Hi! We have a lot of freedom with work at home job, but not our income ;p. I am getting really close to picking out places to live. I am stuck about something I can't quite explain, but it must be "the energy." I am a dabbling waldorf (the head fairy in the house, pretty much) mother (I make toys for holidays plus buy handmade and that is from magical people, but I gave my son (from mom and dad) a huge plastic crane truck because I couldn't afford the wooden one and I always wonder if the pull to buy him those few plastic toys is like telepathy - you know he really loves it..) Anyway.. I feel very natural and also child led. I know my little son wants to be a farmer, and fisherman (we stared blankly at him for many months before getting him a pole, and kept handing him the net) - I really had just a few experiences before he really brought it up again and again. He also loves outerspace and is begging for a razor scooter. He is such a half mainstream boy that I worry that Waldorf will mess him up, but I love laughter and good energy as a guide. I attend and put anything magical and natural up for grabs first, highly limit the cruel mean world. Don't really have a family or a life that limits with info of the world though. DH is homeschooling with me and that is so unnatural to his parenting I have really given up.
The thing is when I get to cheaper areas or super big box store areas, I start to fade... and some how over spend...or not upcycle enough (or good enough). We are always trying to save more money to do more things... but not like classes or groups. Do you enjoy those classes and groups more than traveling to a fun place or museum?
I have two places in mind -
1) where I am renting:
6 thrift stores, nice parks, close to classes, a fair amount of secular support groups (but totally surpassed by the hoards of religious). Close to a great library, nice healthy affordable food store and natural store. A cool bar. You name it, not 5 stars, but the little town has it all. Even a ghetto and punks at the skate park talking trash in front of my kids..plus soccer. 3 nice playgrounds. Flat looking at mountains on both sides, river we canoe on. Very close to all kinds of hiking. Really cheap county (oddly, like gas priced so low). And a hop skip and metro to DC. I really must be sooooo grateful! The super big box stores are on another turf up by the interstate, but in town all fast food has landed. (I am a vegetarian and love raw food, and vegan food for that matter.. I usually make food for outings.. but not so much in DC). People are really sweet here, it is a small town and people get known, patience is practiced. Humbleness is a good virtue. Family is really important. I have been here on accident for a year. Population has doubled in the past 20 years to 40k.. that might have a tad to do with "the cause" that is the religious cause that has people coming here. I meet so many HSing in the store and we have one brief conversation and then I can tell..we will not be meeting at her church. I do have the mind to buy 5 acres in the woods that has a lot of privacy, but you know, town is far different.
2) One county south:
population in a much bigger county - 7k. No fast food or big box in county. Not sure if they have a playground that isn't on the school property. They have a Waldorf school that let's homeschoolers in for $10 a class! They have very little on Main street; small natural store, amazing pizza, and everything else is art. They have lots of hiking but actually not as much as where I am renting. I am pretty sure they have more hippies and organic farmers. Everywhere you look you see beauty. You have to drive to everything else you want (30-50 miles). I mean it. Not kidding. They have one stop light in the whole county. There are tons of rich people with vast amounts of land. I am not sure if they even have one HOA in the county. It is like time just stopped. You can find an affordable home but you have to pounce on it very fast.
I am a hedonistic lover and dreamer of the world, but I really want to be very close to plants that I grow and big tall trees, streams. My DH has a lot of those same wants but he is always worried about opening doors for our kids and they are so organized by others some times for them to kind of count. I don't really think so, but i can see it for like theater and dance. I think living near DC is a lot to think about when you want to do that. I am not sure if getting in with all the organized people is a life I realllllly want to live. I would much rather teach all kinds of things with grand books, movies, experiments...not so many places to go on this time and day.
But...I am really, really, really scared! I feel like I will be given a handful of families for friends. They will probably be exactly like me though. I am also scared of having less time alone, because no playground, no thrift stores.. Not sure where to send Dad out to. The grocery store is soooo far away! The library is not as amazing..
The last bit is if I should just jump all ready? I mean a life with out big box and fast food!!!!! I am not a wannabe person... I can feel where I am and also my longing to upgrade myself (whereever I live). I am seriously wondering : Will this raise a thriving unschooler? If I limit his world to nature and more nature? But also take them to the big city like whenever they want? Plus loads of fun in 5 different counties.
Please speak reality to me! Even if it sucks or is the best ever. I have a feeling both sides/places are so important.