I am out of the 2ww, AF arrived yesterday. Luckily I had a weekend full of friends and activity to distract me (even if it did involve a significant number of children and pregnant women!). I love the ideas you have all had, I celebrated with a piece of cake (small but delicious) and a day of enjoying being with my husband, just the two of us. I love the idea of care packages ZenQuaker I just didnt have time to put any together in time. WritingLove I love your comment about having compassion for your obsessiveness. TTC is a huge thing, especially when it is difficult, and you cant expect to feel completely in control and relaxed about it. The fact that it means so much to you is a good thing. We are all here in this place because we badly want a child, and that is not a bad thing. I think letting yourself have time to process each phase and obsess at times is healthy. I am going on cycle 10 of TTC and I am coming to realize that even though TTC is a huge part of our lives right now, I can't let it consume it. That said, when AF showed up like she always does I let myself have a good cry and be sad for what I want and don't have and I felt so much better than when I try to hold it together.
I am working on getting healthier right now, for myself and for TTC, so I have started setting attainable goals. I have been setting 2 sets of goals when I find myself setting those artificial deadlines, which I can't seem to help but do. We have a big family gathering coming up in July and I really want to be pregnant by then. Instead, I am telling myself either I will be pregnant by then OR I will have reached my next weight loss goal and I will look fantastic when we are out on the lake. I am finding the OR goal is really helping keep me a little calmer and less obsessed than I have been, because at some point there is nothing else I can do to reach our goal of TTC, but there are other goals out there that I can reach. I feel much more in control of my life (and my sanity!) when I keep the goals for the rest of my life in mind.