I am due in late september (and THRILLED about it) with my first born little boy. I'm a bit frustrated about the whole surname issue... My last name is O'Neill and it has been absolute hell going through life with this name. Everyone misspells it and banks sometimes don't recognise you because in their systems it's "O/Neill" or "O Neill" or even just "Oneill". Even in my college years, I was almost dropped out of school because of that rediculous apostrophe. I also had a very rough childhood filled with abuse and don't associate with the O'Neill side of my family anymore at all.
The baby's father's name is super nice and simple. It's Chen. However, he just left me high and dry on the streets of NYC after I wouldn't accept his "solution" to our stresses: late term abortion. He and I had been together for quite some time and we very very close before this horrible situation happened. I am absolutely hurt by him and I can realistically say that I doubt he will come back to be with my son and I (aside from sending a few checks a month).
So, now I am left with the problem of not having a surname for my son. I feel a bit silly about this all, but it does seem important as he will be keeping this surname for his whole life (I wouldn't be as stressed if it were a girl, who would change her surname halfway through her life).
I would be willing to start a new surname with him, but it all seems rather fast... choosing a new name for the rest of our lives in the four months before he's born...
Any suggestions for what we should do?