Just thought this was interesting and need to vent (DH is NOT all onboard with the no vax decision, so I choose my words with him about it) ...
I have a friend whose first baby is 2 months older than mine. Her MIL is a labor and delivery nurse who just believes in every type of medicine under the sun. Her husband dutifully listens to his mom about the importance of vax, etc. My friend, who was totally against getting a flu shot while pregnant, was convinced into the flu shot by her. They, of course, have chosen to vaccinate.
My friend knows my thoughts and also knows that my DH and I were divided on the issue. The other day, in front of both our DHs and the kids, asked if Max got his shots at 2 months .... she asked with good intent: her baby was a mess after their first doses at 2 months and had advice about when to give tylenol, etc. I hesitated to answer because I didn't know how ... should i tell them the truth? I like her, talk alot with her, and want our kids to grow up close to one another. But, people can be so alienating if they are on the other side of the fence. So -- i hesitated and eventually did say simply that he did not get shots at his 2 month appt -- I didn't explain that I told the doc we'd delay for a year, but that i intend to never vax, etc ... I just kept it simple.
Today she and I were going back and forth in texts and I apologized fo the awkward position i put her in when answering her question that day (she's a live and let live kind of gal) ... she replied saying it was no problem and that THEY HAD ASKED THEIR PEDIATRICIAN ABOUT HER DAUGHTER (VAXXED) BEING AROUND MY UNVAXXED SON and the doc said it was no problem.
Um .... DUH!
I was put off by this -- not sure why ... I expect to just be cast off, really. But i said back to her -- if vaccines do what they think and expect, then the vax kids wouldn't be affected by the no vax kids, but the other way around! I guess as a proud mama and someone who feels stronlgy that her decisions are THE BEST decisions (hahahaha!), I was offended that she could think my son could harm her daughter. So silly, I know. But it's bugging me.
I want to highlight for her how max can do everything that emma can do and he's 2 months younger than she is. I want to highlight the fact that he hasn't had so much as a sniffle since he was born and emmas been sick with 3 colds already. I want the world to believe what I believe about vaccines. :( Meanwhile, I feel like I need to hide from and lie about this parenting decisions, even though it isn't any of the public's business anyway as far as I'm concerned.
This definately puts us in such a social pickle. :/