipple last night.  Holy cow, that was weird! Can you tell I'm a first time Mom?  huh.gif

just wait until milk starts squirting out. lol  layla will latch on and then pop off right after "let down".  milk literally goes everywhere.  its quite a sight.  lol

post #58 of 108
Oh my!
post #59 of 108
Thanks for the support everyone. Best Ddc EVER. I am so thankful for this awesome group of moms.

The plan now is to go in tomorrow for induction and just start from the least invasive method and work from there. Trying to settle into the idea of having a baby...maybe even by this time tomorrow!!

Ill try to update but if you don't hear from me...I'm off birthin' a baby so...you know. smile.gif send me lots of fast, zen labor vibes!

Huge hugs and thanks to everyone.
post #60 of 108
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Oh my!

Oh yeah!  It's pretty entertaining. 

 

 

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Thanks for the support everyone. Best Ddc EVER. I am so thankful for this awesome group of moms.
The plan now is to go in tomorrow for induction and just start from the least invasive method and work from there. Trying to settle into the idea of having a baby...maybe even by this time tomorrow!!
Ill try to update but if you don't hear from me...I'm off birthin' a baby so...you know. smile.gif send me lots of fast, zen labor vibes!
Huge hugs and thanks to everyone.

Sounds like a good plan.  Hopefully baby is ready and will come out easily!  Sending you those vibes!  om.gif

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