Summer IVF Thread: Summer Embies Bring Spring Babies!! - Page 29

[Silverbird]

Lilac: Thanks "down regging" is me being short for down regulation when you take drugs to switch off your own hormones before starting stimulation.  I can't say more as I've not done that protocol.

Aura: Oh my word! Hope your OK now.  Glad dh is coming home and looking forward to your scan.  Hoping your full of eggs!

rcr: thats sounds like a good plan, this cycle was so much more hopeful than the other.  You have my sympath though wiating till dec I hate waiting.

Blue: that sounds like a lovely weekend for you guys.

For all of you that have taken time to listen to my money worries:

Blue   I'm still going ahead with the cycle it's money for after I'm sucsseful I'm fretting about (I know I'm worrying about things that might not even happen but thats how I am).

Bascially the goverment currently run a scheme of tax credits which top you up if you have kids and a low income with no expectation that you work (only by a small amount)

It also gave you more if you worked and would cover a large protion of your child care.

I get a widows pension which covers my food and bills.  If the potetial baby and I wanted to be clothed, ride the bus, change nappies, use toitlires etc I'll need more money (the tax credits without working would have covered it to live frugaly or I could have had child care covered and worked)

Being a frugal sort of person I've been saving a lot and inherited some money.

From next year if you have savings you can't get any help.  So if I went back to work I would be literaly earning next to nothing untill my saving were used up which I think would be too heart breaking.  So rcr I'm kind of stuck either way.

Aura: the change doesn't start till oct 2013 so I could get something if this cycle works but of course that will add to the downer if it doesn't.

Also if your kid is over five you need to prove your trying to work so will make home schooling a lot more difficult.

Right now my best option looks to try and reduce my saving as much as possible (donnor eggs ivf anyone?) and quit my job after the potential baby is born at least untill my saving are low.  How dumb is that the scheme is suppost to get you into work! So I'm trying to turn my frugal midset around and think how I can use up my savings instead! Not really sure how encoraging this mind set is going to get our country out of recssion!

[Vegan Princess]

Silver: Could you buy property? That way your money isn't liquid but you could always sell it later and get the money? Or do they count assets against you too? I'm sorry - that totally blows!! I guess the good ol' USA isn't the only place that is screwed up.

Cindy

[auraleigh]

Hi ladies! Dr T counted 16 follicles so far. 10 on my left and 6 on my right. The smallest he measured was 9, the largest at 14, but most were between 10-12. It's not quite as many as I usually make, but I hope the quality is better. I go back on Wednesday, but I will get a call later if anything needs to change with my dose. It feels a lot more real now, and explains the bloat!

[deborahbgkelly]

Aura- That sounds quite promising! I only had 5 eggs total from my protocol last year, only took 2 out, and got pregnant with the boys.

[Silverbird]

Cindy: Unfortunatly any property you don't live in counts or I surley would! I'm sureoiusly thinking of a loft conversion, solar pannesl and/or a car.  Any other possessions that would resell well? Would have to be something that wasn't being obioulsy done to run down my capital but everyone know you can't have a baby without a nursery and a car right! And an extra room would increase my earning potentail for a lodger, foster child, home bussiness etc.  I've gone from imaging just buying a car seat, thrift shop baby grows and cloth nappies to thinking of kiting them out in baby boden and silvercross prams that cost a bomb but have resale value.

Aura: good number of follies.  Glad everything's going well.  Did dh get home OK and go to the appoinmnet with you? Hope the bloating feels better.

[hope4light]

Teresa - I agree with everyone else, 5% is still 5%.  He's already proven to be a fighter, so I'm hoping he keeps it up!  I keep you in my t&p.

Aura - sounds like a great scan, here's to hoping the quality is good!!

Silver - I'm sorry, that all sounds so sucky.  I wish things wouldn't have changed for you.

[rcr]

Silver - I am kinda in the same boat with my mom. She has a bit of money, so she doesn't quality for government assistance for her medical care (she is in a nursing home). Most people in our situation put all their money in their kids names years ago so the government pay for them. There is a 7-year lookback for assitence, so it is too late to do that now. so we pay $10,000 a month on her medical care because she was responsible and saved money (which she wanted her kids to get eventually).

Aura - that is great news!!

Teresa - I hope you are ok. Thinking of you.

Blue - we are driving up I-75, and stopping in Dayton. I may try to go to Cleveland to see an old college friend.

[auraleigh]

Rcr and Silver,  it's ludicrous that you are penalized for having savings.  I remember applying for colleges and not getting a lot of financial aide because my parents made too much, even though they didn't make enough to pay for college.  It's a Catch 22.  I hope things resolve themselves in a suitable way. 

Afm, DH is home and we're lounging on the couch watching Breaking Bad.  My dose is the same for the next two days, so I took my shots and cipro and am trying not to think too much about it.  

[Vegan Princess]

Silver: That was my other thought - could you transfer the money to someone else somehow? 

RCR: Wow, that sucks! 10k is a lot! Did you say your mother has alzheimers? My FIL is in assisted living now and his dementia is getting pretty bad so they will probably have to upgrade his care soon. Thankfully he has plenty of money to pay for it though. But yeah, money I'm sure he would much rather go to his kids.

Aura: I LOVE breaking bad! We are a season behind though so we need to get to watching it asap on netflix or amazon so we can try and catch up on on demand.

Cindy

[Silverbird]

Aw thanks for listing to my woes everyone! Cindy I can't really give the money to anyone else as if you do that delibratly to qualify they count that you still have it.  I was thinking that I could just buy a more expensive house and down size if I needed the cash back.  At the moment I'm pretty emotionaly attached to this house as lived here with dh but if I get to having a toddler, my housemate and me in a 2 bedhouse an upgrade might look good! Cindy and rcr I'm sorry to hear that house your mum and fil it's so unfrair.

aura: glad your short are going well, you must be getting near to ec right?

rcr: enjoy your road trip!

Hi everyone else

AFM: come on af I want to get started and get on hol!

[auraleigh]

Cindy, I can't wait for you to catch up!!! Last season was INSANE, especially the very end.  We bulk watched all the prior season on netflix/zune, so it's a rude awakening to watch on live tv and have to wait an entire week for a new episode.  My nerves can't take it.  

Silver, it's always the case that AF never comes when you want it to.  How is the weather? I hear it's the rainiest summer in ages, that can't be fun.  We're on our fourth heat wave of the summer, so I'm not sure what's worse.  And for some reason the heat wave always comes when I have dr appointments in the city! 

Afm, dinner with friends tonight and then home for shots and all that fun.  My monitoring appt is tomorrow at 10am, so my mom is going to drive into the city with me, hang out in the car so we won't have to pay for parking, we'll meet up with my sister, and then drive back to NJ so I can work for half a day.  I'm sure it will be a blast.  My bosses are great, and my coworkers are picking up my slack, but the days seem endless to me.  I'm not sleeping very well because I'm a stomach sleeper, and with the egg bloat it's uncomfortable.  I tried last night to prop myself up with pillows and sleep on my back, but it was not a great idea.  Today I'm just exhausted and will have to try something different tonight.  Anyone else find a good way to change sleep positions?  I know if I get pregnant I'll have to adjust eventually...

[Vegan Princess]

Aura: My faux tummy sleeping position while prego is to put a thick pillow next to me and put my top leg on it and then sort of roll to my tummy - i feel like it takes a lot of the pressure off of just laying on my tummy. Doesn't really work for me anymore bc if I roll to far, baby gets mad and starts squirming. But it worked for a while! Now I am super excited to watch breaking bad! DH and I meant to watch a bunch in time for the season that just started but it didn't happen - so now I'm not sure we sure do a marathon and try and catch up. We used to only watch our shows on netflix but about 6 mos ago we got expanded cable and on demand so now we've been watching more "live" - and watching commerical totally blows!! Unless it's HBO, we have more fun waiting a day and then watching on on demand so we can skip the commercials!

Cindy

[rcr]

Aura - I am drinking a glass of wine for you tonight since you can't ;) I did the same thing as Vegan when I was pregnant with DS.

Silver - they have a 7 year look-back in the US, meaning that if you give the money away they will find out if it was less than 7 years ago. I think the idea of buying a big house is brilliant. You can always sell it if you need the money back.

Teresa- thinking of you. I hope everything is ok.
 

[auraleigh]

Rcr, please have another!  I'd kill for a drink right about now.  Just knowing that I can't have one makes me want it so much more.  

Thanks ladies for this new pillow idea! I am going to try it tonight.  I am just about ready to face plant into bed.  

My appt is tomorrow and I'll get another update, hopefully I can ask when they think trigger will be.  DH and I wanted to get IMAX tickets for the new batman movie this weekend, but I am reluctant to make any plans until we know more.  Babies first!  

[lilacvioletiris]

Aura, I hope you find out all sorts of good things at your appointment today.

Silver, I would buy a bigger house if the resale value is good.  Cars depreciate in value so unless you really "need" one, I wouldn't buy a car.

AFM, working on immigration paperwork for my DH has consumed my time.  I need to call my doctor and find out if BCP would be part of my protocol or not.  Waiting for a reimbursement from DH's work so we have the money to pay for IVF.  My sister just had another IUI and is hoping she gets pregnant (her DH has sperm motility issues). If she doesn't she will be IVF bound too.  I am the oldest, but she has been married 9 years and I have only been married 2.  I sort of feel like it is a race to give my mom grandbabies - but I think I need to kick that idea out of my head. - whenever I can get pregnant will be great!  Hopefully earlier rather than later but money is a deciding factor.

[auraleigh]

Hello ladies!  I'm up to 23 eggs.  They range in size... there are a couple at 18 but the majority are 10-14.  The dr said he wants me to come back Friday, because he wants to give all the rest of the eggs a chance to catch up.  I may wind up losing a few of the biggest ones, but that's fine.  I am guessing trigger is Friday, with retrieval on Sunday?  Dr T was really great, he said he thinks things are looking good, my lining is 10 and looking "beautiful".  He said he thinks I'll be surprised at what makes it to day 5, and I hope he's right!

Lilac, sorry you're in paperwork hell.  Don't worry about being in a race, although I can totally see how it's easy to get competitive about it.  Hopefully it will happen soon for you!

[Silverbird]

Just a quick update as should be sleeping! AF showed up for perfect timing for my trip.  Start drugs tommrow.  Scan on wednessday and egg collection on 30th! Won't be about to update much as off camping on sat and work cancelled the time off I had to pack! But I know your all thinking of me and I'm thinking of you, espically you aura your so close now!

Silverbird

[BellyBean]

  Sorry I have been MIA for a while, but I had a few minutes and thought I would jump on quickly.  I haven't had the time to get totally caught up on the thread, so please excuse any errors or missed things...

rcr, I am so sorry the last cycle was a BFN   It's so unfair.  It sounds like you are planning on doing another cycle with SIRM in december (in vegas?).  I look forward to following you again then, and will be anxiously awaiting your BFP!  It sounds like the cycle was much better than past ones, so I am still very hopeful! 

silver, yay for being so close and AF cooperating!  I am sorry you have to worry about all the money issues, but I do like the idea of a bigger house :)  I really hope this is your cycle!

Aura, sounds like everything is going so well for you too!  You completely deserve a BFP, and I'll be praying this is your cycle!!!!  I have everything crossed for you my friend!!!

Teresa, I haven't made it far enough back to get the whole story, but I will be thinking positive thoughts for you and your bean.

Blue, always thinking about you my friend! 

Deborah, thinking about you too!

Laggie, you still around?  Hope all is well with you.

Wishing everyone else the best too!! 

[deborahbgkelly]

Thanks Belly. I wrote on TTCAL forum about what today's signficance is. I don't want to keep writing things out.

[Nese1972]

I go back to get scanned and bloodwork this morning.  On Monday eve they upped by Bravelle and Menopur.  I hope I am still on track for trigger on Sunday!  I'm starting to get nervous that I'm not responding good enough.  The nurse called me while I was driving home on Monday so I couldn't write down my follicle count or anything and because I was trying to remember how much to up each med I couldn't remember the follicle count :(.  I'm writing the report all down this afternoon so I can truly look at the numbers and see how I am doing compared to my last cycles.