Since my DS was born in January, I have made it a priority to make sure he sees my parents at least once each week. We live about 2.5 hrs apart -- so this is no small task given all the tasks and responsibilities that come with a new babe (and returning to work 6 weeks ago ... but I work at home). We have both shared in the travel -- they've been here and we've spent entire weekends there. I did this because my immediate family is very small and he's the first grandchild. I wanted him to know them when he saw and heard them.
At 3 months old, he was baptized and about 30 people passed him around that day. He was his usual cranky self, but didn't seem to oppose any one person or persons in particular.
Two weeks later, when I arrived at my parents' home, he went into a full-on tantrum. He screamed and turned purple and cried real tears when they so much as spoke to him. By the end of a very long day, he allowed them to look at him and talk to him but he had a fit when they held him. THis past weekend, my mom visited my home. He acted similarly initially, but it wore off rather quickly. He still clearly didn't prefer to be with her, but he tolerated it.
Also, since I could put him in a sitting position, I had him looking at the computer screen to skype with them. He tantrums that way as well ... in fact, I literally JUST ended a session with my mom with whom I couldn't even speak because of his carrying on.
Meanwhile, I took him to a bbq at my husband's work yesterday and two different women HELD him .... and he was smiley and chatty with another baby about his age.
I don't know what is bringing this on ... or why it is just them and all of the sudden. But it is deliberate and his tears shut off INSTANTLY when he is back in my arms or when i shut down the computer screen from skype or when they walk away from him.
I don't want to encourage this behavior -- but he's 4 months old! What do I do?
He's also the type of kid who has been tantruming over a lot of different hings -- how fast he's fed, for example. Just this morning I stopped shoveling fruit into his mouth in response to his cries for more. He does settle down eventually - just wants his voice to be heard, I guess?
I don't want to keep giving him what he wants in this regard. He should not be afraid of them -- and there is no reason to be afraid of them. So, I dont' want to keep him from them because that's what he wants. I'm usually all about "this too shall pass", but not this time. Is this separation anxiety? or something more? Or not?
I put him in his crib and shut the door to this most recent outburst.