DD11 has started being excessively anal lately. She used to just pile her shoes by the front door and never put anything away, but lately, she's become obsessed with things being "neat" (i.e., not actually clean or anything, just organized how she likes it). For example, she will announce that she has "cleaned" her bathroom, but there's still toothpaste all over the sink and poop smears in the toilet. Yes, everything on the counter is organized, but it's still a C+ in cleanliness overall. So, she is definitely NOT obsessive-compulsive at all, she doesn't have to "check" things or wash her hands (I always have to remind her), it's not OCD. I looked it up and found Obsessive Compulsive Personality Disorder, though, and it seems like her. It says, however, that it's either genetic (no one on either side of the family is like this) or caused by trauma (she has never suffered any trauma of any kind) so I'm left wondering how this developed/is this just a "stage". DP and I talked about it and we both had periods of OCD behavior around the same age as DD. DP's was manifested by having to kiss all of her 50+ stuffed animals good night every night, taking exactly 7 sips of water from the water fountain, etc. Mine was more of a "no stepping on cracks"/only taking two steps in this square, then one in the next on the sidewalk, repeat/repetitive counting, etc. situation. It lasted only a couple of years for both of us and neither of us have any OCD tendencies as adults (well, I wash my hands a lot, but that's just because I worked in food service for years and am careful about cross contamination).
This just started maybe 3 months ago. But it's getting seriously out of hand. I leave a pair of sandals by the door to take out the trash/feed the animals/etc that I use every day, but every time they're out, DD puts them in my room (throws them on my floor, not put away, mind you), even though I've told her not to. She will also come home and say things like "Ugh this house is DISGUSTING" because there are two rinsed dishes in the sink and a stack of mail on the counter. Not disgusting by any normal person's standards. We keep our house clean, DP teaches piano lessons here so we clean almost every day, the kitchen is cleaned every day. Nothing is ever dirty enough to complain about. She also likes to stack things up so they look "neat", regardless of the fact that one stack was older DD's school application, other stack was guitar tabs, and the other bills. They were actually organized, but she had to go and stack them all together for some reason. We tell her every day to stop doing this, that we need to know where things are, but she doesn't listen. I even found her this morning "putting my keys away" in a random place when we were literally leaving in 5 minutes, and she put them someplace I would never think to look for them, i.e., not "where they go" so we're having a LOT of issues with her over this.
Did any of you have kids 10-12 who went through this phase? I feel like it's not that uncommon but it's starting to get out of hand so I'd be willing to take her to therapy to nip it in the bud if it's not :(