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post #21 of 43
5/25/12 at 8:12am
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Originally Posted by chiefmir View Post

... are deeply connected to fulfilling people, passions and careers.

I like this!

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post #22 of 43
5/25/12 at 1:16pm
Chris Rock said that his whole job as a father is to make sure that his daughter doesn't end up working in a strip club. I guess that's one definition of "success"!
post #23 of 43
5/25/12 at 1:32pm

I'd consider myself a successful mother if my children grow up and actually enjoy spending time with me and DH as adults!

 

I think this reflects better how the kids would feel towards me which is the best measure of success (for me at least).


Edited by Ramzubo - 5/25/12 at 2:42pm
post #24 of 43
5/25/12 at 2:25pm

able to create their own definitions of success and then achieve them, and then able to enjoy that success.

 

on the therapy front, have the the self awareness to realize if and when they need help, and then the peace of mind to just get it.
 

post #25 of 43
5/26/12 at 11:21pm
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Originally Posted by Linda on the move View Post

able to create their own definitions of success and then achieve them, and then able to enjoy that success.

 

 

I think I like this one better than mine.

post #26 of 43
5/27/12 at 7:33am
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post #27 of 43
5/28/12 at 7:08am
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Originally Posted by Linda on the move View Post

able to create their own definitions of success and then achieve them, and then able to enjoy that success.

 

 

 

Spot on!

 

I often feel that people would judge me as unsuccessful, because i didnt dedicate myself to a 'successful' career. But i feel very successful on my own terms, in choosing late motherhood.  I often find myself thinking of the way i was parented, and having enjoyed my childhood,  and think to myself, well i am successful on my own terms, and i owe  the inner strength that it takes to achieve that to my parents. 

 

 

 

on the therapy front, have the the self awareness to realize if and when they need help, and then the peace of mind to just get it.
 

 

Absolutely! Self awareness and peace of mind is the key.

post #28 of 43
5/28/12 at 8:29am

OK, I really like what Linda on the move wrote, and after some thinking, I'm revising my statement.

 

I'd consider myself a successful mother if my child grows up and I am able to enjoy her, love her and support her exactly as she is.

 

I'm more comfortable defining my success as a parent in terms of what I do, not what my kid does. If I can figure out how to stay open, loving & supportive, no matter what my child chooses to do or be, I'll consider that a success.

post #29 of 43
5/28/12 at 10:30am

I'd consider myself a successful mother if my dd just grows up.  I think there is something to be said for just keeping her alive and healthy enough to reach adulthood.

I'd consider myself a successful mother if my dd can take care of herself as an adult.

I'd consider myself a successful mother if my dd has some good memories of her childhood.

 

I don't feel I could take credit or blame for everything she will do or feel as an adult. I do wish for her to be happy. I do hope she will treat herself and others with respect and kindness. If she somehow isn't happy or kind as an adult then I don't think I failed as a mother.

post #30 of 43
5/30/12 at 11:45pm

... if my dd grows up and decides its ok to be different, to be the odd one out. that she does what SHE wants to do rather than what society/peers say... walking the difficult path because she wants to. 

 

that its ok to be alone. sad but ok. 

post #31 of 43
5/31/12 at 4:45am

That she will be happy. Passionate about what she cares about and kind and generous.

 

But mostly ... That she will truly know I will love her and support her regardless of the choices she makes. I know too many people who even now in our thirties have never connected or reconnected with their parents after adolescence because they feel their parents don't "get" who they are. I know I'll be a successful parent if my dd doesn't think twice about bringing home a girlfriend instead of a boyfriend, an atheist instead of a Christian, or choose a career totally different from the college degree she earned that I worked my butt of saving money for twenty years to pay for. 

Whatever she chooses may or may not be what I would have picked for her but if we can still be close and have an open and honest relationship I'll be one happy mama. 

post #32 of 43
6/1/12 at 9:02pm

.. and move out.

post #33 of 43
6/1/12 at 9:09pm
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Originally Posted by LynnS6 View Post

.. and move out.

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post #34 of 43
6/4/12 at 6:22am

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Originally Posted by onlyzombiecat View Post

I'd consider myself a successful mother if my dd just grows up.  I think there is something to be said for just keeping her alive and healthy enough to reach adulthood.

I'd consider myself a successful mother if my dd can take care of herself as an adult.

I'd consider myself a successful mother if my dd has some good memories of her childhood.

 

I don't feel I could take credit or blame for everything she will do or feel as an adult. I do wish for her to be happy. I do hope she will treat herself and others with respect and kindness. If she somehow isn't happy or kind as an adult then I don't think I failed as a mother.

 


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Originally Posted by ilovemygirl View Post

That she will be happy. Passionate about what she cares about and kind and generous.

 

But mostly ... That she will truly know I will love her and support her regardless of the choices she makes. I know too many people who even now in our thirties have never connected or reconnected with their parents after adolescence because they feel their parents don't "get" who they are. I know I'll be a successful parent if my dd doesn't think twice about bringing home a girlfriend instead of a boyfriend, an atheist instead of a Christian, or choose a career totally different from the college degree she earned that I worked my butt of saving money for twenty years to pay for. 

Whatever she chooses may or may not be what I would have picked for her but if we can still be close and have an open and honest relationship I'll be one happy mama. 

 

I like these, Zombiecat and ilovemygirl.

 

I hope I am able to teach my kids compassion and consideration for themselves, others, and the earth and I hope I am able to impart to them that their happiness lies in themselves. No one else (not even mom) can make them happy. They have to choose happiness and optimism. So I hope they will be happy, but it's up to them and I'm not sure I can base my success as a parent on their happiness. I strive to do my best by them, but ultimately they are their own people and they get to choose the path they walk.

post #35 of 43
6/8/12 at 10:07am

...are happy and healthy.

post #36 of 43
6/9/12 at 3:43pm

..are resilient and open-minded. Because that a happy person makes.

post #37 of 43
6/11/12 at 9:31pm

...are mensch.

post #38 of 43
6/12/12 at 4:18pm

... are menschen. duck.gif

post #39 of 43
6/14/12 at 12:23am

Thanks for the grammar correction. Wasn't sure of the plural form.

post #40 of 43
6/14/12 at 12:37am

don't kill anyone or become addicted to crystal meth.

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