Hi Mamas. I just kind of need a place to vent I guess.
Lately I have been getting comments from people about how I dress my 12 month old son. The comments are basically that I dress him too much "like a girl."
One person even went so far, today, to tell me that one day my son might look back on pictures and be embarrassed.
DS doesn't wear anything ruffled or with lace. He doesn't wear clothes that say things like "Daddy's little girl." But does he have a pink onesie? Yes. It's unisex, and it has an elephant on it. When I show it to him he giggles and says "ell-eeeee."
He also has a pair of light purple pants with fireflies on them that I sewed for him before he was born (and before we knew whether it was a boy or girl). He also has a sunhat that I made that's multicolored polka dots. It was the sunhat that got the "he might be embarrassed later" comment.
I don't understand this at all. My son is not aware of social constructs of gender. He doesn't know pink means female and blue means male. I dress him in what's cute and what we buy from consignment shops and the goodwill store. I think he looks adorable no matter what he wears. I don't know, maybe if I dressed him in taffeta dresses it would be one thing. But a sunhat? Are you kidding me?
I asked this person just what I was supposed to put him in, and his response was "A Brewers hat. That way you can start him on his path to be an all-star." UGGGHGHHHH. Yes, that's right. Because boys are sports heroes. All of them. Duh.
So I just said, "While I'm at it, why don't I get him a hat with penises and scrotums all over it so he can know for sure and everyone else can know for sure that he's ALL MAN." The response was "I'm not being sexist, I'm just saying he'll be embarrassed whne he's older." Whatever. I just said "That's sexist garbage and it's about your hangups, not my son's."
Do any of the rest of you deal with this nonsense? You dress your girl too male or you dress your boy too female?
BTW, here's a picture of the offending hat.