I am at my wits end. I need help! I have lost all patience for my 6.5 year old daughter and her horrendous attitude. Its gotten to the point where I am embarrased by her actions in public and I don't enjoy spending time with her anymore.
We had such a great relationship when she was a baby/toddler, all the way up to this past year it seems. We were always very close and I felt like we had the perfect mother child relationship.
Lately it seems she is all attitude and rudeness. Defiant and disrespectful. She rarely listens and has the worste attitude! It seems like she's always complaining and pouting and saying disrespectful and rude things. Its gotten to the point where she is actually doing things (I think) to get her in trouble on purpose.
So for example, I pick her up from school and everyday she'll ask for things she knows she can't have (like McDonalds ice cream, slurpee or a cupcake, etc). I have gotten her those things in the past occasionally as a special treat, but maybe like once a month since i try not to encourage so much sugar consumption. When I tell her not today, but we can get a snack as soon as we get home, she gets angry with me, pouts, yells at me, generally has a fit and won't talk to me about her day because she can't have the treat. Today I picked her up and she asked if I brought her water (which I have never actually done, we live 7 minutes from school) and I said no, but we could get some water and some lunch as soon as we get home. She was angry with me, and pouty the whole time grunting and complaining. I told her she should go inside, into her room and relax, and she could come out when her attitude was better. The other day, we walked past the house of someone my husband works with. They live close by, and we have gotten together socially on a couple of occasions. This family was having a garage sale, and the wife was out so we stopped by to say hello. My daughter saw balloons and wanted one for her and each of her sisters (2). I told her she could take one for her and her baby sister, but her older sister wouldn't really want a balloon and I didn't want to take all the ones from in front of this ladys house (it was next to th garage sale sign) but I thought it was really nice that she was thinking of her sister. She grabbed the balloon, elbowed me, yelled at me that she was taking it anyway and didn't care what I said, and turned her back to me pouting. Finally I took hold of the balloon, told her I was not taking it home and she needed to let go... she yelled FINE and threw the thing at me. The lady was clearly uncomfortable, and I am sure she told her husband who works with my husband, which makes my husband uncomfortable. Another example, we have these outdoor chairs and she kept jumping up and down on them, and they broke. We got new ones, and told her she could not jump or stand on them anymore she could sit on them. I walk outside and she's standing on the seat... my husband reminds her to please sit not stand. She sits, he goes in, and the second he does she stands on the chair again.
Anyway, I don't know why she is acting like this and I don't know how to stop it. Those are just examples of what happens multiple times a day every day. I want my pleasant little girl back :(