I am interested in becoming a surrogate. I have 3 children of my own, all naturally birthed, two home births. I have been thinking about surrogacy for a year now, and just weaned my 3.5 and 5 year olds. Since I am 33, I think it is now or never. My oldest child is 8 and is Gender Variant. This is a journey we have been on since he was 5, a journey he was probably on much earlier than that! For awhile I thought he was going to be Transgender, now I know he is Gender Variant (meaning he isn't comfortable with either gender definition, he just wants to be in the middle and not defined). Both of these things have made me think that my ideal family for surrogacy would be a Transgender couple. I would imagine it is harder for those couples to adopt and find surrogates? Basically I think it is great karma for my kid, someday maybe someone else will give him the same gift.
Can anyone give any insight to this process? I am in Ventura County (Southern California). I see a few surrogacy companies, but don't know how to pick. I also would like some info from past surrogates. Here are my ideals, let me know if this is realistic!
Homebirth with my midwife, OB vaginal birth backup if necessary if there are twins that are breech.
Not interested in being an egg donor
Pump breastmilk for a min of 3 mos.
Thanks for the time and info.
Edited by Dare2Dream - 5/14/12 at 8:24pm