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The "I worked hard" narrative

post #1 of 3
Thread Starter 

I saw a post on facebook today from the Feminist Breeder. It said that her cousin had just had a baby, and she wrote "she worked hard for a natural birth and she got it!"

 

I'm probably picking too much. But you know, I worked hard for that too. Damn hard. For nine months, then three days of labor. 

 

But I didn't get one.

 

Did I not work hard enough? Is hard work all it really takes? I just get so frustrated with this. It's just like the Horatio Alger myth. If you work hard enough, you can have anything. 

 

Really? Since when has that been true?

post #2 of 3

I can relate to that. The other day upon telling a neighbour that we ended up having a c-section she had the gaul to say 'Well that was easier for you then' Seriously!!! I worked damn hard and still ended up having to endure the most heart wrenching experience of my life.
 

post #3 of 3
Thread Starter 

what. What?!?! Easier? Are you serious??

 

That really burns me. Going through MAJOR surgery is not easy. Recovering from a cesarean is many many times harder than recovering from a vaginal birth. That is so dismissive and condescending and ignorant. How ridiculous.

 

You had an epic struggle, mama. I read your story in the other forum. Your birth was many things- easy is NOT one of them. 

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