Weekly Chat May 14-21 - Page 4
Thank you so much for the support ladies. Last night was another marathon and it seems to be a combination of a variety of things- she is overtired, overstimulated, reflux/spitting up, gas, drowning in my milk but needing to suck and unable to settle. I wore her almost all day in the moby and she slept a lot so I was surprised she still needed so much more sleep. I have tried the swing, just having her away from me, tight swaddling combined with shhing and sucking and rocking, and she has had chiro for two times a week since 3 weeks old. I haven't tried the lactase enzyme, I will have to look into that for sure. I think for me the really hard part is that my body just gets so tired and sore with all of the walking but I do realize that my body is still healing. OK I will be back for more personals, dd is awake.
it really sounds like you're trying everything mama! keep searching, but in the meantime, be sure to give yourself a break. if you don't step away for a bit, you'll lose your mind!!! feed dd til you know she isn't hungry, then ask dh to give you some time just to be on your own--take a bath, relax, get a massage... you have to take care of you, too!
Lala - This PP has been MUCH better than the previous 3. I did make it out of the house today without the anxiety. Luckily there hasn't been lots of crying. Just periods of wanting to every once in a while.
I am a homebody naturally. I can handle leaving the house but for some reason it gets overwhelming even if I just have 2 of the 4 kiddos with me.I think that today was different because I prepared myself in a timely manner so I wasn't rushed in the end.
[very preliminary research involving exclusively breastfed infants published last February in Pediatrics found that while anti-gas drops are ineffective, Lactobacillus reuteri, a health-promoting bacterium available as a supplement, reduced crying in 95 percent of infants, though scientists can't explain the connection. Ask your pediatrician for advice.
Sorry I haven't been posting much, I'm a lot overwhelmed. So much so that I'm pretty sure I have PPD. The thing is I'm not feeling depressed so much as very very anxious and angry. So angry at everything all the time. DD is acting out like woah and I'm not dealing with it well, DS is a normal occasionally fussy baby. I don't get enough breaks but I know I get more than most SAHMs. DH helps a lot, but it's not enough. I'm convinced everyone's staring at me all the time and judging my parenting, which is pretty obviously untrue (I think most people are too self-absorbed to truly notice another person's slight mistakes). When things get crazy, as happens at least every other day, I just can't deal and start crying and moaning. It's pretty awful.
The thing is, DD was a MUCH harder baby, and I was not this much of a wreck with her. Then again, I didn't have a 3 year old her on top of a newborn last time. I think I wasn't expecting this cuz I did have a perfect birth (no ppd after c-sec).
So now I'm trying to figure out how to deal w/ this.
Sunflower- I am sorry, that sounds really hard. I agree about people not really noticing our parenting as much as we feel like they do. Do you have any idea what would make you feel better? I have had issues with feeling sub par after a perfect birth and already handling a difficult baby. Maybe it is the whole toddler thing? DS is acting out too because of our upcoming move and just not being able to one on one parent him all the time like I used to. It is just hard and wearing in the least, I don't know how I would manage it with PPD on top. Many hugs to you, hope you can find help or support asap.
adore- I am a homebody too, especially pp but then I get super stir crazy. What you are experiencing definitely sounds intense and more than what would be healthy. Is there a way that you can get some help or get some support? I echo lala in wondering if there is anything else that might be sparking the more intense anxiety? It seems like you are already approaching it in a very healthy way and I am glad you were able to get out the door, honestly, I don't think I could with four, two it is sometimes a miracle.
moss- I have been doing baby probiotics with her for a little over a week and while it is still intense, it does seem like it helps with her gas not being as painful for her. I am making sure I stay on top of it to be consistent in building up the good bacteria in her gut. I also make sure I take my own too. thanks for the article!
chiro- i totally agree, I was going crazy and tonight DH put DD in the moby for me to get a break. DD screamed bloody murder with a couple of minutes of quiet for about 15 minutes. I couldn't do it at all. I am looking forward to when I will be able to get a real break.
BREAKING NEWS!!! DD is asleep in her swing!!!! I know this doesn't mean it will happen all the time but what a sweet break this is tonight. It took a combination of a variety of things but yay! I swaddled DD, had Sigur Ros playing, nursed and rocked and then v e r y slowly put her in the swing. Seems like my kids like to sleep to Sigur Ros. It gave me and DH some much needed cuddle and alone time and me some much needed no baby in my hands time. whew, I think I should go to bed :) Hopefully I can figure out how to do it again tomorrow, either way, I am encouraged and I really appreciate the support from all of you, many many thanks!