Yesterday, I was bleeding pretty heavy, so I went to the ER. I had a transvaginal ultrasound that showed I was measuring at 7.5 weeks instead of 8w6d like I was at the time of ultrasound. They also said they couldn't find the heartbeat, but they reassured me that sometimes it's too early to tell. They did not give me hcg numbers (and after being up 24 hours, I was too tired to remember before I got released). Despite the gushing of blood I've been having recently, when they did the pelvic, my cervix was closed. They told me to follow up with my care provider within a week but thus far the pregnancy looks fine. I don't know: to me, not finding the heartbeat even if I was only at 7.5 weeks gestation seems like not fine; and that I had a positive pregnancy result at 4w1d makes me suspicious that I could be that far off on my dating. I'm really really really worried that my embryo died, and since they weren't positive that it had, they told me things were fine. Has anyone ever had a similar experience and had things turn out fine? Should I be preparing myself for a miscarriage, or is there good reason to still be hopeful?
Also, I'm interested in natural miscarriage advice, just in case. I had a natural miscarriage with my first pregnancy. I hemorrhaged and ended up needing a D&C. It was a painful and terrifying experience. I rather avoid a D&C if I can, but I was wondering what predisposes women to hemorrhage from natural miscarriages, things I can do once I know how the baby is doing (hopefully next week)? How do you cope for the waiting between knowing you have an embryo that has passed and for the miscarriage to really start? I've heard that women are especially fertile after a miscarriage: is this true? Then why do they recommend you wait several months before trying to conceive again? If you have a natural miscarriage, when can you start having sex again? Does it take longer to conceive again after a natural miscarriage vs a D&C? Assuming that I don't hemorrhage, how painful would it typically be? Will I need someone to take care of my kids?