Our son just turned three and we just started potty training in earnest a couple of weeks ago.
He showed an initial interest in potty training when he was 2 and even used his potty at the time to copy mommy and daddy. I thought I would let things progress naturally and didn't push it (first time mom mistake I guess). Well, he lost interest, even as I tried to keep it up, and here we are a year later and focusing on potty training before he starts preschool in the fall. I had also read that summer is a great time to potty train since they can run around in their diaper or underpants, so I held off all winter thinking that was a good idea (more time lost...)
It has been two weeks of really trying and I am getting very frustrated. At his 3 yr ped appt, his dr suggested setting a timer to go off every 60 min and give him a treat if he goes in the potty. Well, that worked for a couple of days and things seemed to be going well, but the novelty of treats is wearing off and he is regressing. Also, he has refused to poop in his potty and hides until it's too late for me to get him there. He just says he doesn't want to poop in the potty. I have tried bribing him with stickers, cookies, and even ice cream. No dice. He does not have regular bowel habits, so I cannot time them either.
Also, when he pees in his diaper, he then says he has to pee in his potty, which he does a tiny bit, earning him his "treat". I have tried saying that he does not get a treat when he does not pee or poop in his potty, but he just says "Oh well" if he doesn't get it. No fuss, no whining, nothing.
When the timer goes off, I ask him to use the potty and he says he doesn't have to go. I wait another 10 min, then another 10 min, etc and keep asking and he is emphatic about the fact that he doesn't have to pee at that timeand he just sits there . At some point in between, he will then tell me he already went in his diaper. Grrrrr. I tried putting him in his new "big boy underpants", 15 min after he peed in the potty. Well, he peed in his underpants, while sitting on our wool carpet, soaking the carpet, his underwear and pants in pee. It was dripping down his leg. I am NOT going to have him pee all over the house and furniture, so that experiment is over! He does not care if he wets the characters depicted on his underpants, which is a tip I have heard from a few parents.
I also have a Potty Elmo doll with his own potty and that doesn't help the process. I've read books, googled, etc.
I am ready to throw in the towel and just let him be a 4 or 5 year old in diapers.
I have tried being laid back about it, as one book suggested, and asking him why he didn't use his potty, etc as an alternative and nothing is working.
I am so frustrated and am getting frustrated with him, which I have read is not a good thing.