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How early will you take baby out of the house?

post #1 of 18
Thread Starter 

My 5th grader has a school performance on Friday.  It's their big end of year performance and I want to go but not sure if I should given Isaac will be about 1.5 weeks old.  I was thinking maybe if I wore him in the sling and didn't let anyone get too close it might be ok, but I am worried because there is a cold virus going around (my youngest is home sick with it today--ugghh).  And next week I'm gonna need to take him so dh can show him off at school before they have their last day on the 25th.  What would you do?  When will you be taking baby out to places like the store, social functions, etc?  We aren't planning on going to church until he is about 4 weeks old and not if there is a virus going around.

post #2 of 18

At 1.5 weeks, I absolutely would.  The sling is a perfect solution.  I took Poppy to the chiropractor when she was about 30 hours old and both my girls went to the mall for newborn pictures at 5 days old.  I can stand a day or 2 at home but then I start going nuts.  Especially since you've got older kids, keeping your baby at home doesn't really mean he won't be exposed to germs regardless.  Enjoy the performance!

post #3 of 18

We've been out a few times already.  The first time we went out was when Layla was 6 days old.  We went to the park and to Ikea.  We've also been to a restaurant (7 days old), the grocery store and Home Depot (10 days old) and DD's school (today, at 11 days old).  We'll also be going out again this afternoon to the park for DD's Girl Scout "end of the year" party.

 

I have mostly worn her in the Mei Tai, so people aren't able to get too close to her face. 

post #4 of 18

On Monday we went out to a few different places. Dodi was 5 days old (?) I just wore her and no one got close.

post #5 of 18

With older kids in the house, I don't really see the point in staying home past the first few days.  You already have the virus in the house, so go out or stay in isn't going to make much difference.  I would definitely keep her in the carrier, though. 

 

Oh, and it also depends on how you are feeling.  Whether or not you're up for that much activity.  Some mamas are at a week pp, and some just aren't.  Listen to your body and don't push too hard. 

post #6 of 18

We traveled half-way across the country when DD was 2.5 weeks old, a very long 2 day trip. I wouldn't recommend that since it sucked big time, next time I'll tell the family a very firm no way. Beforehand we had gone to several stores at around 9-12 days old to get used to getting her in and out of the car since she was a homebirth. So if I were you, I wouldn't worry about it but if you don't feel up to it then don't go.

post #7 of 18
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Originally Posted by cristeen View Post

With older kids in the house, I don't really see the point in staying home past the first few days.  You already have the virus in the house, so go out or stay in isn't going to make much difference.  I would definitely keep her in the carrier, though. 

 

Oh, and it also depends on how you are feeling.  Whether or not you're up for that much activity.  Some mamas are at a week pp, and some just aren't.  Listen to your body and don't push too hard. 

This is so true!  I felt great before we went out on Thursday, but walking around the park and Ikea was really hard on me.  I should have waited longer to do so much walking. 

post #8 of 18

I think about 4 days old is my "at the earliest" phase. I'm starting to feel human again, my milk is in so the baby can have periods of being quiet and alert instead of just nursing constantly, stuff like that. With DD, my first, we waited longer than that but now both of my kids are sick anyway so I'm not worried about exposing the little guy to anything because he already has been.

 

But yeah, how you're feeling- and remembering to take it easy, regardless of how great your feeling- is important.

post #9 of 18
Soren came home from the hospital at 2 days old and then we stopped by the grocery but he and I stayed in the car. Then the next day we drove 90 minutes to take my sister back to school and went out for lunch and to two big box stores. He was in my sling or dps sling the whole time. He was 3 days old then. That really kicked my bum though! Shay was out the afternoon he was born because we had to take him to the doc to get a medical person to check him out. We also went to chipotle (where I worked) to show him off and to the chiro to have him assessed.

Good luck with your daughters show!!
post #10 of 18

I go out again whenever I feel like it. I don't really think there's a magic number of days or weeks when baby's immune system is suddenly so much better. With my first it was 3 days old and we went to a going away dinner at a restaurant. With my second it was longer, just because I didn't need to be anywhere. I imagine it will be longer than a few days this time, because DH will be off work and there's nowhere we will have to be. However, there will be lots and lots of neighbors stopping by probably 2 days after the baby's born, so all the normal germy exposure will happen anyway. Plus, dd has friends over almost every day. :)

post #11 of 18

Well, I went out today- Everett is 3 days old (by my count I say four, but the consensus is the day he's born doesn't count as a day). It was not a good idea. He was fabulous, but I've been feeling awful this whole postpartum period, and 25 minutes of walking around (slowly) so everyone at my husband's work could ooh and ahh over baby took a lot out of me. I'm in pain now (pulled a muslce in my bum?) and exhuasted, even after a 2.5 hr nap.

post #12 of 18

I agree it just depends on how you're feeling.  I didn't want to miss my ds's school performance when dd was 3 days old so I went.  

post #13 of 18
Thread Starter 

Thanks for all the responses.  We went to dd's school play today & it went great.  Baby slept through it,  I took him out yesterday & the day before to the store.  Annoyingly I had some cramping & bleeding increase after each time out. I hope that stops soon.  Spending most of the rest of the day resting.

post #14 of 18
You are all going to think I'm nuts but not only have I not taken baby Deacon out, I pulled DS out of preschool when I went on maternity leave (May 1) and have kept him home too so we don't get those viruses in the house. (of course when DS visited us at the hospital w/ new baby he picked up something and had diarrhea the next day) .... But yea, for the most part I plan on keeping the kids at home until Deacon is 2-3 weeks old. I am dying to get some Starbucks or something but I am sticking it out idoors due to my germ phobia.

Now, I will say I have taken Deacon & DS to the neighborhood park/playground and pool (150 yards from the house) and I felt ok about it because we were outside & not too close to others.

I wasn't always this paranoid. With DS1 I waited about a week to take him out to a bookstore. With DS2 we were at the mall at 10 days old. I only waited that long then because I had stitches and walking was uncomfortable. This time I am a nervous wreck about germs...& also having such tiny precious cargo in the back seat of a CRV (I used to want a prius to get good mileage and use less fuel- now I want a hummer or Tahoe or something lol)
post #15 of 18

Meredith - I don't think you're nuts.  I'm not planning on leaving the house except to get necessary groceries (i.e. eggs, milk and bread) for at least 3 weeks.  And even then I can send DH to do it if I'm not up to it.  DS' therapists come to us, and so can everyone else for that time period. 

post #16 of 18

Haha, Meredith, I think a CRV is still a good vehicle! Not that I know much besides what it looks like, but it LOOKS sturdy enough!

 

I know what you mean about fear. I keep looking at Everett in his little carseat, and even though I know it's buckled correctly I keep thinking- how is this POSSIBLY safe?!?! The older kids seem safe and secure but I keep thinking if this dude could come out of my vagina last week, there is no way these straps will hold him in place. I just need to stop thinking about it, because it's making me a bit crazy.

 

Honestly, I would love to leave the house BY MYSELF. I know I can't for a few months yet (ugh), but it suddenly hit me the other day that I am, for now, a permanent +1 everywhere I go. It's making me feel a bit trapped.

post #17 of 18

I don't know how realistic my plan is, but I'm planning on staying in for at least two weeks. I don't even know if I'm going to walk around the block or anything. I feel fine, but I'd really like to give myself the time to heal. I also had a c-section, and I basically didn't sleep for 3 nights in a row (and still haven't come close to making up for it) so I'm taking that into account.

 

if I had another kid and they had an important event, I might push myself and go to the event. Kusha is 4 days old now and I don't know if I'd be comfortable with taking him to something like that so early, but I suspect that at a week I could be convinced that it's ok.

post #18 of 18
LOL I totally agree!
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Originally Posted by Astraia View Post

I keep thinking if this dude could come out of my vagina last week, there is no way these straps will hold him in place. I just need to stop thinking about it, because it's making me a bit crazy.

We are kind of loose about it I guess, even though I'm completely worried about germs - it doesn't stop me from going out - grocery store, restaurant, pick up DS @ preschool (Omg that was too much not doing that again- twenty germy 4 year olds swarmed us), you name it. But... We have to live our life... I am totally paranoid about ds touching Kai's face. I feel bad - don't want ds to feel sad... But geez how do second kids survive with preschool germs in the house?
I asked the pediatrician and she just shrugged and said my breastmilk is providing the immunity or whatever... But it still freaks me out.
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