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post #1 of 6
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One of my friends, a new mother, asked about books I would recommend. Trying to be concise and not overwhelm her, I tried to think of what parenting books most affect how I interact with my kids. I think the three that have most influenced me would be:

Siblings Without Rivalry (I learned so much about mine and my sister's relationship, too!)
Protecting the Gift (Growing up watching Unsolved Mysteries and Americas Most Wanted left me paranoid. This book helped me feel empowered)
Unconditional Parenting (Not much practical advice, but the backbone of how we try to treat our kids)

What have you read that has most influenced your family relationships?
post #2 of 6

I will be curious what others suggest as well.  I am particularly interested in something that DH can read.  He struggles to parent the way that I do and we clash on this from time to time.  I can see how he was raised coming through loud and clear and would love for him to have a better understanding about what to expect - what is appropriate for a particular age.  I don't mean milestones but more of what level of understanding a 3 year old has for example and how to work WITH a child, not try to be in charge all the time....if that makes sense.

 

DH is not a huge reader so I haven't found anything that has seemed like a good fit.  I'll be looking at these suggestions to see if something may help!

post #3 of 6

I really like "You Are Your Child's First Teacher." It talks a lot about our role as parents and how we influence our young children. "Simplicity Parenting" is excellent as well! It's one of my favorite bath time books that helps me remember what's important in parenting.

 

Also among my favorites are "Mitten Strings from God" and "Buddhism for Mothers." Religion aside, both books are great at providing little stories and meditations to help provide the little bit of grounding I need from time to time. I'm coming to learn that parenting is much more fun and a lot easier when I make sure I'm healthy and in a good place! :)

post #4 of 6
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Originally Posted by Jend1002 View Post

would love for him to have a better understanding about what to expect - what is appropriate for a particular age.  I don't mean milestones but more of what level of understanding a 3 year old has for example and how to work WITH a child, not try to be in charge all the time....if that makes sense.

What kinds of things does he get into reading? Research based stuff, books with cartoons, lots of personal stories, or something else entirely? If he just isn't into reading, you could consider a child development class or audio book versions. If he's a technical person, I would highly recommend Einstein Never Used Flashcards. If he'd like the cartoon style to break up the text, Siblings Without Rivalry and How To Talk So Kids Will Listen And Listen So Kids Will Talk are great choices.

There is also a great series, Your One Year Old, Your Two Year Old, etc. They are, admittedly, really old books from the 80s, but one of my friends has the whole series, and she recommended them to me. The thing is, child development hasn't changed in 20 years- just how we look at it. What a kid can understand, and how they like to play and interact with the world, hasn't changed in thousands of years! What I mean to say- these books are still very relevant.
post #5 of 6

Help - Great questions to which I don't really have an answer!  When looking at your links, I think How To Talk... sounds like a great place to start and I am going to see if our library has that. 

 

Oh - and I have heard of those Your x Year Old books and remember hearing great things.  I'll check that out as well!

 

Edited to add that I just ordered Your 3 Year Old and Your 4 Year Old used from Amazon - $0.01 each :)


Edited by Jend1002 - 5/17/12 at 11:11am
post #6 of 6
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Wow, Jend- I didn't even notice the used prices! I've just been going with library copies!
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