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[mamaharrison]

Higher HB usually indicate girls ; ) It was true for me. I think it is over 150=girl and under tends to be boy.

[phatchristy]

I spent a few days away with the family.  Strangely was fine when I was gone, but got back and then I got hit with a massive case of sinusitis.  A sinus headache that came and went.  My usual high level of nausea flew into massive puking.  So much puking I scared DH.  2 1/2 days of puking so badly that I was stuck there gagging for minutes at a time at the end.  Couldn't hold down water even.  I was starting to get worried about dehydration...but, after some sinus rinses and as much rest as I could muster I now feel so much better.  No puking today!  Woo hoo!  Still the nausea, but I think that headache really sent me over the edge and I couldn't control the nausea.  Hoping this lasts.  That puking hurt!

[travelmumma]

Phatchristy- I know what you mean. I forgot how much puling hurts til now!

For those of you who won't be finding out baby's sex- why?

I was all for finding out until last night when I had a weird thought that has made me want to wait...

What is it for you that stop you from finding out?

[nhklh]

Originally Posted by travelmumma 

For those of you who won't be finding out baby's sex- why?

I was all for finding out until last night when I had a weird thought that has made me want to wait...

What is it for you that stop you from finding out?

I don't have any reason TO find out.  And I'm not planning to have any ultrasounds anyway.  I figure it'll become evident eventually ;)

[nhklh]

Also, for me, the sex really doesn't matter.  I have 2 boys and they are such totally different individuals - I really don't have any notions about what a "boy child" or a "girl child" would/should/might be like because I figure they're all such individuals anyway, and we don't buy into gender-based expectations/stereotypes anyway.  

[travelmumma]

It might be a bit of an "over share" but this is the thing that has made me not want to find out.

I was sexually abused as a child and so i feel like my entire childhood was defined by my genitals, so i don't want to put any expectation/stereotypes on my babe no matter what age.

And when we were at the ultrasound the other day i said to my hubby "Oh the poor thing probably feels like s/he is being watched".

One good reason and one silly one!

Plus i don't think i really need any more ultrasounds!

And then of course my stupid part of my brain says "but what will it wear" lol

[lilbsmama]

We're not finding out this time. Last time, that was the plan, but I couldn't help but notice my son's penis when Doc turned the u/s screen. I wished so badly that I could have un-seen it. This time I'm just not going to look! I don't want to find out because I want a true surprise, and like  nhklh said, I already have 2 boys and they are SO different. 

[lilbsmama]

Originally Posted by phatchristy 

I spent a few days away with the family.  Strangely was fine when I was gone, but got back and then I got hit with a massive case of sinusitis.  A sinus headache that came and went.  My usual high level of nausea flew into massive puking.  So much puking I scared DH.  2 1/2 days of puking so badly that I was stuck there gagging for minutes at a time at the end.  Couldn't hold down water even.  I was starting to get worried about dehydration...but, after some sinus rinses and as much rest as I could muster I now feel so much better.  No puking today!  Woo hoo!  Still the nausea, but I think that headache really sent me over the edge and I couldn't control the nausea.  Hoping this lasts.  That puking hurt!

phatchchristy - I am so, so sorry! It sounds like what you just went through was horrific and I wish that on no one. Glad you are feeling better!

[Mamabeakley]

If I were to have an ultrasound at a time when they could tell, I would find out the sex.  However, I don't have routine ultrasounds (I don't see the necessity AND I have concerns about safety AND they are expensive) so something would have to be wrong for that to happen.  And it doesn't bother me at all to wait to find out.  I have two boys who are very different from each other and a girl who is very different from them and whoever this baby is, s/he will likely be different from any of them!  If it did bother me, I'd do something differently, I expect.

[chicajones]

We had originally talked about not finding out, but since we're moving internationally at the end of my second trimester, we felt like it would be one less thing that's "up in the air." Plus, we feel like it's something we can share with our families, since we'll be so far away from them for the actual birth, etc. We're only planning to get one U/S (at 20 weeks) though, so if for some reason they can't tell, we may just wait it out.

Quick MW appt update -- we heard the heartbeat last night! It was so surreal and I couldn't stop laughing. :) Feeling so relieved and overjoyed. Also found out that my blood type is O negative, so I have to get the RhoGAM shot around 28 weeks. Not a huge deal, but I had no idea what my blood type was, so that was interesting. Oh, and I gained three pounds, which is super great (I'm pretty small). Feeling so good today, hooray!

[zebrachick83]

Originally Posted by travelmumma 

It might be a bit of an "over share" but this is the thing that has made me not want to find out.

I was sexually abused as a child and so i feel like my entire childhood was defined by my genitals, so i don't want to put any expectation/stereotypes on my babe no matter what age.

And when we were at the ultrasound the other day i said to my hubby "Oh the poor thing probably feels like s/he is being watched".

One good reason and one silly one!

Plus i don't think i really need any more ultrasounds!

And then of course my stupid part of my brain says "but what will it wear" lol

(Hug) Fellow abuse survivor here. Interestingly, it made me dead set against having a girl. But when I saw the ultrasound, I burst into tears at just seeing our baby, who was in fact a girl. It's interesting how those events affect us all differently, but I think your stance is very level-headed. Just wanted you to know you're not alone. 

[zebrachick83]

Originally Posted by mamaharrison 

Higher HB usually indicate girls ; ) It was true for me. I think it is over 150=girl and under tends to be boy.

I actually hope that's the case for us this time around. I want another little girl. 

[kel]

I never find out because I just think it's more fun for it to be a surprise.  That's the only reason - but has always been my reason.  I've only had an ultrasound once before and was kinda thinking I'd ask, but they couldn't even tell, due to the position of the babe - so that worked out.  This time I am having an early ultrasound - the midwife recommended it for dating purposes since I always go almost 2 wks "past due" - but the babe will be too small to tell (8 wks) and so I should get another surprise.  I know they say that heart rate is inaccurate, but I think it's been right with all of my kids... 

[darkblue0729]

Originally Posted by travelmumma 

It might be a bit of an "over share" but this is the thing that has made me not want to find out.

I was sexually abused as a child and so i feel like my entire childhood was defined by my genitals, so i don't want to put any expectation/stereotypes on my babe no matter what age.

And when we were at the ultrasound the other day i said to my hubby "Oh the poor thing probably feels like s/he is being watched".

One good reason and one silly one!

Plus i don't think i really need any more ultrasounds!

And then of course my stupid part of my brain says "but what will it wear" lol

Mama  I am so sorry. I know what that is like.

We don't find out, and with our first we accumulated a bunch of uber appropriate gender neutral stuff, now thankfully, we have two girls and a boy so it doesn't matter what this babe ends up being as we will have plenty of stuff for it. The only part that I find tough about not finding out, is some mamas have awesome intuition and just intrinsically know what gender they are having, and I sadly, do not possess that ability...so for me it is a complete and total surprise each time our babes are born, lol. Sometimes I feel a bit sad that I don't seem to have the deep connection with knowing the gender of the baby before hand, but I can't complain, I feel very attached to each of my children in utero in any event.

[phatchristy]

Originally Posted by travelmumma 

Phatchristy- I know what you mean. I forgot how much puling hurts til now!

For those of you who won't be finding out baby's sex- why?

I was all for finding out until last night when I had a weird thought that has made me want to wait...

What is it for you that stop you from finding out?

I have two of each here already, I generally have not found out here.  Although I have a feeling I'd like to change it up this time (the last two were boys would be nice for something different for a change).  If you find out at the birth there's not much of a chance for disappointment because baby is there LOL.

Originally Posted by lilbsmama 

phatchchristy - I am so, so sorry! It sounds like what you just went through was horrific and I wish that on no one. Glad you are feeling better!

Thanks for the the thoughts...I admit I'm a little freaked out about it.  What I'm more concerned about is the possibility that I might have had a fever at one point.  I was getting chilled, covered myself in quilts at one point and then later woke up fully drenched in sweat.  Kind of wondered if I had a fever and then it broke while I slept.  I'm not thrilled with the fever idea...as I know that can potentially be harmful.  Sigh.  I woke up with more energy than usual this morning and that had me concerned.  Though I shortly after that was plagued with gagging into the sink (hadn't eaten yet so nothing to puke up at least).  I guess I shouldn't read into my symptoms that much.  But, I'm still in the middle of my 8th week only.  Feels like a long time until I get to hear a heartbeat or some other confirmation that this is *real*...

[darkblue0729]

Originally Posted by phatchristy 

I spent a few days away with the family.  Strangely was fine when I was gone, but got back and then I got hit with a massive case of sinusitis.  A sinus headache that came and went.  My usual high level of nausea flew into massive puking.  So much puking I scared DH.  2 1/2 days of puking so badly that I was stuck there gagging for minutes at a time at the end.  Couldn't hold down water even.  I was starting to get worried about dehydration...but, after some sinus rinses and as much rest as I could muster I now feel so much better.  No puking today!  Woo hoo!  Still the nausea, but I think that headache really sent me over the edge and I couldn't control the nausea.  Hoping this lasts.  That puking hurt!

eeep Sorry I missed this post mama! I am glad you seem to be on the mend. So sorry you aren't feeling well

[themothership]

We found out the sex with DD and shared it with everyone. This time we plan to find out the sex, but keep it to our selves because I want to have a part of my pregnancy be "just for us".

[travelmumma]

Zebrachick and Dark Blue- Thank you for that. Its comforting to know that others have done this and can do this 

I chatted to DH last night and he is on board with not finding out, so there we go! It actually feels good to have made a decision! Now we don't have to hum and har over it!

But we do have to try and find gender neutral clothes GROAN. It seems like shops only sell pink or blue here.

Nausea hit big time this morning...  I don't think i have ever been that sick before.... Breathing through it.. Breathing through it,(Good practise for labour)

Edited by travelmumma - 5/23/12 at 11:47pm

[travelmumma]

Oh also was thinking something like this for announcing pregnancy on Facebook

"Yes, I am pregnant! Now to answer some questions. Christmas. Salty eggs and iced buns. Yes. Not finding out. Yes"

What do you think? .... Should also tag DH in it to i suppose hehe

[esp831]

Travelmumma-I love your idea for the FB announcement, it's perfect!  I thought about doing one too, now I'm inspired to come up with something creative.

I am not a sexual abuse survivor (although I've had some painful experience with emotional/physical) but it is so nice to see you all reaching out and finding each other.  I'm sure this is a crucial time to have support.

Wondering if any other mamas have low vit d (I'll bet the other Seattle mamas do ).  I understand how important it is to have adequate d intake.  Does anyone else use supplements?  If so, what brand?  I'm sure I could get a good recommendation at school, but I'd rather hear from a pregnant lady.

We for sure will find out the sex of the bubba.  I'm way too much of a planner not to, but also my DH is just dying to know.  He wants to do the whole frosting color cake surprise sha-bang.  It means so much to him that I just can't bring myself to rob him of that.  What doesn't matter, is whether it turns out to be a boy or a girl, it just matters when we find out.  Seems a bit silly, but such is life.  I admire those of you that can hold out until birth.  I'm just excited to get some cake.