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[nhklh]

I'll have me (of course), my partner, birthworker, and a dear friend who'll doula for me.  Not sure what to do with the kids though, depending on time of day, length of labour, whether they're awake/asleep/happy/not.  I have a couple of lovely friends who could come and pick them up and take them away.  DS1 wants to be here, and I think he's be fine to be here (he's 8), and he's able to be pretty self-sufficient when needed, but DS2 will only be 4.  I can't think of anyone I'd like to have here for them (my "take them away" friends have their own kids too, I don't want extra kids here).  Will probably be best to play it by ear, and have the option for them to go elsewhere.  

[heyitskalista]

My husband and kids will be there.  The kids were never at births before but this time I really feel like I want them there.  I think we will have a friend on stand by in case things get hectic or if they're uncomfortable being there. 

And my wonderful midwife!  Ideally, that'll be it!
 

[Mother Rising]

It will likely be me, my husband, my midwife, her birth assistant, my doula and one other person to help out with my three year old son.  It seems like a lot for our small house but each of these people will have a specific role to play in the process.  If someone was there and had no purpose, I wouldn't want them there!

[cocobean]

A doula is a great person to fill that roll. I'm a little biased as I am a doula but I really wish I would have gotten one for my first birth.  If money is an issue I'm sure you could find someone who is working for a discount or willing to work for free.  Meet with a few doulas in your area and see who you click with.  I promise you will not be sorry!

[phatchristy]

Due to the timing of this it's fairly likely the kids will all be here, my mom, DH, midwife (obviously).  Possibly an assistant.  I don't know *if* mom will actually be witnessing the birth out of the three she's been in the house for she's actually only seen one being born.  With older kids she's basically wound up watching them mainly and keeping them occupied.  It's possible that my girls, being that they're older are going to want to see more.  My oldest son, is momma's boy...he might be upset by seeing me in pain.  Though if it's like my last labor shouldn't be that bad.

[nhklh]

Sometimes you can also find student doulas who will attend you cheaply or free in order to satisfy their course requirements.  

[travelmumma]

 YAY! Just had to share! I wheedled my way in with the ONLY doctor in town that supports home birth! And its all thanks to the receptionist!! (She basically cried on my behalf until he would take me even tho he wasn't taking new patients)

I am thinking of taking her chocolates tomorrow as a thank you haha

[segolilymama]

Travelmumma: chocolates, flowers, diamonds... very exciting news, and definitely THANK that receptionist!!!!

[Anyitara]

Diamonds certainly wouldn't be inappropriate - excellent news!
 

[madis81]

If I actually get my homebirth (paying for a homebirth and minivan may be too much), it will just be me, my DH, the midwife, her assistant, and maybe my 4-year-old. My DD2 wants to be there and I think, judging by her personality and her desire to learn about all things gross, that she will be fine being there. The midwife has a special class for younger siblings to help prepare them as well. My DD1 has expressed her desire to be elsewhere, and my DS is just too young.

[jess_paez]

just my husband and i....hopefully :)

[lovemyzoo]

With luck, DH me and the kids. I can't get a home birth midwife where I live and no doula will do a UC which I don't blame them for. I don't live near family and none would be well with a uc anyway. If not it will be with luck me and DH at the hospital or like a few of the others and just me and the baby at the hospital.