Lilac: Thanks "down regging" is me being short for down regulation when you take drugs to switch off your own hormones before starting stimulation. I can't say more as I've not done that protocol.
Aura: Oh my word! Hope your OK now. Glad dh is coming home and looking forward to your scan. Hoping your full of eggs!
rcr: thats sounds like a good plan, this cycle was so much more hopeful than the other. You have my sympath though wiating till dec I hate waiting.
Blue: that sounds like a lovely weekend for you guys.
For all of you that have taken time to listen to my money worries:
Blue I'm still going ahead with the cycle it's money for after I'm sucsseful I'm fretting about (I know I'm worrying about things that might not even happen but thats how I am).
Bascially the goverment currently run a scheme of tax credits which top you up if you have kids and a low income with no expectation that you work (only by a small amount)
It also gave you more if you worked and would cover a large protion of your child care.
I get a widows pension which covers my food and bills. If the potetial baby and I wanted to be clothed, ride the bus, change nappies, use toitlires etc I'll need more money (the tax credits without working would have covered it to live frugaly or I could have had child care covered and worked)
Being a frugal sort of person I've been saving a lot and inherited some money.
From next year if you have savings you can't get any help. So if I went back to work I would be literaly earning next to nothing untill my saving were used up which I think would be too heart breaking. So rcr I'm kind of stuck either way.
Aura: the change doesn't start till oct 2013 so I could get something if this cycle works but of course that will add to the downer if it doesn't.
Also if your kid is over five you need to prove your trying to work so will make home schooling a lot more difficult.
Right now my best option looks to try and reduce my saving as much as possible (donnor eggs ivf anyone?) and quit my job after the potential baby is born at least untill my saving are low. How dumb is that the scheme is suppost to get you into work! So I'm trying to turn my frugal midset around and think how I can use up my savings instead! Not really sure how encoraging this mind set is going to get our country out of recssion!