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post #201 of 284
Backache- yes. Try belly binding. Work on posture while BF, bring baby to the breast, not the other way around. Get up and move some - gently. Warm showers to relax the muscles. It took almost 2 weeks for me to mostly be able to move w/o pain, and my pelvis still objects at times.
post #202 of 284

I've been getting some backache too. I had it at first- and yeah, a lot of that was sitting on the couch nursing with bad posture, bent over trying to get baby to latch properly, etc. And your abs are weak (I assume- mine are crap at this point) so there's no support for your back.

 

What I've been doing a lot more now when my back hurts or I'm standing around bouncing the baby... which I feel like I do almost the entire day sometimes... is concentrating on engaging my abs. I like that word- engaging- like I'm doing something exercise-related. I just sort of focus on tensing them up so that they're doing some of the work of the bouncing/standing/holding, instead of my back taking the brunt of it. It definitely helps.

 

If it's lower back issues, you can try standing with your knees bent and your pelvis tilted slightly forward. It changes the alignment of your spine so there's less lower back pressure. You feel like a bit of a dork standing like that, but it helps a lot.

post #203 of 284
Yep there is nothing like a total absence of abdominal muscles combined with poor ergonomic nursing positions to put stress on the back! The ab tucks that Grace described are a great thing to do. I've been trying to do them too.
post #204 of 284

Thanks. Trying to engage my abs but having a hard time locating them... I think you're right though - I used to do pilates and i can feel that my "core" has so little strength right now. My pilates teacher used to tell me to imagine I was zipping up my abs - I always found that a good way to remember to engage. The back ache does seem to be going now, but about to start using the ergo carrier lots, so need to keep strong to keep up with growing baby.

post #205 of 284
Yeah I just checked and it feels like my diastis (sp?) is at least 3 fingers wide! Eek. Abs are literally not there!

Also - Jynx did you ever figure out what the weird bump was? Ingrown hair? Cyst? Because I have one too!! What is it? AND I have some weird skin tag down there as well - not where the stitches were but just there - and it's sort of uncomfortable. Sorry tmi, as usual. But how can we talk post partum recovery without bein tmi/talking about vaginas most of the time, right wink1.gif
post #206 of 284

It was an ingrown hair. I was checking on it one night, and it EXPLODED. It was super gross. I hope yours is too!!
 

post #207 of 284
Ewww. I think that is what mine is too - gross... But I hope it pops. Yuck. I feel so grossed out by everything "down there" I wonder when I will ever want to DTD again. Poor DH. :/
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It was an ingrown hair. I was checking on it one night, and it EXPLODED. It was super gross. I hope yours is too!!

 
post #208 of 284

I am still bleeding and it is getting old really fast. I'll be 6 weeks on Saturday! This is crazy!  Is there anything I can do to speed up the stopping of the bleeding?  I want to be able to go in the pool, and next Tuesday is my birthday and an ideal birthday would be for me to be able to lounge at the pool and swim for a bit that day.  I really don't feel like I'm doing too much either, no more than I did with my other kiddos so I'm not sure why it's taking so long. I'd really like to work out more, but now I'm afraid that will prolong it even more. What determines how long one bleeds for?  I just want it to stop!

post #209 of 284
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I am still bleeding and it is getting old really fast. I'll be 6 weeks on Saturday! This is crazy!  Is there anything I can do to speed up the stopping of the bleeding?  I want to be able to go in the pool, and next Tuesday is my birthday and an ideal birthday would be for me to be able to lounge at the pool and swim for a bit that day.  I really don't feel like I'm doing too much either, no more than I did with my other kiddos so I'm not sure why it's taking so long. I'd really like to work out more, but now I'm afraid that will prolong it even more. What determines how long one bleeds for?  I just want it to stop!

Are you belly binding?  Getting some form of a binder to support your uterus can, ime, make a huge difference.  A day when I wear it I can do SO much more with no increase in bleeding, or even a normal steady decrease.  If I do a lot without it, then it increases again.

post #210 of 284

I'm not belly binding. What exactly is that?  I don't notice a change in my flow at all though regardless of what I do.  My flow is consistently the same amount every day regardless of my day. I'm just sick of bleeding at all!  

post #211 of 284
I really regret not binding right away - is nearly 5 weeks pp too late to bind?
post #212 of 284

Sooo, I have a question- I stopped bleeding for almost a week solid, wasn't even wearing a panty liner any more. DH and I DTD and by that evening I was back to large amounts of bright red blood. It's been three days and it's still going.

 

What on earth? is that normal? I'm thinking it's still the same old post-partum bleeding, but I think I'm at 5 weeks now and I'm so sick of this.

post #213 of 284
Thread Starter 
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Originally Posted by Astraia View Post

Sooo, I have a question- I stopped bleeding for almost a week solid, wasn't even wearing a panty liner any more. DH and I DTD and by that evening I was back to large amounts of bright red blood. It's been three days and it's still going.

 

What on earth? is that normal? I'm thinking it's still the same old post-partum bleeding, but I think I'm at 5 weeks now and I'm so sick of this.


Well, I get a lot of disagreement about this online, but I had the exact same thing happen and I'm convinced it was my period. Mainly because of the mild cramping I was having. The bleeding was out of this world. At my six week post partum appointment all bleeding had finally stopped, and my OB said my uterus felt normal, so she agreed that it might have been my period. She joked that I will know for sure in 28 days, lol.

post #214 of 284

It absolutely could be your period. I got pregnant at 5-6 weeks postpartum after my first. I went 20 months with no period...lol

post #215 of 284
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Originally Posted by Onemoreontheway View Post

It absolutely could be your period. I got pregnant at 5-6 weeks postpartum after my first. I went 20 months with no period...lol
crap.

I didn't need to hear that. DH and I just resumed maritals (joy.gif) but we have been...uh. not.careful. And I cannot remember if we were 'careful' with the other two...well...with DD1 we obediently waited the full 6 weeks, but DD2 not so much...I am totally on board with the idea of #4, but, now? I was hoping to NOT pull a Tori Spelling. Oy. Now I'm going to be extra paranoid...and start being careful. I haven't had any period-like bleeding yet, but my PP bleeding stopped a week ago. Cervical fluids (or the absence of them) post partum aren't a reliable indicator of ovulation, right? :-/
post #216 of 284

lhm you are asking a clueless mama.

We aren't 'quiverfull; movement but we do and have left fam planning up to our Creator/biology/chance and so far been blessed with results. I had a bit of a panic tonight cause i got some cerv muc. and cramping going on and we been dtd regularily. Then I realized that in 12 years we just now had our 4th child, if #5 comes 10 months from now or not at all - I have been blessed beyond measure and I got the gray hairs to prove it!!! sorry for typos

post #217 of 284

We definitely want one more baby- but not NOW! Oh Lord. Because I totally need 4 kids aged 4 and under. 

 

I definitely had a freak out "what if I am?!?" moment, because we DTD about 2 weeks ago as well without protection when we thought I was pretty much done bleeding- and I was like, Pfft, the chances are so remote it's crazy to even worry. But then I got really thirsty, exhausted, headachy, nauseated, and only wanted to eat fruit- all of which are my early-preggo symptoms- and started freaking out, but all of that is also since I started bleeding again. I am pretty much positive you can't get pregnant while still going through postpartum bleeding and/or having a period (god knows what this is!) but it has taught me that sex without a condom, regardless of how "remote" the possibility may be, is a bad idea for my sanity if nothing else.

 

LHM - charting fertiliy in the first year while breastfeeding is definitely hit and miss, some people have no signs, some have a lot, and some have an anovulatory period first before they start ovulating again. I conceived my son when my DD wasn't quite 5 months old, and I had absolutely 0 signs of fertility at that point and hadn't had a period yet- and it wasn't until my milk supply started dropping and I started to get insanely thirsty that I realized something was up. 

post #218 of 284

In Dr. Sears' The Baby Book, it says that according to LAM mother can rely on breastfeeding for birth control if she can answer "no" to the following questions: 

1. Have your menses returned?

2. Are you supplementing regularly or allowing long periods without breastfeeding either during the day (more than 3 hrs) or at night (more than 6 hrs)?

3. Is your baby more than 6 months old? 

 

Though I have heard of people getting pregnant before their 6 week check ups and having 2 babies in the same year. 

 

Not that I am allowing my husband anywhere near me at this point, but I couldn't imagine having another one so close to this one. My three kids are each about 4.5 years apart (currently age 9, 4, and 6 weeks) and I am just amazed by mothers who can handle multiple toddlers at once! We had planned on this being our last. We will see. 

post #219 of 284
WOW, ladies. I had my 6 week (5 1/2 wk) ppcheck up today and had been reading these posts -- and while I am with Meredith that I've come nowhere near letting poor DH touch me let alone DTD, I scheduled my appt to get the para guard iud in two weeks - noway I'm risking getting pregnant now! smile.gif
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Originally Posted by Astraia View Post

We definitely want one more baby- but not NOW! Oh Lord. Because I totally need 4 kids aged 4 and under. 

I definitely had a freak out "what if I am?!?" moment, because we DTD about 2 weeks ago as well without protection when we thought I was pretty much done bleeding- and I was like, Pfft, the chances are so remote it's crazy to even worry. But then I got really thirsty, exhausted, headachy, nauseated, and only wanted to eat fruit- all of which are my early-preggo symptoms- and started freaking out, but all of that is also since I started bleeding again. I am pretty much positive you can't get pregnant while still going through postpartum bleeding and/or having a period (god knows what this is!) but it has taught me that sex without a condom, regardless of how "remote" the possibility may be, is a bad idea for my sanity if nothing else.

LHM - charting fertiliy in the first year while breastfeeding is definitely hit and miss, some people have no signs, some have a lot, and some have an anovulatory period first before they start ovulating again. I conceived my son when my DD wasn't quite 5 months old, and I had absolutely 0 signs of fertility at that point and hadn't had a period yet- and it wasn't until my milk supply started dropping and I started to get insanely thirsty that I realized something was up. 

EDited to fix typo - auto correct typed "pretty" when I most def meant "pregnant" haha
Edited by rozziemama - 6/21/12 at 7:22am
post #220 of 284
Thread Starter 

I got a diaphragm. I used one back in my twenties before going on the pill and loved it. We're done having kids (I'm 41), but I am too superstitious to do any permanent birth control at this point. The doctor told me a really funny story when she fitted me for it. The ones they use in the doctor's office for the fitting have holes in the middle for whatever reason, and she said that they had a woman recently who got her diaphragm and came back two months later pregnant. The doctor asked if she had been using it correctly and she said, "Yes, I even cut a hole in it like the ones in your office!" 

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