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post #221 of 284

Rozzie--I'm thinking of getting an IUD for the first time and trying to decide between the paraguard and mirena.  Have you had one before and what swayed you to the paraguard?  Any other opinions on IUDs?

post #222 of 284
Yes! I had the paraguard for about 3 years - got it around 4 months after I had my first. I really loved it. Once its in, you dont think about it. And it didnt cause any more cramping during my period or anything like that. DH felt the little string ONCE (not sure why, we werent being more creative or adventurous LOL), and its just safe and easy. I personally chose paraguard rather then Mirena because I didn't want any hormones in my birth control. I didn't do very well on the pill - made me extremely moody to the point where I was crying all the time - kind of like extreme PMS - plus, I'd heard of the Mirena falling out for a few friends. So paraguard seemed perfect for me.

FYI - I know I happen to have very regular cycles, but I am not exaggerating - I took the IUD out August 17 last summer and was pregnant on August 20. So, IMO if you are planning to TTC again, it's nice to have birth control that is super effective but also non-hormonal so it doesn't screw with your natural ovulation, you know?
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Rozzie--I'm thinking of getting an IUD for the first time and trying to decide between the paraguard and mirena.  Have you had one before and what swayed you to the paraguard?  Any other opinions on IUDs?
post #223 of 284
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Yes! I had the paraguard for about 3 years - got it around 4 months after I had my first. I really loved it. Once its in, you dont think about it. And it didnt cause any more cramping during my period or anything like that. DH felt the little string ONCE (not sure why, we werent being more creative or adventurous LOL), and its just safe and easy. I personally chose paraguard rather then Mirena because I didn't want any hormones in my birth control. I didn't do very well on the pill - made me extremely moody to the point where I was crying all the time - kind of like extreme PMS - plus, I'd heard of the Mirena falling out for a few friends. So paraguard seemed perfect for me.
FYI - I know I happen to have very regular cycles, but I am not exaggerating - I took the IUD out August 17 last summer and was pregnant on August 20. So, IMO if you are planning to TTC again, it's nice to have birth control that is super effective but also non-hormonal so it doesn't screw with your natural ovulation, you know?


That actually sounds really awesome. I can't do hormones AT ALL. I go from crying to suicidal to maniacally happy in the span of about 2 hours. Took orthotrycyclen once for about a month and...wow. I vowed never again.

post #224 of 284

I'm planning to make an appointment to get Paragard. the last thing I want (right now? ever? at least for a few years) is another baby. I like this one, for now :)

 

recovery has been unremarkable here. I put myself back on bed rest after doing housework and going on a walk made me bleed bright red, and everything is normal again. I've been kind of annoyed at my incision, but also grateful that I didn't massively tear from a vaginal birth. the more stories I read about labors that were like mine with OP babies, the more I realize that that recovery could have sucked even more. I got a small sample of what that could have been like because I'm constipated and ended up with a scratch or cut in my rectum - ow! in case anyone else experiences this, tons of water and magnesium citrate help tremendously.

 

the weight's slowly coming off. I'm about 20 pounds over my pre-pregnancy weight but I honestly don't feel that big. I'm still not too worried about it. I'm looking forward to packing away pregnancy clothes and clothes that obviously won't fit for at least a few months and putting together a new wardrobe of clothes that fit me now.

post #225 of 284
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I'm looking forward to packing away pregnancy clothes and clothes that obviously won't fit for at least a few months and putting together a new wardrobe of clothes that fit me now.

 

How do you have a whole wardrobe of clothes that fit you now?  I'm so jealous! This is what I'm finding so frustrating about my weight not coming off. I have NOTHING to wear.  I don't have summer maternity clothes so I can't wear that and none of my summer stuff fits me.  

post #226 of 284
oh man, I definitely don't. by "putting together" I mean "buying," and definitely not a whole wardrobe. I'd be happy with a pair of jeans and a handful of shirts. I'm right there with you, I need to find clothes that actually fit or else I start fussing about my weight. luckily the weather is pretty much always the same here, so some of my maternity stuff works... sorta. in a sloppy way.
post #227 of 284

I can fit in my lowrise jeans... which is cool, but I have a belly and a muffin top... so I am more into dresses.  I got a cute nursing dress from old navy, which is good for the weather here since it is still cold/rainly... although it can be warmish and humid as it has been for the past 2 days.  We call it June-uary.

 

But anyways, I can wear the dress with tights / leggings and a sweater (rainjacket) or just as it is when it is warm.  Although it is black, split up wipes off of it really well.  LOL

 

I want to get 2 more dresses... because they don't make me feel so large.  I am almost down to my pre pregnancy weight, but the shape of my body is weird and so different.  I haven't had a bikini body for years, but want at least a bathing suit body, in the next few months (by fall, maybe? ;)

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I am afraid to spend too much money on clothing right now - especially pants/bottoms. I know that in August/september when I return to work i will definitely have to spend some money on clothing if nothing fits even then... Man I hope something fits then!? My maternity pants arent staying up and my jeans or even some skirts that aren't the stretchy kind are still too tight. And supposedly, according to the scale, I only am 12 pounds over my prepregnancy weight... And I was a size 4/6. Ugh. Right now it's scorching hot here in new England so the idea of jeans grosses me out - but I would love to fit something at some point.

Re: dresses. If I don't want to buy actual nursing dresses, what style might work for nursing? Maybe a wrap that I can kind of pull down to nurse? Anyone have any styles they love for hot summer nursing?
post #229 of 284

Low neckline or stretchy neckline dresses work for nursing. Even on my third I'm still not that comfortable (somehow?) with pulling something down to nurse. Pulling my shirt up still keeps my breast covered, but to nurse over the top you're definitely popping a boob out. I'm more likely to do it if I have the baby in the (untied) wrap so I can move the tails around to cover a bit.

 

I'm wearing only dresses and skirts at this point. I fit into one of my old pairs of jeans, the pair with the hole in the knee that I'd been saving as painting pants so I turned them into cut-off's. I really don't feel that comfortable in dresses either- I feel like the fabric moves around to make it really obvious I have a post-baby belly pooch/flab going on and it makes me self-conscious. I expect it's just as obvious (or non obvious, if it's just in my head!) In a skirt but the waistband on my belly makes me feel like it's more camoflauged.

 

I want to get some more dresses as well, despite being self conscious. I got a kick out of dresses and leggings over the winter- a lot more wear out of my wardrobe that way, and it's way to hot for pants right now.

post #230 of 284
Agree that I am also not comfortable pulling down to nurse (in public, obviously) unless I have something to cover up with, which I usually forget eyesroll.gif
Last time I had a baby in the summer, he was 7-8 months old so he was already eating solids and a champion nurser, and I didn't have such crazy spraying milk... So much easier in public! And to dress myself!
Oy. I'll figure it out.
At least I can make myself feel better knowing that the trade off is that I'm not hugely third trimester pregnant in the summer this time around, which is just better any way you look at it!
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Low neckline or stretchy neckline dresses work for nursing. Even on my third I'm still not that comfortable (somehow?) with pulling something down to nurse. Pulling my shirt up still keeps my breast covered, but to nurse over the top you're definitely popping a boob out. I'm more likely to do it if I have the baby in the (untied) wrap so I can move the tails around to cover a bit.

I'm wearing only dresses and skirts at this point. I fit into one of my old pairs of jeans, the pair with the hole in the knee that I'd been saving as painting pants so I turned them into cut-off's. I really don't feel that comfortable in dresses either- I feel like the fabric moves around to make it really obvious I have a post-baby belly pooch/flab going on and it makes me self-conscious. I expect it's just as obvious (or non obvious, if it's just in my head!) In a skirt but the waistband on my belly makes me feel like it's more camoflauged.

I want to get some more dresses as well, despite being self conscious. I got a kick out of dresses and leggings over the winter- a lot more wear out of my wardrobe that way, and it's way to hot for pants right now.
post #231 of 284

If any of you have a Plato's Closet near you I highly recommend it!  Today I got a pair of Gap shorts and a Loft top for $14!  Score!

post #232 of 284

yes! we have lots of second-hand shops around here, that's how I get most of my clothes anyway. I'll sell these in-between clothes back if I manage to fit into my old clothes again. 

 

also, rozziemama - I don't know how tall you are, but I'm 5'3" and started off the same size as you, and I know 12 pounds is a lot on my frame. I carry most of my extra weight in my lower body, which makes a big difference for pants. I think dresses are a great idea! maybe you can loosely tie a big, light scarf around your neck if you're not wearing baby, and use that to cover up with a pull-down neckline? 

post #233 of 284

I pull down and usually have baby in the ergo, so i just flip the hood over his head. 

 

I have to admit, that i don't really care if someone sees my boob.  I guess as long as the nipple is covered, its okay.  I'd rather show the top of my boob then my belly :)

 

I also like layering.. with a shirt that pulls down and one that goes up.  But it is still coolish here in the pnw... 70/75 is as warm as it gets right now...

post #234 of 284
Maryam- I'm 5'4". So basically the same as you. 12 pounds is a lot on my body. And it's basically all in my kind of lower belly to upper thigh/hip region. Oh well... :/
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yes! we have lots of second-hand shops around here, that's how I get most of my clothes anyway. I'll sell these in-between clothes back if I manage to fit into my old clothes again. 

also, rozziemama - I don't know how tall you are, but I'm 5'3" and started off the same size as you, and I know 12 pounds is a lot on my frame. I carry most of my extra weight in my lower body, which makes a big difference for pants. I think dresses are a great idea! maybe you can loosely tie a big, light scarf around your neck if you're not wearing baby, and use that to cover up with a pull-down neckline? 
post #235 of 284

I just got some short knit skirts at Target for $12 each. I figure if they're knit they'll still fit after I lose 15 pounds...but if they don't, I guess I'll be okay with that! :-) I'm doing lots of one shirt down, one shirt up outfits too (with my 3 top shirts and 2 nursing tanks that fit...) and have 2 pair of under belly maternity shorts that I've resigned myself to. We it's too hot to layer, I just wear a loose sports bra that I pull up to semi-cover my boob when I pull my shirt down.

 

I am just about 6 weeks post-partum and it STILL hurts to have a bowel movement...argh. My giant tear went really close to...that area and until about a week ago the tear would even bleed every time I went, so I guess that's progress???

 

I think I'm finally just about done with the red blood, but can we talk about bladder leakage? Does anyone else seem to have this problem? I can't remember if that's common or not...I wish it wasn't happening! I have to change my panty liner every time I go to the bathroom and it's obvious from the smell that it's wet with urine...YUCK! Must remember to do my kegels!

 

As for us, we are done after 2 kids and I want DH to get "snipped" this year as we've already met our insurance deductible. Anyone else slowly introducing this idea to their partners?
 

post #236 of 284

Speaking of clothes... whoops, just had to take a break to wipe up chunky spit up from my cleavage... anyway, I'm in wedding at the end of July.  I'll be just about 8 weeks postpartum.  I ordered my dress a size up from my pre-preg size.  By the time the dresses came in I was too big to try it on.  I finally put it on yesterday.  It's empire waist so that is good, but I can't zip it up all the way because my ribcage has expanded!  Yikes!  Can I expect it to go back down in the next five weeks or should I start figuring out how to alter it?

 

And I would like to say that I think you all with more than one kid are amazing!!!  Somedays it's all I can do to manage caring for one and I have lots of family around helping out.flowersforyou.gif    

post #237 of 284
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I think I'm finally just about done with the red blood, but can we talk about bladder leakage? Does anyone else seem to have this problem? I can't remember if that's common or not...I wish it wasn't happening! I have to change my panty liner every time I go to the bathroom and it's obvious from the smell that it's wet with urine...YUCK! Must remember to do my kegels!

 

 

Yes, common.  Do kegels when you're sitting on the toilet if that's all you remember to do them.  Sit there while you do 5 or 10 of them. 

 

I had this problem for the first week or so pp with DD, but I had it a LOT longer with DS.  Like over a year, IIRC. 

 

What I find interesting this time around is that while my bleeding has stopped being regular, I still spot periodically, and I can totally feel when I start bleeding again.  I can literally feel the blood coming out of me.  It's very strange.  I'm usually sitting in the NICU when it happens, since holding DD gets my hormones going.  Then I have to put her down so I can leave the ward to use the bathroom and deal with the bleeding, then I have to scrub back into the ward.  Very frustrating.  I've learned to keep a spare pair of panties and pads in my purse. 

 

As for the getting snipped, DH is planning on doing that soon, this whole hospital thing has thrown us off everything.  It was totally all on his own though, I didn't have to suggest anything.  I would probably start by discussing family planning in a more general sense... like making sure he understands that you're done.  I  made it clear while I was in labor that I was DONE, and I wasn't doing this again.  Even though we had already agreed to being done, I made it extremely clear that I thought I was insane for doing this a third time, and I had no idea why I hadn't stopped already.  While I love the pregnancy part, days and days of labor seems to be my pattern, and I'm so not doing it again.  Not to mention 2 out of 3 children with heart defects, I don't want to roll those dice again.  At this point I'm wondering if I should be taking DS in for a cardiac echo, JIC. 

post #238 of 284
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I just got some short knit skirts at Target for $12 each. I figure if they're knit they'll still fit after I lose 15 pounds...but if they don't, I guess I'll be okay with that! :-) I'm doing lots of one shirt down, one shirt up outfits too (with my 3 top shirts and 2 nursing tanks that fit...) and have 2 pair of under belly maternity shorts that I've resigned myself to. We it's too hot to layer, I just wear a loose sports bra that I pull up to semi-cover my boob when I pull my shirt down.

 

I am just about 6 weeks post-partum and it STILL hurts to have a bowel movement...argh. My giant tear went really close to...that area and until about a week ago the tear would even bleed every time I went, so I guess that's progress???

 

I think I'm finally just about done with the red blood, but can we talk about bladder leakage? Does anyone else seem to have this problem? I can't remember if that's common or not...I wish it wasn't happening! I have to change my panty liner every time I go to the bathroom and it's obvious from the smell that it's wet with urine...YUCK! Must remember to do my kegels!

 

As for us, we are done after 2 kids and I want DH to get "snipped" this year as we've already met our insurance deductible. Anyone else slowly introducing this idea to their partners?
 

 

I took  Senokot to make bms easier after delivery and found that it really helped! 

 

I would love for DH to get "snipped" as well...but we aren't yet 30 and DH isn't 100% sure he wants to be done (though w the kids whining all. morning. long. today i cannot imagine another one at the moment) How are you presenting the idea to your DH?

post #239 of 284

Cristeen mentioned eating more oils like coconut oils to help with BM's- and it helps a lot. I eat somewhere in the range of 2-4 Tbsp a day (mixed with oatmeal or on bread).

 

We definitely want another one- okay, I do, my husband is now making the exact same "joke" as his brother did and is saying he only wanted one. We definitely agreed on 4 before we got pregnant the first time, so, uh, that's just not funny. I'm talking about it now- "so in two years we'll need to sell this car- should we start a saving fund to go towards a minivan so we can put the 4th kid somewhere?" and "I figure the 2 year age gap is probably good between Everett and our 4th, even though part of me wants to have them closer so we can just be DONE with babies." Just to get him used to the idea. 

 

We have also so far agreed on the snip for DH. I told him I am NOT doing hormones, I am flat out absolutely NOT getting my tubes tied, so unless he's open to the idea of having even more babies after our 4th, then it's up to him. He'll still probably be under 30 (he's almost 27, so he'll be... 29, probably? when we start looking into it) so that might delay things a bit.

 

Also, does anyone have any idea if postpartum hormones can start to change in the 6-8 week post partum range? I am, in the last few days, SUPER moody and irritable, having trouble sleeping even though the kids are all asleep and don't want my husband to come near me. Before this I was feeling pretty mellow, sleeping well, and really couldn't wait to start DTD again. I feel shakey and stressed and pressured all the time, like I'm in a hurry, except for that part where I'm not doing anything that matters... like, ever. Time frames don't exist right now. I'd like it to go away, but this is how I felt for like, 10 months after DS was born.


Edited by Astraia - 6/23/12 at 2:56pm
post #240 of 284
Hey ladies.

Anyone know if it's possible to stop bleeding for like a week and then have brown/red spotting a little bit each day? Could it be my period or is it just more bleeding from having the baby? No cramping. It's usually just for 1-3 bathroom trips a day and barely requires a panty liner most of the time.
Ive been spotting for about 10 days now. Maybe 2 weeks.
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