Any suggestions for coping with issues of control and learning how to let go of things after birth?
For example, I am a total neat freak- my husband can let dishes pile for days before washing them, same with the trash and laundry. He could live in a dump and I am not sure he would notice it.
I tend to be very on top of it all because it makes me nuts to see it in our very very small apartment (400sq ft) piling and not have anywhere to go to just ignore it.. but I realize once I give birth, if I try to maintain all my standards I'll go insane and yet, by letting my standards slip (at least right now) and watching everything go without being done makes me just about as crazy.
Does anyone else struggle with this? How have you made peace with the fact that everything you are used to being able to control, do, have clean etc won't be possible after the birth?
Its really hard for me to know I will have to depend on my DH for all of this, simply because his standards are so much lower then mine I feel like often times I am living in a dump (and asking him to clean doesn't work- he still takes just as long as if I didn't ask).
suggestions and stories as always appreciated.