We are a bf, co-sleeping family. My 11 mo. old has fought going to sleep tooth and nail since about 4 months. I spend 1/2 - 6 hours on my own putting her to sleep each night and I am beginning to crack.
Background: we had a 2 month window between newborn - 4 months of a blissfully easy routine - swaddle, nurse, zzzz, then it didn't work anymore. For the past 7 months getting her to sleep has been HELL. She pretty much only nurses to sleep (she'll fall asleep in the ergo/car/stroller about 1 out of every 4 x or if very tired, but transitioning her to bed doesn't work anymore at all). If I try and stop nursing when she's sleepy she just sits up and crawls around. I was losing my s&*t for the 1000th time recently and decided we would have DP put her to sleep. So I nursed her down, then left for 20 minute intervals while he cuddled her in bed. The first 2 nights it worked & I was elated. It's been downhill since then (10 days since starting). She now screams bloody murder if he goes in the bedroom with him, and it feels way too much like CIO for my liking. Her night wakings, which peaked when she was 6 mo. at every hour, but had since been decreasing to about every 3 hours, have gone back up to every 1-2 hours since we traumatized her with this sleeping plan. She has also been resistant even nursing to sleep the last couple of days. I'm afraid we've made her scared of sleep.
Also she is a very sporadic/undpredictable napper.
I would LOVE for her to go to sleep in under 1/2 hour with me OR DP, and only wake a few times at night to be nursed back down. Too much to ask??
We have also considered a separate bed for her but haven't been able to figure out how that would work.
Any help is greatly appreciated!