DSD is almost 8 1/2 and is still having occasional bed wetting, which I'm not that concerned with since her dad wet the bed til he was like 11, though it's incredibly annoying. What concerns me more is her "forgetting" to wipe sometimes when she pees (I don't know how it is at school, but at home we've caught her red-handed so to speak) which has been happening for a couple years now, wetting her undies, and just this year we started finding poop smeared in her underwear. She insists she is wiping, but I say no way. I tell her it's bad for her health (like her skin) and she's going to get teased for smelling...I've yelled, I've made her clean the undies. I just don't know what to do or why this is happening. I've heard other people have had this problem, but to me, it just seems that there's something wrong with her, and maybe these other kids are messed up too. No offense, but I just don't get it. At this age, this wiping stuff should be second nature. And for it to START in 1st or second grade when they've been potty -trained for years. What gives?
She is going to be undergoing testing for ADHD and we are hoping to get her into counseling because the issues she's been having for years have gotten a lot worse this year. I've thought that things were off with her for a lot longer than anyone else it seems. Maybe because I see her from a different perspective, even though I've been with her since she was still in diapers. Anyway, now others, including her school and the rest of the family (besides me and my mom, again, seeing her from a different perspective) are finally seeing it. She's always been very impulsive, and has had issues keeping her hands to herself esp. at school with classmates, and doing things that are just impulsive and make you think WTF? both at home and at school. For years she has done things that I would see a 1, 2 or 3 year old doing but not a 6, 7, or 8 year old doing (example: she was caught at school having sprayed water all over the bathroom floor and unwinding an entire roll of toilet paper, and has done similar things at home. When we find these things she's done, she'll first deny it, and then say she doesn't know why she does it. She can also be quite argumentative and defiant about the simplest of things, and whine and cry about the smallest of things. Now it's actually affecting her school work and her not doing what teachers tell her to do. And at home it's gotten worse too.
So I wonder if this bathroom issues could be related to her other issues.
I'm just at my wit's end with this, and everything really. It's gotten to the point where I can't even see past the negative aspects of all this.