I want to be able to tell my kids stories but I struggle so much with it. I HATE when ds asks me to tell him a story and I wish I didn't. It's just so hard for me- I feel like he is asking me to speak in a foreign language. I feel like my brain just doesn't work the way it needs to to be able to make up stories. I feel so saddened by this.
Sometimes I make an attempt to tell a story but often I get so stumped part way through. I tried telling a story about how ds found a secret passageway in our basement and it took him to a land where all the people were tiny and everything in it was so small and as ds walked into the land, he became as small as the people there. And then for the life of me, I couldn't think of what could possibly happen next. I tried describing what everything was made of (ie. houses were out of tooth picks) but then I couldn't think of any creative things to describe what anything else was made of and I couldn't even think of something that could happen to ds while he was there. This happens all the time where I get stumped and can't finish the story. I ended up pausing the story and never getting back to it.
A handful of times I have gotten to that magical place where the story tells itself and I have told ds a story that flowed and that I didn't get stuck on but this is so rare (ds is almost 6, and it hasn't happened very often in nearly 6 years :( )
Sometimes ds will be having a hard time with something and I will think how it would be so wonderful if I could help him through the struggle by telling him a story. But often, I just can't even frame the exact issue well enough in my mind to come up with a story and then I don't know what exactly it is that he needs to hear. For example, if he is fighting a lot with his 2 year old brother, I think how I would love to tell him a story that could help but I don't always know the underlying issue that is causing the tension between the two of them and so I am lost as to what I would say in a story that could help him. Is he jealous of his brother because he maybe feels he gets more time with mom or dad, just enjoying the powerful feeling that can come when you tease someone smaller, is it that he just doesn't always know how to handle conflict when it arises between them, and the list goes on. And then for the life of me I can't think up a story. Or I think maybe it would be fun for him to hear about a story where the main character has a pesky little brother. But that is where the ideas stop. I can't think of how to come up with such a story. My mind is always blank.
At bedtime when ds asks for a story, I often tell him I will in 5 minutes because I need to think of one first. This annoys him because he often falls asleep waiting. And then I spent the 5 minutes racking my brain trying to come up with a story. It is so painful!
Any suggestions on how I can overcome these issues with story telling? How can I learn to tell stories and get to a point where the stories just come and develop a life of their own. I feel like a lot of my issue is that I am not creative at all. Ok, maybe I am, but I think it has been so terribly squashed/damaged by all my time spent in public schools. I have struggled most of my life to feel creative. There isn't a single area in my life where I exercise creativity. I don't craft/make things, for example. And I feel that my lack of creativity really affects me when I try to tell a story. I get stumped, not because I worry that the ideas that come to me will sound silly but because I will literally have NO ideas at all come to me. Any ideas on how to unlock the creative side that must be buried somewhere deep in me?
Edited by bright_eyes - 5/20/12 at 10:42pm