Just a quick drive by -
Teresa - I tested before my beta this time around, at 10dp3dt. It was a pretty light line at the time and took some time to get darker, even though my beta numbers were great. I didn't test with my first IVF and that one failed, and it was HORRIBLE to find out at work and then try to get out of there after the ugly cry in my office.
deport - I am so so sorry that you are going through this. As someone mentioned (sorry, don't remember who) I almost lost my marriage over IF back in 2008. DH and I ended up separating for a year because of it, and it was a horrible time in my life. I wrote a post on the ONE thread maybe a month or two ago with some suggestions on how to try to keep it together, but as others have said - take some time for yourself, but also take some time with DH that doesn't include anything IF or TTC related. Communicate. That is the number 1 thing, because if you don't, and you are already feeling like it's a horrible situation, then it WILL ruin your marriage. I don't want that for you, it was so bad for me and I don't want to see you deal with that as well. Counseling would help a lot as it will let you communicate in a forum that has a neutral bystander that can help. Whatever you do, I caution you to do it soon, because once the spiral happens, it happens fast, and painful. That's why DH and I went through counseling while going through IVF this time around, we wanted to make sure that it didn't happen again, that we were able to keep the lines of communication open. We have worked on this since reconciling, and I will tell you that we have gotten much better, but in those sessions we found ourselves able to discuss some things that I don't even think we realized were bothering us. Please take care of yourself and know that I am sending you lots and lots of hugs and good vibes.
Hi to everyone else, now I go back to stalking!!!