Edited by Mom31 - 5/22/12 at 4:53pm
Hmmmm, a "1 post person". That's fine for you to assume that. I actually have another name on here but lost my passwords and log in info in my other computer, and it was always auto log in. When I posted my question I was surprised it posted by my new homeschool name. But that is ok. You can assume whatever you want about me, but just know that sometimes that just isn't accurate. I apologize if hostility was expressed, I was really surprised to be told I can't ask a question. A more appropriate response might have been "Why don't you try ____ forum, as we are not permitted to discuss this topic here. Good luck." Rather than get upset with me for others posting similar questions here. I did not post those questions and it was an honest mistake.
All I was trying to find out was info from the other side of things, the intended parent side. Like "I chose this agency and they were awful, I should have looked for this__." "I tried to adopt, but because I am _____ and _____, I just couldn't make it happen, so we tried surrogacy." and maybe a "good luck with those specifics! I don't think it will happen but you can try. We tried to find ___ but couldn't.".
I truly appreciate knowing that not all parents who adopt are on a "checklist" and have tried everything, that is a good point to remember. I think I am also trying to justify in my mind, surrogacy, and needed to know that some people just can't adopt. I personally feel strongly about adoption and it is a life goal of mine to do so, someday, and if not, foster parent. It is something I am drawn to, so I get what was said about that. My parents tried for years to adopt without success.
Yes, I have checked out the surrogacy mother websites and appreciate that info, thank you. I was just hoping for a more "Mothering" POV. I appreciate the PMs. Thank you.
Thank you all for your time.
Dlee, not bad planning on your part. That is a huge decision, with positives and negatives, no matter which you decide. I too am struggling with that decision for my child, never entering puberty means never having your own child. I hope you have found some answers on the other forum that was recommended. The only solution I know of, is surrogacy, which is why I am looking at doing it.